Got introuble with phone yesterday

H.o.H_Angel said:
Yea, but that still doesn't mean they had the right to bang on my door like crazy, and to start yelling at me. They had a cell phone too, knowing I can't hear like them, you would think they would send a message to my email after the first few missed calls. They should have known I would see the email and responded intimidate because they knew I would be on my laptop and doing my homework.
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Tell them their failure to use common sense is not your fault.
 
Reba said:
Do you know about the CTAP program? You can get free telephone equipment and signalers from the state. That includes TTY, CapTel, flashing signalers, and Jitterbug cell phones.

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I didn't know anything about any of this stuff. Like I told you before, when my mom first found out when I was little, she didn't want to get me any help... This month I was admitted to Kaweah Delta for losing all hearing, I got the hearing back in my left ear, but when that happened to me it scared me, and it was so painful. All they did was scare me, and say nothing was wrong no infection or anything, and told me to do a follow up... I told my doctor what they did, and she said they were dumb, because I did have an infection forming, during the follow up they just gave me pain medicine, and amoxicilin for stopping the infection in my ear that was forming, and then they sent me home. I had to get reevaluated for my hearing. I know the results for my hearing test, cause they told me I failed it, when it was on high. I got a CTscan last week, and the doctor is going to give me the results this week.
 
H.o.H_Angel said:
I didn't know anything about any of this stuff. Like I told you before, when my mom first found out when I was little, she didn't want to get me any help... This month I was admitted to Kaweah Delta for losing all hearing, I got the hearing back in my left ear, but when that happened to me it scared me, and it was so painful. All they did was scare me, and say nothing was wrong no infection or anything, and told me to do a follow up... I told my doctor what they did, and she said they were dumb, because I did have an infection forming, during the follow up they just gave me pain medicine, and amoxicilin for stopping the infection in my ear that was forming, and then they sent me home. I had to get reevaluated for my hearing. I know the results for my hearing test, cause they told me I failed it, when it was on high. I got a CTscan last week, and the doctor is going to give me the results this week.
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I'm just curious, do your parents constantly tell you what to do? Can you give us any examples? The fact that you are 19 and that this happened to you, it tells me that your family has a tight grip on you.
 
Banjo said:
I'm just curious, do your parents constantly tell you what to do? Can you give us any examples? The fact that you are 19 and that this happened to you, it tells me that your family has a tight grip on you.
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It's Parent for me...my mom's fiance and me don't get along...I stopped talking to her for about a few months now, for a reason I don't want to discuss. I don't know anything about my father's side, I was not allowed to associate with them, my brother knows them cause he still keeps in touch...my brother and me don't talk for a different reason. It's been 2-3 years since we last talked. He's mad at me. I've only met my father a few times though...I've lived with my sister, and her family for years...and well lets see, we are to inform each other a day in advance if we are going somewhere, I can't stay out pass twelve which is fine with me cause I go to bed at 11...If they take off, when I'm not busy I watch the kids... I don't really go anywhere anyway, unless I need to because school takes up my whole schedule. Yea I've been told that about them before. Her family is the only family I have left... my sister is all I have left, besides my family; part of her family are the only ones that sort of know about my situation, but cause no one fully understands...I know they sometimes get frustrated when talking to me, and it makes me feel like crap, like an inconvenience, and not accepted.
 
Being HOH does NOT make people idiots , hearing people that get mad at us for not hearing a ringing phones are the idiots !
 
Angel, there's a big, wide wonderful world out there. I hope someday you can spread your wings and experience it. :hug:
 
Lots of things going on here. So it was your sister who was mad at you for not answering the phone, not your mom?

Basic rule of life: if you're living under someone else's roof, then it's their house, their rules. That said, this situation calls for a good sit-down and discussion. If your sister couldn't or didn't even explain why the anger - and why the need to call you so desperately - then it couldn't really have been all that important in the first place!

Anyway - you might want to tell them that you all need to discuss what you can and cannot reasonably be expected to do, and what methods of communication are the best. Maybe that means keeping your cell phone on vibrate and keeping it with you - as in, in your pocket or right in front of you - at all times. Or if they call and don't get an answer, then their next step should be send you a text or an e-mail.

Clarity land-line phones have both a flasher and a built-in amplifier. Getting something like that might be one solution.

If you're all going to live together harmoniously, you don't want your emotions getting the better of you when you're discussing it with them. Try to keep it to "Here is the problem. Let's see what we can jointly do to find some solutions." Try to avoid accusing them of being stupid or lacking common sense, just like you'd prefer they wouldn't accuse you of the same.
 
Beach girl said:
Lots of things going on here. So it was your sister who was mad at you for not answering the phone, not your mom?

Basic rule of life: if you're living under someone else's roof, then it's their house, their rules. That said, this situation calls for a good sit-down and discussion. If your sister couldn't or didn't even explain why the anger - and why the need to call you so desperately - then it couldn't really have been all that important in the first place!

