Here's what i posted on my facebook after a bad night with a couple of my friends.
"Ok, i have had enough. To everybody on my friend list that don't know ASL, Here's a few things deaf people absoultely hate having to deal with when they are hanging out with you..
1. When you get mad or frustrated that you can't talk to me. You don't think i feel the same? ( I have held back a lot of desire to punch people in the face whenever i see them SIGH in frustration)
2. When people ignore you. By ignoring, i mean whenever you try to talk to them and they brush it off as if it is nothing and keep doing whatever it is that they are doing. (this happen way too often)
3. When people give up trying to talk after a few attempts. (there are so many ways to talk to me, I am a person. I have feelings, It upsets me when you do this.)
4. I am not as naive as you may think i am. I can read lip pretty good and have seen people say many terrrible things about me right in front of my face. Show me some f***ing respect. To those who does this, One day, don't be surprised if my fist somehow accidentally land on your face.
5. Treat me as if i am like you all. Don't over do anything. I don't know why but a lot of hearing people likes to be extra touchy with me. I can understand a small tap on the shoulder to get my attention. But that is enough.
Mind some of the vuglar terms. I just needed to get that off my chest."
I would like to know if anybody have ever felt this way? I just sometimes feel like i am the only one here that feels this way. Anybody have any other things they don't like while socializing? This rant was a quickly written one, so i didnt really phrase a lot of things properly and in a nice manner. I was upset.[/QU
fb friends un-natral, not true friends,friend is someone you look in the eye good friends are sisters from different mothers
respect is something you going to loose if as you say'fucking fist in the face'you contradict yourself by saying these are some vulgar terms used on you .when you just used one....i realise you upset and rather pissed off but you got accept people are not going to know bsl/asl so show them some of the signs that be helpful to you and them if they dont want to know then stuff them move on...when i lived in london i had more than one deaf club i went to we use bsl but that did not make them friends just aquatinses and place to relax,i took hearing friends with me and they felt uncomfortable which was a shame .but they came into my world with different thinking set...i lived first 30yrs of life as hearing second 30yrs as deafi so experince both and realise people can be frightened of what they dont understand sadly that happens in every culture age group sexual orintation.it just the human condition so many facets.
i have a mother for want of better word she bitch never made any effort learn bsl same with rest of family but the worse most upsetting when i went deaf my accident also caused me to have epilepsey and she is ashamed of that my accident also left my daughter serverly brain damage my family turn their back on us that i think is evil.......back to your problem one things i do is get the 'nevermind' thing in first say it to them in such away they will want to know what the nevermind comment was for and do it in a patronizing way,also people never want make mistakes in lanage try understand from that perpective...now my eyes are poor tonight can i can't write what i wanted..but keep your pecker up and i try eplain it better later tomorrow my eyes to poor to read tonight good luckk hun
It is important to watch yo surroundings..dont leave yourself in a bad place or environment. and dont even look at'em.
