grrr...stupid boys from band..

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Okay. I'll just start from the beginning.

I had a MEPA drumline championships at my school. And i had to be in the competition and work a shift at the competition. And so when i was done with my shift, I was getting ready for our turn of the competition, you know, getting dressed into your uniforms and getting your insurments all ready to go. Anyways,
When i was getting my uniform on, there was a guy in the room (which we call our lounge for just 2 days when we have a competition in my school) our "lounge" is the ASL room. Sometimes i like being in that room on competitions because its my favorite room. But on the other hand, the room has a ASL dialouge where a hearing person and a deaf person speaks and kind of makes the whole converstation dumb. And people were making fun of it and made me feel kind of bad.

but anyways, As i was getting my uniform on, a guy had febreeze in his hands, for our hygiene smells (to make us smell better after being all sweaty in the band..dont ask.) and he was spraying everybody with febreeze. and so, as i turned around. he was like: "hey you want febreeze? Too late!!" he sprayed in my face and on the side of my head where i had my COCHLEAR IMPLANT on.

I had it on and he sprayed it in that area where i had my hair pulled back on a pony tail, i didnt have anything protected it on. And I was soo mad. I was saying to him: "if you spray that on my face or on the side of my cochlear implant and if it breaks, you're going to have to pay so much money for that." he didn't care so he shrugged at me and walked away. And then, another guy, (not the same guy) liked my implant so much it was getting annoying. He liked the part where i can take off my implant and put it back on because of the magnet. And so, he knocked off my implant. And it hit the ground. And i was like "OH MY GOD!" and i prayed to the lord that it didn't break. thank god it didnt. But i was mad. Because everybody is all over my implant and i told them to be careful and they keep making me mad about it. I have explained to them so many times that i cannot get it wet, have static around me due to my implant, and that i had to be careful with it. But clearly they did NOT get the idea.

I have no idea what to do now. They're going to want to keep playing with my implant when it's a really expensive thing. I'm only 15 and a half. And i'm almost 16. and if they continue it i'm going to go to my director of the drumline. I already told my dad. And he knows that he's not going to screw around. I just hope this whole thing will be over.
 
These boys are really stupid and not careful on what they are doing :roll:
 
I think you should just go ahead and go to the director before they break it.
 
Bottesini said:
I think you should just go ahead and go to the director before they break it.
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I might, but I have gone to the director before about my leader section of the pit about the whole: "no deaf people allowed." thing. And how she was bullying me saying i owed her 5 bucks in a bet that i didnt agree to do. But about the no deaf people allowed thing?? well, I'll tell you, Her name is Emily. And shes the leader of the pit in the A-drumline. I'm the co-leader in case she's gone for the day. anyways, we were taking a break in rehersal and i went to sit down with my friends. and all the sudden; emily says: "hey! no deaf people allowed!!" and I was shocked about what she said. But then she laughed and said "i'm kidding." but i didn't think she was. So i just kind of ingored it but that was over the line for me. And i told my dad about it, he emailed my drumline director. and said he would take care of it. but after that happened. emily was so mad at me. I was afraid of her because I wouldn't know what she would do to me. like making me run laps (that happens often with people who aren't doing their best in the band) and I thought she would make me do that. And obvously, i'm just kind of fed up with it. because with hearing people not being respectful to people like us, makes me mad. So..i don't know
 
Tell her off "i ain't dumb, deaf people are smarter, so think again!"
 
JClarke said:
Tell her off "i ain't dumb, deaf people are smarter, so think again!"
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yeah i should've said that. but instead i was like: "screw you." and just sat down. she didnt seem to mind when i said that. I know its not polite but..i didn't care. and she was the one bullying me. I mean i had alot of people teasing me and just not caring that i'm deaf, i didnt seem to care anymore so i just said that.
 
