Have an Ex friend stabbed you in the back?

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I surely have and I am still kinda hurt.. I am trying to get over it. I don't understand why someone would use me and take advantage of me since I was so nice to her. I paid for her when we went out to eat and etc.. yet she went behind my back and stabbed me in the back. It hurts! I have been there for her when she needs me. Sigh.. I guess I am too nice! :mad: :(
 
yeah, she was compulsive liar, and she talked behind our other friends back to me, and mine to our other friends. I think she was jealous that me and katherine were friends since we were 7 and she just wanted to break our friendship or something .... so yeah she was kicked to curb
 
its seem everyone do talk their back, well don't feel bad. I'm sure u do the same.. no one is perfects here.
 
Yeah. That sucks, man.

I've been in the same shoes. In those situations, you know who your real friends are. :dunno: I think it's okay if a couple of friends want to confide in each other about a problem with another person.. if they want input or to express it. I think it's different if those two or one of friends have malicious or spiteful intentions in talking about someone who is supposed to be their friend. It's wrong to me to make friends take sides, even if I'm in the right. That's just drama.

I've been disappointed and hurt because a person I thought was a friend could not be honest with me.. but because of insecurity, she thinks she can vent her anger on me in indirect ways. That is very inappropriate and I won't let it seep into my life.

I am NOT a scrapegoat for others' problems, period. I hate drama and bullshit, but I love it if people are real to themselves with others. Acting on jealousy just creates more strife internally and externally, not solve the real thing. This has happened to me a few times, and each time.. these people just lose out. AND I lose out on real caramaraderie and getting to know them.

I find that a tragedy, because the whole thing could have been avoided if they were open with me in communications... at least we could have worked things out and had a real thing instead of something I can't bear to be around because of the toxicity towards myself. I won't accept it. I don't deserve it. Neither do you either, Felix. No one is worth that kind of time. Okay, so you know this person did a bad thing to you.. but in my experience, you can do nothing more than moving on and spending time on things you find positive and worthy of your energies. You just file it away in your mind that this person is not worth your time and trust because of her lack of integrity. Maybe she will change down the road, and be worthy of another chance.. who knows? Just be yourself.

I really, really respect people who don't act on their jealousy, b/c they are very courageous!! It is not called courage if there was no fear.

Just IMO :D You decide for yourself what is best in situations like this, and I thought I would share my experience and thoughts.
 
Oh I am sorry to hear that. As this moment I am going thru too. It is so hard on me but keeping my head above the water so I wont drown myself. This person have hurt me by lying about me behind my back. I have too much respect for lot of ppl. It is hard to know who your real friend are. But now I am having hard time to trust or make a friend. I have one good real friend that I can trust the most.

Keep your chin up and try to move on my friend. :hug:
 
yeah i know how its feel , have been there few times. surely dont like when people dose something like that as user or behide someone's back which not true ly friend as they just nothing big deal .. i remember long time ago when i was in 5th grade, my best friend was try lied to me , i got angery as hit her tummy and told her not lie to me as dont even try fool me , she learn her leason as dont even do that again as she know that she cant fool me. we still best friend for 14 years..if someone want to be my friend , i always make sure if that person is clean and friendly good person before be good friend.. i can easy dislike if person arent friendly or try to use as i would turn walk away as dont need someone like that problem or troblemaker. if you have someone been good friends for long time , best thing do is talk about it to work it out as like ask why you do that for ? its not very nice as tell her how you feel and think so that person would mgiht feel bad or quilty enogh realize you arent that fool person as she might not do that again ever. if she still kept do that often then she arent worty be friend , move on find new a friend .dont let someone get you upset or feel hurt cuz they will see its as weak as they will use tragert it though .. so you has be strong , good person and faith as let god take care the problems. i always beleiven that when god seen someone did hurt your feel or something then that person will learn leason someday when its will happen to person back by other someone or something bad luck.
 
I should have learned a lesson first time

I had a so called friend since I was 16. We lost rack of each other until 1990. We became friends again. I had two kids and so did she. I went to work and went back to school. While I was at work she was with my husband. I got divorced. Later she contacted me again. She is an Alcholic. I felt sorry for her. We bcame friends again. She hooked me up with my current boyfriend. Then when I lost my hearing last year, she would not talk to me anymore. She only called and talked to my boyfriend. On his birthday last year, I wanted to make him a nice dinner and relax. I did not buy hima birthday cake because he does not like cake. She went and bought a huge cake, enough for at least ten people and took it to his work. No one there ate any of it and he brought it home. I was really hurt. Then she called like ten minutes after he walked in the door. He will not tell somebody that he has to get off the phone. Not just her but anyone. So my dinner was ruined. I hardly got to talk to him before it was bedtime. Besides that she kept telling me what I should be eligible for SSDI. When I told her I was not eligible for this or that she said I was complaining. She acts like she knows everything. She does nothing all day. My boyfriend has been sick and I told him not to talk to her anymore so he will not pick up the phone when she calls. I think I finally got rid of her. sorry this is so long. I guess if you are anice person, you will get taken for granted. Aliboo
 
I am going through the same thing. My friend and i lost touch now nearly a year. She is a right bitch and she is always hurting me about my hubby. she doesn't get on with my hubby and she is trying to break up my marriage. We were so good to her. We took her out for a meal when she came to visit us. She even stayed at our house for the weekend. When she went back to her own home, she told her other friends about my hubby, the ways he treat me etc..She is a biggest liar i ever came across. I think she is jealous of me cos my hubby treat me right, she hate to see me happy and get everything i wants. We were so good to her, not anymore now. I have told her to get lost and said i didn't want to have any contact with her. So, we haven't been in touch almost a year, it great!! She was making me unhappy about my life etc...She was a rite BITCH!!!
 
