Confused/Doubt....

MaxUFC said:
I thought you did listening other ADers on other thread. But you still wanna to have that lawywer back to you in friendship or realationship. What is going on? :dunno:

You should admit that you are obessive compulsive person of that laywer what you say you denied on other thread.

Still, I don't know you in personally but you still talking about be relationship or friend with lawyer that hurts you badly rather than get support from your consulors and ADers here. I am not rude to tell you....I am disppointing on your actions.

If you choice the lawyer over your consulors and many ADers here...please don't bring that one up again on next thread. That would be waste our helping on you on other threads.

We do still helping you out here and you need to think about ADers, consulors, and your lawyer. That why we wanna to see you to be stand up and kick this laywer's rear end....no, his balls!. :)

Now, be think about what best you are going to do with your living ahead : Screw lawyer and being with us. Or screw us and being with that lawyer.

:hug: from me and ADers, too - MaxUFC
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I'm not obessive compulsive person...I am confused whether if I should report to the BAR or not...
 
Oddball said:
Hey, you are still obsessed about your manipulative lawyer who used you for sex, etc. He forced you to sign the form in case if you plan to file a complaint against him in BAR for unethical reason (like sex with a client), you will lose if he hand the form to the judge. It is not worth it. Forget about him and move on. Please refrain bringing your personal issues to AD because suppose if a Deaf lawyer happens to come across your post on AD, he may file restraining order against you, etc. Think about it. If I am in similiar situation, I dare not to say this on AD. It is very dangerous.

It is the best for you to vent your feelings of doubts to your counselor and he/she will counsel you, etc.
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I could get a lawyer to explain to the judge that we deafies dont understand the level of lawyers' languages...He is hearing lawyer...not deaf lawyer...he never comes here anyway..
 
RebelGirl said:
Got a few questions..

Are you trying to file against him because he doesn't love you anymore?
If you're filing against him.. on what charges?


If he doesn't love you anymore, you need to move on with your life. If he's saying he hates you, blah blah so on.. it probably could be reasons why he said those things.. perhaps you're bothering him? If so.. all you gotta do is leave him alone and just move on with your life. You'll find someone better than him. Someone is going to eventually love you for who you are but it takes time. The only way I'm thinking is what you did was you did sign the papers to say you take fully responsiblities of what you did by force.. but you should have gotten someone to come with you and help you read the paperworks before you signed it. I'm not going to say you should file against him because I'm not sure what reason.
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No, its not because he doesnt love me...it is about doing the right thing...he admitted to me he dated his client for 9 months BEFORE he met me...I dont want it to happen to other female clients...

No, I didnt bother him...after I gave him birthday gifts...few weeks later, he told me he hated me out of the blue...
 
LisaMarie said:
To be honest with you.. i was surprised your former lawyer misled u in first place.. Did he ever tell you why he hates you and so on? I find that odd out of blue and all suddenly he dislike you... and why did he make u sign the paper? did something happen in that btw time frame?

if you strongly felt hes dangerous or make u feel uncomfortable then i strongly encourage you to keep away from him. Always i mean ALWAYS trust your feeling based on facts.

Dont do something such report or anything because you were willing yourself to him in first place.. its not like he rape you or anything. But i understand what you mean after what he did to you. My suggest you to stay away from him.. dont get in contact with him He s a JERK! period!
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Yes, my former lawyer misled me...he gave me his home email address and I never asked for it...He didnt tell me why he hates me...

He made me sign the paper because I told him that I was going to tell the BAR about him...thats why he forced me to sign the paper..

I admit to you all...he told me that he has bipolar disorder...and he is already overcomed with it...
 
Yike.. I've seen some people with bipolar disorder. The mood swing are extermely unpredicitable! Whoo.. i suggest u to leave him be. His loss!! Just move on with your life. Focus on yourself instead of wasting your time, engery, breathe, and everything on him since he show clear that he really dont care about you evdiencetly!
Beside the judge would say its a consexual and they probably would say its wasting their time since u already willing yourself to him... just in ahead warning..
 
coloravalanche said:
I'm not obessive compulsive person...I am confused whether if I should report to the BAR or not...
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Like I told you I don't know your personally until you told us aftermath like the laywer is bispolar disorder or dated with another client or whatever. You got many responsed from ADers before your chance to explain to them.

Well, once you signed what your lawyer asked you then you have to live with your mistake...painfully. Same thing , I has painfully heartbroke from my former girlfriend who dumped me 20 year ago and now, I has been good living with two wonderful kids and good ex-wife. I almost not remmy how painfully heartbroke today...since my friends helped me out to get move on next path. You would be fine in some years. If you still want to being with your lawyer...then you might be joker here?.

