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What do you do when you love someone and all that person ever does is hurt you? I am refering to the love of strictly a friend who seems to find it humorous to relentlessly torment me because he gets a kick out of saying things about me to others that are untrue.

I've walked right out of his fmillies life several times thinking maybe he'd get the point that what he does hurts me but it accomplishes nothing and I've
fully detailed to him everything he has said to me that bothers me and nothing changes.

To know him is to know pain and with his family not in my life all I do is cry yet
with him in my life all I do is cry because he makes me miserable, I love him
but I am so tired of this unending misery he puts me through and it's not like
he's a child he's 57.

To give an example of something he has said is he told the employees of Sherwin Williams paint store I am a lesbian and I'm not and he tells people I've never even met my personal business and he even told me that he told a lady at a gift shop I frequented that I am a thief which I'm not and it just
goes on and on and it's not funny.

His father was a prankster and he told me how his father had once put dinnerware from the restaurant they were at in his mothers purse and then
reported his mother as a thief, maybe I'm wrong but I just don't see the humor
in such actions and do not want to ever end up in that type of situation because of him.

I am at a loss as to what to do because there is just no reasoning with him,
he does what he wants to do and it's always going to be his way or no way
because nobody else has say and right now my heart hurts and its not
physical pain it's a build up of all the hurt so how do you walk out
of the lives of those you love and pretend to be happy? last time I had left
for two months I couldn't even smile, I stayed depressed,was unhappy
and hurt inside because I missed them,so what should I do because it's to the point that all we do is argue about my wanting him to stop hurting me?
 
It's the time to let him go and move forward, It's going to hurt for a while, but in time, You'll get over it. He isn't the only fish in the sea, there's plenty of other fishes in the sea. ;)
 
Oh do not get me wrong, I do not want him in that way, the thought
of a relationship with him has not even crossed my mind.
 
:hug: :hug: I agree ROE, it's time to let him go as a friend, and move on with your life. If this man was any kind of honorable friend to you? He would never put you through this torment and hurt that you are feeling with him now. These things he says about you, are damaging to your reputation, and it's not right. For a 57 year old man, he still hasn't grown up yet!!!! You need to move on to much more better and mature friends. People that you can confide in, talk to and just enjoy hanging out with. You can still keep in touch with his family, maybe by sending them a card or an email, but, just don't bother with him. Not if he hurts you so much!!!! When he realizes he has lost a really good friend, it's going to hit him hard. But, for now, focus on yourself, learning to smile and be happy again. There are so many people out there that are dying to be a good friend to you, just take their hand in friendship!!!! You will be alright in time. You are going to miss him, and it will be hard, but, give yourself a chance to heal now and be happy again, and not have that fear he will be around to insult you, or torment you again!!! Be good to yourself ROE!!! God Bless!!!! :hug: :hug:
 
CODAchild said:
:hug: :hug: I agree ROE, it's time to let him go as a friend, and move on with your life. If this man was any kind of honorable friend to you? He would never put you through this torment and hurt that you are feeling with him now. These things he says about you, are damaging to your reputation, and it's not right. For a 57 year old man, he still hasn't grown up yet!!!! You need to move on to much more better and mature friends. People that you can confide in, talk to and just enjoy hanging out with. You can still keep in touch with his family, maybe by sending them a card or an email, but, just don't bother with him. Not if he hurts you so much!!!! When he realizes he has lost a really good friend, it's going to hit him hard. But, for now, focus on yourself, learning to smile and be happy again. There are so many people out there that are dying to be a good friend to you, just take their hand in friendship!!!! You will be alright in time. You are going to miss him, and it will be hard, but, give yourself a chance to heal now and be happy again, and not have that fear he will be around to insult you, or torment you again!!! Be good to yourself ROE!!! God Bless!!!! :hug: :hug:
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I agree with Codachild. Let him go, he is not worth it. He is letting you down, you cry because he is hurting you in everyways. My advice to you, get rid of him before he do more damage and you end up more heartborken that ever.
 
Problem is it hurts, I do know though that if he cared about me as much as I care about him and his family he wouldn't treat me like this, His mother passed away wednesday morning and since that evening I haven't been back down to see him or his sister and it's not that I don't want to, I just know it's time I let go because I don't know how to deal with someone who's only
pleasure is to hurt my feelings constantly, I hurt all last year and can see
nothing but a whole year of sorrow ahead of me if I remain friends with
this person who doesn't seem to care how he hurts me.
 
I had a friend who hurt me alot and stole my man so I let her go and not to bother with her anymore. She is now in denial what she have done to me and my life. I couldnt care less if she want to be my friend cuz I dont want to be her friend anymore then finding a better friend then she is.

Right now I enjoy my life then I had before. It took me long time to get over it and I am glad I did.

I am sure you will too and maybe it is time for you to see the counsler and get the feeling out.
 
To be in the lives of these individuals it's always something new, there
have been people they know take me aside and tell me that he and his family
had said things that at first I did not want to believe was true but
so much has been said to me by people I don't even know that I don't
know who to believe so I just e-mailed him a moment ago to tell him
that I just don't want this hurt and uncertainty in my life anymore.
 
Saw him walk past today and wanted to hug him because he looked so sad
but at the same time was mad because he and his sister I know don't feel
the same towards me, I hate that they only wanted me around to use me.

As much as they both hurt and upset me I never stay mad at them
and that there is the difference between loving someone and not really caring,
I cared and they don't, I remember little things said here and there and smile
and enjoyed the dinners we had where we all sat around together talking
and our outings or car rides.

Here's to believing in something that was never true :cheers:
Mind you that's Rootbeer
 
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