Aw I know how you feel, it stinks to have friends like that, sometimes cyber-friends comes and go, but true friends don't, they stick around no matter how bad things gets...
 
FelixKat930 said:
I surely have and I am still kinda hurt.. I am trying to get over it. I don't understand why someone would use me and take advantage of me since I was so nice to her. I paid for her when we went out to eat and etc.. yet she went behind my back and stabbed me in the back. It hurts! I have been there for her when she needs me. Sigh.. I guess I am too nice! :mad: :(
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I am in exactly boat as you...I undy how u feel..
 
I have been there and for those type of people. The best solution is to cut them off and move on in a new positive direction.
 
Everyone are NOT alone...

Important "Let them go" useless.. if they contuine backstabbing you... Enjoy them being stab you back.. until they will realized that who r u really person.. not extact information as misguated(sp) againist you.. OppiSe.. Not your fault.. who their fault started.. their problem.. not you..

*smile*
 
GalaxyAngel said:
Everyone are NOT alone...

Important "Let them go" useless.. if they contuine backstabbing you... Enjoy them being stab you back.. until they will realized that who r u really person.. not extact information as misguated(sp) againist you.. OppiSe.. Not your fault.. who their fault started.. their problem.. not you..

*smile*
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Yupper I agreed :)
 
GalaxyAngel said:
Everyone are NOT alone...

Important "Let them go" useless.. if they contuine backstabbing you... Enjoy them being stab you back.. until they will realized that who r u really person.. not extact information as misguated(sp) againist you.. OppiSe.. Not your fault.. who their fault started.. their problem.. not you..

*smile*
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Good advice! You're right. If they want to know all facts, they know who to ask instead of assuming the worst. Wouldn't they be surprised it's not the same as knowing truth, huh? I don't need that shit either. :cheers:
 
GalaxyAngel said:
Everyone are NOT alone...

Important "Let them go" useless.. if they contuine backstabbing you... Enjoy them being stab you back.. until they will realized that who r u really person.. not extact information as misguated(sp) againist you.. OppiSe.. Not your fault.. who their fault started.. their problem.. not you..

*smile*
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yup! true i agree with u 200%
 
You're not alone it had been happened to me before and never again had been report to the police this person for good reasons ... that is why am glad for my real life best and good friends .. I thanks god for them ... :hug:
 
You are not the only one. That happened to me many times when I lived in Michigan but, I bet they still do that during I live in Washington State. That gives the hint that mean they aren't good friends, you are so don't worry about them, they will find out that they make miskates for lose you as a really good friend and they will apologize about that. :hug:
 
GalaxyAngel said:
Everyone are NOT alone...

Important "Let them go" useless.. if they contuine backstabbing you... Enjoy them being stab you back.. until they will realized that who r u really person.. not extact information as misguated(sp) againist you.. OppiSe.. Not your fault.. who their fault started.. their problem.. not you..

*smile*
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That is exactly what is happening here on AllDeaf about me and you guys make me out to be a bad person simply because I have different belief system than you do therefore it is your fault for not really listening to what I have to say. Another people are finally starting to realize I am not a bad guy as AllDeaf'ers make me out to be.
 
GalaxyAngel said:
Everyone are NOT alone...

Important "Let them go" useless.. if they contuine backstabbing you... Enjoy them being stab you back.. until they will realized that who r u really person.. not extact information as misguated(sp) againist you.. OppiSe.. Not your fault.. who their fault started.. their problem.. not you..

*smile*
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Right, I agree.

It has happened to me before. What can I do? Nothing, really. Yes, it does hurt me I would want to confront that person to let her/him know what other person/or other people said about me wasn't true at all but I knew it wouldn't work anyway because s/he choose to believe that person - took their "words" believing them instead of asking me if its true or not OR to get know me more before judging me or take their words. Why get all worked up over it if that person is being stubborn and chose to believe them that they don't even know me that well. I just basically let them go and hope one of these days that s/he will find out the whole truth... nothing but the truth about who I am that s/he told a lies about me to make me look bad. I'm really good person with good heart. But I do NOT take anyone's BS though, I'd stand up and speak out, ya know? I normally shut my mouth whenever people confide anything whether its personal or not. I don't open my mouth and blab to other people, I don't do that. It is not my type to do such a thing and mind my own business and other people don't need to know other people's lives anyway. I know what friendship means but it is sad to see other people "destory" other innocent people and hurts their reputations. They have nothing better to do and they are bored so they are just looking for trouble, nothing more. Truly sad, really.
 
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