Report to the BAR might not help at all since you signed with your lawyer then you are history to them. Or am I wrong...I don't know much about the lawyers stuffs. :dunno:

Just sticking with seeing your consulor to help your life to be better and be strong ever. What more? Your friends of AllDeaf here will be around to support your living daily. I just hoping you won't bring the lawyer up on next threads once you gotta to settle with your new path from now.

Use your head before next thread here. Good luck. :)

P.S. my suggestion if you dont want to get bash by ADers here then do email to your trust ADers's emails instead the thread here.
 
Do you think I should report to the BAR and stand up for myself?
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Me thinks- only if you have any proof - emails letters, witnesses, tapes.. antyhing that could support your accusations..
If you don't perhaps you should talk to another lawyer, prefferable that specialises on sexual abuse, client abuse etc and one that you won't fall in love with :)

Fuzzy
 
coloravalanche,

Why do you want to report him to the bar associations? Sounds like to me you're using this opportunity to show him how devastated you are since he hurt you. As I remember recalling that you said that, you both agreed on having sex between two consenting adults without string attach, You felled in love, he didn't. Now you want revenge. You also stated that you told him that you were going to report him to the bar assoication, Why did you tell him that? Of course lawyers are bright, He gave you something to sign to save his own ass. Looks like your case against him would be no good. You signed something that you have no idea what it is written, the same time you signed it out of love for him. He used that against you. Can't you see that? Why would u want to remain friends with someone like him? Seriously You need to let it go, You learned your lesson the hard way, and next time you get a lawyer keep it as attorney–client privilege, no more sex, and no more love affairs.
 
I read your comments about your relationship with Lawyer. Let you know that it is not suppose to have a relationship with lawyer while he works on your case. It is conflict of interesting in the lawyer/client
priviledge. The lawyer can't have relationship with a client. It can hurt lawyer's reputation on job. It is LAW!

Whoa! MAN! It not easy. Why he hate to you?
Does you shared other person about Lawyer? It made sense, Why He hated you. I had bad experience same things before. CRAP! :stupid:

I dated former boyfriend other state. I did shared who trusted friends. However my former boyfriend found out and pissed off at me. I realized that we didn't develop relationship yet. One things He fault hurt me. Only 2 weeks IT OVER!!! I learn lesson till we would more develop relationship 6 month or 1 yrs then you can tell anyone. You would to wait getting to know him 6 months or 1 yrs. It will better relationship. I dated my sec husband that We were trip other states for 10 months of avoid deaf commuity. They can destory relationship from us. We become stronger relationship after that we met deaf commuinty! It best advise!

example: also teacher/students can't be relationship treacher can break the policy plus law! And also, counselor/client, doctor/patient, lawyer/client.


About story Bi Polar. I keep away it! EECCCKKK!!!! I had bad experience few friends. If your lawyer is bi ploar then you not worthy with him! you can go other men millions in USA. LOL! MOVE ON NEW PATH!
 
I thought the same as Cheri.


You said that you began to have an affair with lawyer after your case is completed.

Against him doesn´t solve anything unless you have proof.

I would suggest you to leave him and MOVE ON to focus on your life. His LOSER!
 
coloravalanche said:
No, its not because he doesnt love me...it is about doing the right thing...he admitted to me he dated his client for 9 months BEFORE he met me...I dont want it to happen to other female clients...

No, I didnt bother him...after I gave him birthday gifts...few weeks later, he told me he hated me out of the blue...
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Ahh okay.. got it.. I guess that means .. you should try to get all the proofs if you can and file against him. I don't think you should feel sorry for him or feel bad for him. You should be f*ckin' him for good. He's not worth it. You can find someone that'll make you happier than what you went thru with that lawyer.
 
Cheri said:
coloravalanche,

Why do you want to report him to the bar associations? Sounds like to me you're using this opportunity to show him how devastated you are since he hurt you. As I remember recalling that you said that, you both agreed on having sex between two consenting adults without string attach, You felled in love, he didn't. Now you want revenge. You also stated that you told him that you were going to report him to the bar assoication, Why did you tell him that? Of course lawyers are bright, He gave you something to sign to save his own ass. Looks like your case against him would be no good. You signed something that you have no idea what it is written, the same time you signed it out of love for him. He used that against you. Can't you see that? Why would u want to remain friends with someone like him? Seriously You need to let it go, You learned your lesson the hard way, and next time you get a lawyer keep it as attorney–client privilege, no more sex, and no more love affairs.
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Cheri, I've waited for 2 years not to report him...he gave me his home email address during his client/lawyer relationship...I have several proof that I kept it and printed it...