I am not so sure if it would be a way for you to quit your drumlin and leave when they are on the "real" show so that it interrupts their activity or cause them to confused their line. You might want to ask your father about that. If it is not a good idea to screw them off, then just forget what I said. It is just my thought.
 
webexplorer said:
I am not so sure if it would be a way for you to quit your drumlin and leave when they are on the "real" show so that it interrupts their activity or cause them to confused their line. You might want to ask your father about that. If it is not a good idea to screw them off, then just forget what I said. It is just my thought.
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I don't really want to quit drumline or marching band. I love music. and being in the drumline makes me feel like i'm needed there and that i'm a part of something important. And i love to memorize music so i can play music. And being in the drumline and marching band lets me have more friends than what i had when i was in middle school and in elementary school. Well except for emily and the boys were were screwing with me. but there were people in the marching band and drumline who didn't care that i was deaf. And thats what i wanted. I wanted friends who didn't care who i was. Apart from being deaf. because i everyday i see in these posts here on AD saying that hearing people were judging us as being deaf. Not being respectful to us. And well, Sometimes i think we need to give them a second chance. To be better human beings other than juding a person for what they don't know about us.

I wrote this in my diary:: "I don't judge people based on what i hear from what other people. I'll see it myself if it's true. Judging on people without getting to know that person is dumb, and its mean. I mean, I've been judge without anyone getting to know me. They call me the deaf girl because i'm deaf. Well there's alot more about me being deaf right? I just don't see why people have to be like that." <-- that's what i wrote in my diary. And I think most of us here on AD needs to think about that too. I have tried to be nice to people and not judging people all the time. But with this happening. It's a pain.
 
coolgirlspyer90 said:
I don't really want to quit drumline or marching band. I love music. and being in the drumline makes me feel like i'm needed there and that i'm a part of something important. And i love to memorize music so i can play music. And being in the drumline and marching band lets me have more friends than what i had when i was in middle school and in elementary school. Well except for emily and the boys were were screwing with me. but there were people in the marching band and drumline who didn't care that i was deaf. And thats what i wanted. I wanted friends who didn't care who i was. Apart from being deaf. because i everyday i see in these posts here on AD saying that hearing people were judging us as being deaf. Not being respectful to us. And well, Sometimes i think we need to give them a second chance. To be better human beings other than juding a person for what they don't know about us.

I wrote this in my diary:: "I don't judge people based on what i hear from what other people. I'll see it myself if it's true. Judging on people without getting to know that person is dumb, and its mean. I mean, I've been judge without anyone getting to know me. They call me the deaf girl because i'm deaf. Well there's alot more about me being deaf right? I just don't see why people have to be like that." <-- that's what i wrote in my diary. And I think most of us here on AD needs to think about that too. I have tried to be nice to people and not judging people all the time. But with this happening. It's a pain.
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Okay, I understand it. It is obvious that they are immature. Maybe, a few of them might realized that how wrong they were. By the way, wish you a good luck!
 
Coolgirl,

Unfortunately, fifteen year olds can really be immature, ignorant, and cruel. That does not, however, excuse their behavior in regards to their treatment of you. This is not just an issue for your drumline, this is a school issue. Have you or your dad talked to the principal, guidance office, etc.? You are legally entitled to an educational experience that is free of discrimination and bullying. Perhaps your school needs to have some tolerance training for the students.

Other than that, keep your chin up high. And please don't allow their behavior to completely impact your feeling in regards to all of us hearies.
 
Reminds me of the days when I got picked on for being deaf. Go to the director and file a complaint against the school for not preotecting u against discrimination. U deserve to have a place to go without fear of being treated like this.
Good luck!
 
coolgirlspyer90 said:
I wrote this in my diary:: "I don't judge people based on what i hear from what other people. I'll see it myself if it's true. Judging on people without getting to know that person is dumb, and its mean. I mean, I've been judge without anyone getting to know me. They call me the deaf girl because i'm deaf. Well there's alot more about me being deaf right? I just don't see why people have to be like that." <-- that's what i wrote in my diary. And I think most of us here on AD needs to think about that too. I have tried to be nice to people and not judging people all the time. But with this happening. It's a pain.
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I have to say, in my opinion this shows great maturity!! I am so sorry that the other kids in your drumline are being unfair to you... I can't say "I know how that feels" for the same reason as I'm hearing but I've had problems like this before for different reasons when I danced in High School(YEARRRRS ago- I'm old now LOL) And it hurts~~ but I think you're showing a great deal of strength and maturity by the statement you made... I dont know if this will help you or not-- but to me, it sounds like "Emily" is a bit jealous and insecure... maybe she feels threatened that you are infact better at the drumline than she is, that you have lots of friend, etc... and in an effort to make herself feel better~~ she has to belittle you... it's STUPID I know, but that's how some bullies are...

