freaking out....please send good thoughts

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I'm wicked scared that i might be kicked out of college housing or get into trouble. I was only given housing if I followed a behavorial contract. Now so far, I have, which is the good news. ...I was on a behavoiral contract b/c Res Life seems to think that I have the social skills of a four year old, and can't tell the difference between someone just being friendly, and someone who's a real friend :roll: b/c of an incident with an RA who got mad at me, and exeratted some things I did into harrassment. Anyways, so far I have mananged to avoid getting into trouble with that. I've got some wicked good friends, and luckily my RAs are not overly nice. I mean they are nice, but not in a way that is extremely friendly. (I am friends with a couple of them...but have been friends with them for a couple of semesters before then)
However, I did mention to an ISO and an RA that I'd drunk this weekend. Today, it was over at a campus santicated event, and last night I was over my friend's on-campus apartment, and mananged to get smashed. My campus is dry, but it's OK to drink in the on-campus apartments. The ISO mentioned that "Boy, that's a good way to lose housing."
I'm scared I'll lose housing b/c of this one little slip.....I am of age, and VERY careful to only drink in sanctioned areas...I don't want to get in trouble...but am TERRIFIED that there's some sanction against public drunkeness or something. I wasn't visablly drunk, and as far as I know nobody really noticed that I'd had a few....please send thoughts that I don't get in trouble...I am FREAKING out, and I don't want to live off campus for my senior year or get in any trouble or anything.....
 
Awwww.

Wish I knew what to say to ease your mind. All I can offer ya is this - you just be the best person you can possibly be. Yes, you may have to "mind your tongue" for the sake of maintaining your living arrangements, but hey, this is something we all have to do from time to time. We have to put our own thoughts and beliefs on the back burner just so we can please (and pacify) others.

I see no reason why you couldn't enjoy yourself with a drink or two. So long as you aren't driving or behaving recklessly under the influence. It's possible that the comment was made just to piss you off. No worries, girl. ;)

You have friends, DD. You let us be your sounding board, and vent, vent, VENT. :) As for the people in your housing complex, just grin and bear it. They can't penalize you for something you don't do. If you're truly bothered, maybe you can find a neutral third party and arrange a sit-down and see if an agreement or an understanding of some sort can be arranged.

:::sending plenty of good thoughts!:::
 
if i was u I wud never bring up what I did or u wud have to face the conquences but eh.. just keep ur chin up and think positive and don't worry over a comment that wud piss u off just take it easy tho :)
 
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