Ex's Violent Temper

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Yesterday, My ex boyfriend came by and started shouting and screaming, I looked at him, told him if he is gotta shout at me, then I'm not listening, if he talks normal then I'll listen, but he kept on shouting, at this moment I turned my head around he punched me in the head with his fist so hard! I turned around and hit him right back in the face, gave him a bloody nose, I couldn't help myself in fact I told him don't you ever hit me again, ever! I disapprove that kind of behavior and I won't take it from anyone. I've been having this bad headache and sore on the side of my head.

I cannot call the cops because, I hit him back and left evidences, I could be more likely get arrested too. When a guy hits me, I don't let him get a free ride of not getting hit back, I stand up and defense myself.

My ex is the father of my son and in fact he was shouting because he recovered that child support enforcement were gotcha take more money out of his check since he still owes back in child support. He took it all out on me, which had nothing to do with me. I was trying to calm him down, but he kept on raising his voice at me, I wasn't interesting standing there having him treat me this way, If he would just talk normal, I wouldn't have turned my back on him. But, it gave him no right to put his hands on me, I hate shouting voices. That's one other reasons why we aren't together anymore. It annoys me. :dizzy:

Have this happened to any of you before?
 
I'm surprised you didn't see that side of him in the beginning of your relationship. He must have worn a mask real well.

Maybe you should call the police, after all even tho you hit him back. Doing so creates a paper trail and evidence if needed later on if you feel this behavior won't stop. It just might escalate into something really serious. Protect yourself with the law.
 
Tousi said:
...Maybe you should call the police, after all even tho you hit him back. Doing so creates a paper trail and evidence if needed later on if you feel this behavior won't stop. It just might escalate into something really serious. Protect yourself with the law.
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I agree. Suppose he calls the police before you do, he could show them his bruises anyway. You need to get the report made before he does something.

He will continue to treat you this way as long as he knows he can get away with it.

Maybe you should contact a local women's shelter for help. I don't mean you need to move to one. I mean, they have counsellors there with the same experiences, and they know the legal contacts.
 
No, he won't call the police because he knows he already has a warranty ( sp? ) for his arrest, so I know him quite well enough to know he wouldn't think once of doing so....

Sis, I can't believe you gave him a bloody nose, my goodness been working out sis?....I'm sorry that your ex had hit you like that, you should have throw him out of the door, and next time he do something like this again, call us and we will be right over ;)...
 
cheri, i m sorry u have been through, have u thought of moving out where he wouldn't find u?

i agree with others, u should report before him
 
Hey Cheri

Get the fucking restraining order against him! I am not going to tolerance with ex beat up the women. I went through Domestic violence for years.

It is the State who makes the decision when the child support enforcement increases the child support due to their promotion job or pay rise. There is no reason for him to shout or threaten you.

Call police immediately before, he can hurt you or your son. Oh dear, do not let him do this again to you.

I would kick his balls if he has nasty attitude to me.

Please look up this website, it is very good service for the Deaf people who are victim domestic violence. http://www.ndvh.org/help/deaf.html
 
Simple thing.... CALL police.. press him charge.. cuz he hit you first...
isn't improprite his behavouir to you first place..
 
^Angel^ said:
No, he won't call the police because he knows he already has a warranty ( sp? ) for his arrest, so I know him quite well enough to know he wouldn't think once of doing so....

Sis, I can't believe you gave him a bloody nose, my goodness been working out sis?....I'm sorry that your ex had hit you like that, you should have throw him out of the door, and next time he do something like this again, call us and we will be right over ;)...
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Please don't take the law into your own hands; if there's an outstanding warrant for his immediate arrest for whatever, call the police as he is leaving and tell them that he was just at Cheri's house. What's he wanted for, anyway?
 
Tousi hon, I'm not the type of person that takes the law in my own hands, got to know me well enough first, and second, when I asked Cheri to call us meaning for us to be there so nothing goes wrong, her ex won't do anything bad enough when her family is there to protect her from being serious harm....

Beside when I'm around I've never seen her ex hit her or anything but I've seen his temper.... :shock:
 
^Angel^ said:
Tousi hon, I'm not the type of person that takes the law in my own hands, got to know me well enough first, and second, when I asked Cheri to call us meaning for us to be there so nothing goes wrong, her ex won't do anything bad enough when her family is there to protect her from being serious harm....
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Ok, Angel, so you don't think he's that dangerous, then?

You mentioned there's a warrant out for his arrest. If that's so, that means the police are on the look-out for him because he is a wanted person. What's he wanted for? Or did you mean something else?
 
not only that, never knows hurt cheri badly who watches cheri's son and else, everything ok?! :)
 
I am not going to say what his warranty is for, because it's not my place to say. It's his business, his problem. ;)

He has a temper because he drinks and do drugs, You know people like him go out of control.
 
Tousi said:
Ok, Angel, so you don't think he's that dangerous, then?
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My ex husband is far more dangerous than he is.... Is that right sis?


You mentioned there's a warrant out for his arrest. If that's so, that means the police are on the look-out for him because he is a wanted person. What's he wanted for? Or did you mean something else?
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I will let Cheri answer that one because I feel it's not my place to say.... I'm sorry
 
^Angel^ said:
Tousi hon, I'm not the type of person that takes the law in my own hands, got to know me well enough first, and second, when I asked Cheri to call us meaning for us to be there so nothing goes wrong, her ex won't do anything bad enough when her family is there to protect her from being serious harm....

Beside when I'm around I've never seen her ex hit her or anything but I've seen his temper.... :shock:
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yea true. need family protect and witness too... :D
 
Cheri said:
I am not going to say what his warranty is for, because it's not my place to say. It's his business, his problem. ;)

He has a temper because he drinks and do drugs, You know people like him go out of control.
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That's fine, I don't really need to know what the warrant is for but you mentioned that he discovered more money will be taken out of his check......I am assuming that he is working so how come the police just don't show up at his place of work and arrest him?
Of course, if he's arrested and jailed, he would be unable to make the payments but that is another discussion.
 
OMG...that is pretty awful the way your ex-boyfriend treated you! :shock: Yeah, I agree with other people...you need to have restraining order against your ex-boyfriend. :S

Be safe! :hug:
 
Tousi said:
That's fine, I don't really need to know what the warrant is for but you mentioned that he discovered more money will be taken out of his check......I am assuming that he is working so how come the police just don't show up at his place of work and arrest him?
Of course, if he's arrested and jailed, he would be unable to make the payments but that is another discussion.
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I dunno, You'll have to ask the police that question. :giggle: Yeah, If he goes to jail most likely would lose his job and I wouldn't get child support payments. Oh well, I'm used to this. :ily:
 
Hi Cheri, No man has any business laying his hands on you or any woman.

I am US Army trained and US Marine trained and can become a very dangerous man, yet I have not laid a hand on a woman.

There is no excuse nor any business for a man to lay his hands on a woman.

I suggest you not hit him the next time and don't let him kill you either.

If he comes after you again and you don't hit him then you will have a good case to go to the police on that. Police have to work with evidence. If no evidence then what can the police do?

Better yet, why don't you move back with your family.

Your father will not let you be messed with.

Or your uncle's house etc. Have strong male relatives to help you.

You can stay home where it is 100% safe with your family and relatives.

Never ever move out of your family or relative's home to go back with him.

That is a common mistake many women make !!!!

That is one of the reasons I built a Deaf self defense website. That bad experience I had with robbery and beating caused me to create this website to save Deaf people's lives.

I hope you are out of the dangerous situation a.s.a.p. Get well and better. Stay strong.

Thank you and God Bless, Heath
 
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