Now for the part about the boys... Yeah-- boys that age can be stupid and they don't seem to understand limits or boundaries... that part is tougher--

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Small Advice, if they are being silly just shrug it off and walk away, Don't make scene or get into state which would feed their silliness more. I know CI costs alot of money, carry little tissue and if it happens again wipe them off if front of them without any words then put back on and smile at them or walk away. They'll soon get the message.

Learnt that when i was being bullied at school, teacher told me this... few weeks later the kids got bored.
 
Irresponsible jerks! You should ignore them as much as you can, if they don't stop, give them warning to report them! If they still don't stop, do as you said!!!!

I wouldn't let anybody treat me this way! Reason why I was always picked on at school but I never bothered!

Jamie
 
JamieLynn said:
Irresponsible jerks! You should ignore them as much as you can, if they don't stop, give them warning to report them! If they still don't stop, do as you said!!!!

I wouldn't let anybody treat me this way! Reason why I was always picked on at school but I never bothered!

Jamie
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yeahh i know. I'll have to do that sometimes. My dad was saying to me: "i'll have to go by to your practice times when you have drumline rehersal to see if any of the boys are joking around with your implant again." and mostly i'm glad for that and mostly i'm not because i don't want to embarress myself. But I am used to being teased on or being bullied. because since middle school, nobody wanted to be my friend. then until the 8th grade i thought i finally found friends. apparently not. Katie; who pretended to be my friend was telling me: "the whole middle school was behind your back because you're deaf, and that nobody wanted to be your friend and that was the reason why." and that totally made me felt awful. But then i realized that nobody was like that. and she was lying to me. and that hurt me so bad i stopped being her friend. because i can't take somone as a friend if they're going to treat me that way. but when i told my dad about this whole thing, he got mad really bad. and I was afraid that he was going to do something.
 
dorothy5664 said:
Coolgirl,

Unfortunately, fifteen year olds can really be immature, ignorant, and cruel. That does not, however, excuse their behavior in regards to their treatment of you. This is not just an issue for your drumline, this is a school issue. Have you or your dad talked to the principal, guidance office, etc.? You are legally entitled to an educational experience that is free of discrimination and bullying. Perhaps your school needs to have some tolerance training for the students.

Other than that, keep your chin up high. And please don't allow their behavior to completely impact your feeling in regards to all of us hearies.
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in the drumline and in the marching band, there's a mixture of kids with different ages. I'm in the A-drumline. The a-drumline is mostly for freshman who are getting more practice in the drumline for marching band or just wants to get more experience. And there's rarely any Juniors, sophmores, or seniors in the A-drumline. there's only 7 or 8 sophmores and 1 senior in the A-drumline pit. The world drumline is for kids that have more experience in the drumline and have great skills. And that is mixed with Juniors, sophmores, and seniors. There's only 4 freshmans in the world line. My pit director said i would've made world line, but he wanted me to be in the A-drumline so i can experience the Marimba. But there's only 3 sophomores boys who were joking around with me. Devon is a guy, he likes to see me take off my implant and put it back on because of the magnet. Jordan and DJ are like a pain in the butts, they're very rude to me. When emily isn't here to lead us as a leader section in the pit, i have to lead and they don't listen to me. just because I'm a freshman. But they listen to emily. its a pain. Emily is a sophmore too. so..idk
 
Try to talk to your dad first... you're a teenager after all just like the boys are. Before being totally bullied at (for your father to come to school), just give them a warning. The warning though has to come into effect if they start again (just like educating small kids :roll: ) but that's the only way you can get out of it with your head still on your shoulders, plus there is something to be proud of yourself!

You go girl!

Jamie
 
JamieLynn said:
Try to talk to your dad first... you're a teenager after all just like the boys are. Before being totally bullied at (for your father to come to school), just give them a warning. The warning though has to come into effect if they start again (just like educating small kids :roll: ) but that's the only way you can get out of it with your head still on your shoulders, plus there is something to be proud of yourself!

You go girl!

Jamie
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