considerate or not???

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I know it's up to friends who are considerate or not.

I will use the fake name for less confusing with who?

Brooke decides to ask her friend Jo to come along with Brooke for a long trip and stay at some where like a hotel or camping. Brooke never mention to Jo about paying some $$$ for gas only.

Do you think Jo should offer some $ to pay gas for Brooke or nah? If Jo does not pay gas to Brooke then does it mean that Jo is not to be considerate to be a true friend? :hmm: Since the gas issue is not that cheap! it does not matter if Jo does not know if Brooke have money problem or low incomes. If you think Jo doesn't need to offer a gas to her. do tell!

From my understanding that being a friend that do share or offer or exchange with other friends. thats how i see it in a friendship.
 
I think Brooke should pay for gas, but not because anyone told her too, just out of friendship-ness (<--- is that a word)

With me, I'd offer straight away but my offers always get rejected ('cause i'm too nice? :P)
 
Yes if I go on a long journey with my friends if they driving, i will automatically offer money for petrol. It's just common sense. Plus if you didnt have enough money then dont go on the trip!
 
LOL, i mean if you cant afford gas then you cant afford the trip
 
Brooke invited her friend, Jo to come along with her to somewhere. It is like Jo is a guest.

By etiquette, Jo is not obligated to help pay her shares, because her friend asked her. But it would be considerate for Jo to help pay for gas, etc.

I have asked my friends and relatives to come along with me to somewhere, I don't expect or accept anything from them. If I am a guest, I help even if they didn't accept it, I still give them the money. :P
 
I do the same thing if someone ask me to come along with her and i would offer her. if she deny my offer then i would be stubborn to buy her a good coffee from starbuck.

I made the thread that i chatted with my co worker. she said she is looking forward to going to a place that is 2 and half hours away from here. She asked her friend to come along and so. I said, " that's so cool! its nice to have a friend who can help out with some $ or share more fun" she said,"oh really your friends do help some $ for trip?". I said, " oh yea i always offer or they offer me like we do share $" we like to help each other." She said " yes i would like that! that would be nice if my friend do that for me!"

it made me think of creating a thread. lol yea i made thread out of boredom. :lol:
 
Brian said:
Brooke invited her friend, Jo to come along with her to somewhere. It is like Jo is a guest.

By etiquette, Jo is not obligated to help pay her shares, because her friend asked her. But it would be considerate for Jo to help pay for gas, etc.

I have asked my friends and relatives to come along with me to somewhere, I don't expect or accept anything from them. If I am a guest, I help even if they didn't accept it, I still give them the money. :P
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Well said Brian :cool2: - I have the same opinion!
 
Jo is not expected to pay Brooke for gas. Instead, Jo is expected to return the favor by hosting Brooke on a similar occasion. It's considerate to offer to chip in, though. If Brooke does not accept the money, Jo may pick up a dinner tab or send a gift to Brooke when she returns home. For example, I've had people who have stayed in my home send flowers. It's always nice to be appreciated.

I'm glad to hear that others here are so considerate. So many people haven't learned social skills.
 
In this case, Since "Brooke" has never mentioned of informing "Jo" not to pay the gas - then Jo shouldn't be liable to help in with the gas expenses but if I were "Jo" in this stance, I would be more than happy to chip in and help with the gas expenses because it would be courteous to do so.

And, I agree with what Brian said. :)
 
Whenever I travel with a group of friends on a road trip, With gas prices still quite high, I always pay my share in gas even if I was a guest. It's a way of saying thank you for inviting me. ;)

I think it's rude to tell someone to pay their share in gas when they were invited to go on a road trip. I wouldn't ask, either would my friends would ask. It's common sense to split costs among your group. Road trips are meant to be fun, who wants to sit there and discuss who's turn to pay for the gas? lol

So the bottom line is, Jo should have paid her share in helping with the gas, because after-all she rode in the same car with her friend.
 
I would offer to help out with gas. If my offer gets turned down, then I will not argue but will treat her to something else later.
 
Speaking of arguing... lol I remembered when I rode with a guy that goes to the same church with my dad, he refused to take our money for gas, we kept throwing the money at him, and he kept throwing it back to us, then when he had enough he threw the money out the window and we were like :shock: --Stop the car!! lol
 
Cheri said:
Speaking of arguing... lol I remembered when I rode with a guy that goes to the same church with my dad, he refused to take our money for gas, we kept throwing the money at him, and he kept throwing it back to us, then when he had enough he threw the money out the window and we were like :shock: --Stop the car!! lol
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Yeah... let him throw money at me and see what happens.
 
Cheri said:
Speaking of arguing... lol I remembered when I rode with a guy that goes to the same church with my dad, he refused to take our money for gas, we kept throwing the money at him, and he kept throwing it back to us, then when he had enough he threw the money out the window and we were like :shock: --Stop the car!! lol
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:laugh2::laugh2:
 
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