jillio
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*Nods* Now I look back at the people who made me dread the morning (if it were a school day) and wonder what they went home to every day. I am convinced that they could not have gone home to a healthy, happy house. Something was very, very wrong. Only people who doubt their own worth, who are inherently unhappy pick on others. The louder and harsher they are, the more convinced I am that they are desperately unhappy in some way or another. Who can be happy if they live in a state of continual aggression, cruelty, and anger?
Quite true. That is one of the reasons that punishment really doesn't do much to change a bully's behavior. It just gives them more of a reason to bully. It is very difficult to have empathy for a bully sometimes, though, because their behavior is so destructive to others. I am impressed with your ability to put yourself in their shoes, and empathize with them. The trick is to balance a no tolerance policy for bullying, but in that policy, have provisions for their treatment, not just punishment. Just because they are behaving in a destructive manner doesn't mean that they are not worthy of having their pain dealt with.