Alright, He will do the same thing to others in the future...

At least, I could report to the BAR and not to mention my name...I will request for the BAR to keep an eye on my former lawyer...I will request for the BAR that I do not wish to go through court but to report him...

Thank you all for supportive and now Ive made my decision..
 
Audiofuzzy said:
Why did you waited so long??
why now??


Fuzzy
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I've been waiting and still waiting on the FBI to confront my former lawyer about my case...The FBI thinks that my former lawyer is involved...

The FBI failed to contact my former lawyer few months ago because of wrong phone number...so now, The FBI has been working on other cases then he will work on mine...it should be real soon though...

That's why Ive been waiting so long...
 
Have you considered seeing a professional counselor? You can learn which is the best thing for you to do at this time, and go from there. This looks like a mess that you need to untangle from your side, and if you go to the bar.. you need to have more emotional stability, or they won't take you seriously I think.
 
Liza said:
Have you considered seeing a professional counselor? You can learn which is the best thing for you to do at this time, and go from there. This looks like a mess that you need to untangle from your side, and if you go to the bar.. you need to have more emotional stability, or they won't take you seriously I think.
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Yes, I am seeing a professional counselor..she is wonderful and the best! She has helped me through difficult times for a year...I'm grateful for that...

My counselor said exactly what you are saying..she is worried if I go to the bar that if I am able to handle my emotional stability or not...but, she said I could report to the bar by writing without mention my name which I havent thought about not to mention my name...and for the BAR to keep it silence but to keep an eye on my former lawyer...Also, she would like to speak with my former lawyer on the phone about these issues...wait and see...:dunno:
 
coloravalanche said:
Cheri, I've waited for 2 years not to report him...he gave me his home email address during his client/lawyer relationship...I have several proof that I kept it and printed it...

Alright, He will do the same thing to others in the future...

At least, I could report to the BAR and not to mention my name...I will request for the BAR to keep an eye on my former lawyer...I will request for the BAR that I do not wish to go through court but to report him...

Thank you all for supportive and now Ive made my decision..
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To report him, You have to have hard evidences, plus you waited 2 years, They're throw the case out, They would know that you're love stuck over him.
 
I agree that you would need evidences to prove your case otherwise it will be your word against his.... :dunno:
 
coloravalanche said:
Some of you know about my situation with my former lawyer...He was leading me on while I was his client...He gave me his private home email address during his business relationship...which he was not supposed to...anyway, I admit I fell in love with him on the day we met...

After the discharged were completed, We had sex several times...Several months later, he ended up telling me how much he hated me and so forth...I was :confused: :ugh: :shock: :tears: I didnt know what was going on...I met with the FBI Agent about my former lawyer - The FBI has been working on my case for 1 year and half now..I'm still waiting to hear from the FBI about my case...I will update with you all later after the case is completed...I can not say any further at this time...

Anyway, My former lawyer forced me to sign the form stated that it is my 100% fault for everything and that he will hand it to the Judge IF I ever report to the BAR against him...He was brilliant and forced me to sign it...I signed it because I loved him...I didnt understand the form that he typed..he knew that I wouldnt understand it...

He has been calling me with horrible names such as bitch, insane whore, lunatic, hates me, fuck yourself and die...

Do you think I should report to the BAR and stand up for myself?

Part of me, I feel that I should report it but in other hand, I feel that I should not report it...The reason why I am in doubt, it is because I feel that if I report to the BAR against him...he will hate me forever...and that we wont be friends...I dont know...I'm :confused:

I was hoping that he and I could work things out...and start over in our relationship...I care about him so much...I'm extreemly hurt by him...

I need your opinion, supportive and help...Please do not bash or turn me down...I don't need this...thank you for understanding...
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Oh dear,.....He totally manipulated, abused, used you to his advantage cuz he thinks you are one dumb deaf woman..sorry but thats what a lot of hearing men do...Ive known some deaf women friends in same situation who have been in your shoes...I have had one guy tried to do the same thing with me and i told him to go take a f**king hike!
I would not turn him over to the Bar association UNLESS you have proof that he raped you and all..so do you have proof??
Of course, he dont love you...he might said he "loved" you..he just lying to you, hun...sorry but he was just simply lying to you just to get in your pants..
NO, he will not go back with you, ever...so PLEASE believe him if he says he hates you, does not want to see you again, etc, etc....
You need to forget him, go on with your life...if you cant do that, then you
obviously need to get some professional help, hun...
I know this sounds pretty harsh...but its the truth.....
 
Try healthyplace.com, they have several support groups
in that forum, there's no cost to join.
 
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