Being Wrongfully Judged

[javapride]

CA has a brain of a rumor plms... i dont blame gemini for going thru this its one of the reasons why i left california i was fed up with immature people who kept on bringing up A PAST OVER 10 YRS AGO in all consideration people need to grow up and let the past go and MOVE on like i have done so... and im very happy with who i am with where i am and what im doing with my life because if this wasn't for my own reasons i would plby be sitting here doing jackshit and getting nothing but SSI and whining how i never have enuff. those days are basically immature days... life is short and we need to let those poeple who made thier mistakes learn from it ON thier own if they havent then they need to re think thier own lives and think back on what they have said and done... Im glad i dont have people to worry abt i worry abt me not thier whininess!

 

[Vance]

CA has a brain of a rumor plms... i dont blame gemini for going thru this its one of the reasons why i left california i was fed up with immature people who kept on bringing up A PAST OVER 10 YRS AGO in all consideration people need to grow up and let the past go and MOVE on like i have done so... and im very happy with who i am with where i am and what im doing with my life because if this wasn't for my own reasons i would plby be sitting here doing jackshit and getting nothing but SSI and whining how i never have enuff. those days are basically immature days... life is short and we need to let those poeple who made thier mistakes learn from it ON thier own if they havent then they need to re think thier own lives and think back on what they have said and done... Im glad i dont have people to worry abt i worry abt me not thier whininess!

heh. That's why I never bother to hang around with these deafies in Southern California but I don't mind to hang around with some people like Gnarly. Ever since I moved back in here from other state, I have been hanging with hearies. Huge thank to ASL class where I sometimes teach the students in ASL lab plus my classmates at my college and other friends through Nas. I totally understand the situation you were in. That's why I decided to get out of here few years ago to secure my sanity but now, I am ok as long as I stay away from these deafies.

 

[javapride]

there are VERY few deafies who i care abt in california those two are currently aders here the rest can rot in hell imo i basically drifted apart from my old days in california and now that i look back mag, im glad im here now instead of there, too many misunderstood and swallowing the fishes type of poeple who listen and belive others. siding with poeple butting in thier lives and talking abt personal plms of others when its none of thier damn business and then having it all go back to you makes you wonder who the hell they think they are... now lately with my partner and me we just keep things on a quieter mode. and not allowanyone to take advantage... the two people that i know and are in a relationship pulled me aside and said thier uncomfortable with a certain someone who kept bitching and berating abt my past and they told her that they don't wanna hear abt the past thier more worried abt tmw and not yesterday cuz we can not undo the past its done and it can't be changed. but we can change the course of the future.

thats my thinking of the present day society.

 

[Liza]

We will always be misjudged, misunderstood or wrongfully accused in our lives. It is HOW we react that counts. We cant control their opinions or judgements but we can control ourselves.

I used to be passive then became aggressive but now Im assertive now. I only speak up because I want to know I did my part. I dont argue back with them but simply point out facts in a calm way. I want to be able to sleep at nights knowing that I spoke up. Whether they believe me or not, it is up to them but only God and I know the truth.

I agree that forgiving heals but it is not easy to forgive AND forget.

Hear, hear. Good post, Meg. I can relate to this, too... every part.

 

[Deaf258]

I wud like to add something more.. I had been judged for who I am.. but it doesn't mean I did something bad.. but eh really I like to make friends but U people in california make it impossible and I'm so glad i ain't native of california.. :roll: cuz u guys jump to conclusion about who I am but really I just ingore rumors about myself cuz u guys chose to listen to rumors instead of who I am.. so I wish u people best of luck whatever u decide to do won't affect me

I wonder if it is any different between Utah and California.. It's much, much worse there because almost everyone who is Deaf and lives there are Mormons. I am a Mormon, but I don't consider myself as one of those Utard Mormons. Even most of the interpreters are Mormons, there is no way of getting any privacy unless you totally disappear from everyone. It sucks not being able to have a social life without the rumors and gossips going around. It makes me nervous knowing some of the interpreters are church leaders for the LDS Church. They'll find out what "sin" another Deaf Mormon committed, then share that info with the church leaders. The result, rumors and drama fall-out!!

 

[Liza]

there are VERY few deafies who i care abt in california those two are currently aders here the rest can rot in hell imo i basically drifted apart from my old days in california and now that i look back mag, im glad im here now instead of there, too many misunderstood and swallowing the fishes type of poeple who listen and belive others. siding with poeple butting in thier lives and talking abt personal plms of others when its none of thier damn business and then having it all go back to you makes you wonder who the hell they think they are... now lately with my partner and me we just keep things on a quieter mode. and not allowanyone to take advantage... the two people that i know and are in a relationship pulled me aside and said thier uncomfortable with a certain someone who kept bitching and berating abt my past and they told her that they don't wanna hear abt the past thier more worried abt tmw and not yesterday cuz we can not undo the past its done and it can't be changed. but we can change the course of the future.

thats my thinking of the present day society.

Guess what? You are in Hawai'i - a real paradise. You have it made, girl! Love, family, friends, pet, new car... Look forward, not backward, with the fresh breeze on your face while the sun blesses you with her light- it is a real shame that people do these things, rumor-mongering about folks they know nothing about. They need to focus on their own issues and learn to be better people that do not contribute to problems.. such as making malicious gossip and slander. I hate it when people ARE blind to how they do ADD to the problem... It just doesn't help talking with them... again and again. Just go with our good lives, because they hold NO power over us.

This reminds me of what happened a while ago at the school here... I befriended someone, and I was taken aside and was told about just a couple of incidents related to her... she lies and changes stories. So WHAT? I had to set this person's head straight... it's NOT nice to gossip to imply somebody is not worthy of my friendship just based on some one-sided incident or something in the past. She is a great gal, and I know it.

 

[Tousi]

I'm sorry to hear what's being said about California cuz that's where I reside. I think these sentiments, while true of some individuals, happens everywhere. For those of you who are/were in California, it happens/happened cuz you are/were in California. California has a huge deaf population so the sentiments against California get skewered disproportionally. This negative human behavior happens EVERYWHERE.

 

[Angel]

Look forward, not backward, with the fresh breeze on your face while the sun blesses you with her light- it is a real shame that people do these things, rumor-mongering about folks they know nothing about. They need to focus on their own issues and learn to be better people that do not contribute to problems.. such as making malicious gossip and slander. I hate it when people ARE blind to how they do ADD to the problem... It just doesn't help talking with them... again and again. Just go with our good lives, because they hold NO power over us.

I second that, well said there Liza!!!