Anyway - you might want to tell them that you all need to discuss what you can and cannot reasonably be expected to do, and what methods of communication are the best. Maybe that means keeping your cell phone on vibrate and keeping it with you - as in, in your pocket or right in front of you - at all times. Or if they call and don't get an answer, then their next step should be send you a text or an e-mail.

Clarity land-line phones have both a flasher and a built-in amplifier. Getting something like that might be one solution.

If you're all going to live together harmoniously, you don't want your emotions getting the better of you when you're discussing it with them. Try to keep it to "Here is the problem. Let's see what we can jointly do to find some solutions." Try to avoid accusing them of being stupid or lacking common sense, just like you'd prefer they wouldn't accuse you of the same.
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That's correct, I don't live with my mom. I live with my sister. I haven't lived with my mom in years, and I always follow the rules. I always clean up after myself. If I get money, I give part what ever I can to help with any bill that needs help on. I put in my share of groceries, and the phone was on vibrate on the dresser. I just didn't hear it. Next time I'll just leave the phone in front of me where ever I'm at, and yea as soon as I finish the rest of my homework...I am going to try to talk to them all tonight.
 
I'm glad that you joined AD so that you can learn about resources. Having deaf/hoh will help a lot. Online is good, but also try to meet some deaf/hoh in real life. Hanging out here is a good way to get comfortable and give you the confidence to go out there. Baby steps so that it's not overwhelming.
 
sallylou said:
I'm glad that you joined AD so that you can learn about resources. Having deaf/hoh will help a lot. Online is good, but also try to meet some deaf/hoh in real life. Hanging out here is a good way to get comfortable and give you the confidence to go out there. Baby steps so that it's not overwhelming.
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Thank you for the welcome, and I will try to get out there more. I know a couple deaf/ HoH people. We don't get to really talk much because they're a workaholics. I will try to meet more deaf/Hoh people though. I'm the type of person who can be outgoing,and participate,and fun and all that, but usually I just keep to myself unless I see a friend at school...other than that I just go to school and come straight home. Unless I need to go somewhere that I need to go to.I've just been too busy with school lately to get out much.
 
DeafCaroline said:
Speaking as a parent myself - worry usually manifests itself as anger.
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Yes, it does....hmmmm...so my guess is that the family were calling just to check on her, if she was OK...or something like that....I can undy the parents/families anger, even worry, that she did not answer the call. I believe that parents/family of deafies are moreso "worried" about them they they do hearing kids.
 
That's understandable. Focusing on your school work is good, too.

It sounds like you have a bossy, overprotective sister. She obviously cares about you and worries. Ya'll will work out all of these details.

It'll make you feel better to know that I accidently locked hubby out of the house and I couldn't hear him banging on the door. He wasn't angry because he wasn't worried about me. He's a good guy so I try not to lock him out again. :lol:
 
rockin'robin said:
Yes, it does....hmmmm...so my guess is that the family were calling just to check on her, if she was OK...or something like that....I can undy the parents/families anger, even worry, that she did not answer the call. I believe that parents/family of deafies are moreso "worried" about them they they do hearing kids.
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yea I suppose...but they still shouldn't have acted the way they did. They should've sent an email to me, after the first couple calls that were missed...next time I'm just gonna keep the phone either in front of me or next to me, so I can see it.
 
sallylou said:
That's understandable. Focusing on your school work is good, too.

It sounds like you have a bossy, overprotective sister. She obviously cares about you and worries. Ya'll will work out all of these details.

It'll make you feel better to know that I accidently locked hubby out of the house and I couldn't hear him banging on the door. He wasn't angry because he wasn't worried about me. He's a good guy so I try not to lock him out again. :lol:
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Yea I think it's just cause she's been there in my life looking out for me a long time...I still wished she didn't react that way, but you can't change the past. :lol: That was a little funny. I'm glad he's understanding with you.
 
H.o.H_Angel said:
Yea I think it's just cause she's been there in my life looking out for me a long time...I still wished she didn't react that way, but you can't change the past. :lol: That was a little funny. I'm glad he's understanding with you.
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If it makes you feel any better, I have three older sisters and the oldest one, to this day, still worries about me needlessly and feels compelled to boss me around and sort of demand I follow her advice. She stopped this summer after she told me that I need to start being responsible and think about saving for retirement. I told her I started doing that 10 years ago and showed her the balance. Her face went red and she shut up.

big sisters - they can care too much sometimes!
 
DeafCaroline said:
If it makes you feel any better, I have three older sisters and the oldest one, to this day, still worries about me needlessly and feels compelled to boss me around and sort of demand I follow her advice. She stopped this summer after she told me that I need to start being responsible and think about saving for retirement. I told her I started doing that 10 years ago and showed her the balance. Her face went red and she shut up.

big sisters - they can care too much sometimes!
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I Agree...It feels a little over bearing sometimes for me, but I still care and love for my sister...and that must have been something you'll never forget with your sister.
 
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