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Last two semesters ago, I was in England and I met a guy through one of my friends online. I was being nice and polite so I said he is more than welcome to visit Tucson. He and I had a conversation online and he wanted to visit me in June. I warned him that June and first week of July are not a good month to visit. I have a summer class at the UA. He and I talk online once in a while and it was nothing personal until just recently. I had no clue that he came here and stalked me from England. He texted me and said he is in Tucson. It was out of blue and told me he needs to be picked up from the airport. Weird!

I was shocked and had no idea. I said I have to ask my sisters since my parents are out of town. They are not comfortable about him staying here and I wasn't either. I told him no, he needs to stay at a hotel. It seems like his story was getting creepy. He said his credit card was stolen in Hawaii and he has no place to stay. He said he is going to stay at a hotel for two days, but the next day I got a message from him. He said he is at the police station and gave them my number.

I took my advices from my sisters not to reply any of his message and he finally left me alone. He is starting to ask people around about me now. The deaf community in Tucson is ceratinly small and people do know who I am. I encourage anyone who personally know me or have heard of my name. Do not get involved or give out my info.

I really hope he is going home soon. It does creep me out! Be cautious who you talk to and hang out with people who you just met. A friend who knows me very well told me that one of her friends contacted her and asked where I live. It is dreadful.
 
Creepy.

I never give my phone number to anyone I do not know. I have a private email address just for people I actually know in real life, and I have a "public" email address for anyone else, but it has no personal info in the profile on that email address. It's mostly used for when I want to sign up for crap online.
 
wow thats definitely scary.. i am glad to hear you are ok..

you are right.. not to give out the personal information like your home address and ph nbr..

sound like a scammer to me?

did he asked u about money over time? i wonder?? if so then hes a scammer.. thru and thru...

im glad you are ok.. you are indeed very LUCKY... thanks for sharing this with us and warn us to be careful and watch out for those kind of things.. we can never be too careful nowadays as people out there are perverts.. who knows what they r thinking? *shudders* ugh..
 
yes its very scary..

it happened to my friend in minneapolis, minnesota..

she and the guy from uk... met online and he came out of blue like that..

her parents and friends told her to disappear for few days.. till hes gone..

he just sound like your guy.. making up stories and etc..

ughh.. (shudders)
 
Cane Corso said:
Last two semesters ago, I was in England and I met a guy through one of my friends online. I was being nice and polite so I said he is more than welcome to visit Tucson. He and I had a conversation online and he wanted to visit me in June. I warned him that June and first week of July are not a good month to visit. I have a summer class at the UA. He and I talk online once in a while and it was nothing personal until just recently. I had no clue that he came here and stalked me from England. He texted me and said he is in Tucson. It was out of blue and told me he needs to be picked up from the airport. Weird!

I was shocked and had no idea. I said I have to ask my sisters since my parents are out of town. They are not comfortable about him staying here and I wasn't either. I told him no, he needs to stay at a hotel. It seems like his story was getting creepy. He said his credit card was stolen in Hawaii and he has no place to stay. He said he is going to stay at a hotel for two days, but the next day I got a message from him. He said he is at the police station and gave them my number.

I took my advices from my sisters not to reply any of his message and he finally left me alone. He is starting to ask people around about me now. The deaf community in Tucson is ceratinly small and people do know who I am. I encourage anyone who personally know me or have heard of my name. Do not get involved or give out my info.

I really hope he is going home soon. It does creep me out! Be cautious who you talk to and hang out with people who you just met. A friend who knows me very well told me that one of her friends contacted her and asked where I live. It is dreadful.
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He's probably lie to you or whatever because he want make you that accept to welcome him at your home. If he lose his credit card in Hawaii then that bullshit because from England to Arizona seems probably stop in NYC or Chicago, also probably in Atlanta but who knows. I did gave e-mail address to some friends but if getting spam then just block them, or add to ignore list if including feature in e-mail.

You aren't too far for visit Los Angeles :whistle:
 
Don't give email or phone or vp to strange people! Because never know happened if they are background crime huh? Save your head!
 
Actually, no you would not believe this. He is a deaf guy from England who I met through a friend. He is not a scam, but seems to act like a stalker for some apperance reasons. I only met him one time at a formal party called Remark! Film and TV awards. The deaf community in England does know who he is and he went to Ovingdean Hall School.

After that, it has gotten really bad. I tried my best to keep it cool and mellow. I guess it didn't work.
 
DoofusMama said:
yes its very scary..

it happened to my friend in minneapolis, minnesota..

she and the guy from uk... met online and he came out of blue like that..

her parents and friends told her to disappear for few days.. till hes gone..

he just sound like your guy.. making up stories and etc..

ughh.. (shudders)
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My guess is english men are weirdo!
 
Cane Corso said:
My guess is english men are weirdo!
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Perhaps it would help you if you went to your options and where it says "location," delete that you are in Tucson, AZ. DoofusMama and I are both in Minnesota, though we know where each other are, neither of us (and neither should you) give the actual town of where we live. I had a problem like this on another website where people found out who I was and created problems for me at a college. I'm a guy, so, if it happened to me, it sure as heck can happen to you.

By the way, it was only "creepy" (your words) because you actually didn't expect someone to track you. In reality, well, welcome to the real world where anything is possible. There are ways to screen people and, if you have an email address, change what your name is, if it's even changing or dropping your last name and location. People here on alldeaf, if they want to contact me and go off list, know that they pm me, then they receive my email address and follow my specific instructions. As I said, I'm a guy and don't trust someone new who wants to meet me; you, as a woman, should be equally concerned and wary.
 
So much for being a British gentleman ..... If he really wanted to visit you the right way then he would have done it in an appropriate manner. I hope nothing else bad happens and he finally leaves you alone and chalk it up to a very good learning experience and what Lucia does is exactly what I do that way I have a whole less problems. One e-mail for people who I know in real life and another e-mail for people who I don't know and then another e-mail for free games online that ask for e-mail in order to play some games online for free etc. Also if you are going to use a credit card then use a Visa gift card which means that you still can use Visa much like if say you use a Walmart gift card right? same idea. Ask your local bank about a Visa gift card then the bank will help you with one so that you can order things off the internet and you will not have to worry about a traditional credit card. Hope this helps and God Bless, you are in my prayers and he really needs to leave you alone and go home either that or he goes to jail, simple as that. Never have a bleeding heart or give in to him !!!! Never, I can't tell you how many times I have told another women to never have a bleeding heart or give in to him. Some women do listen to me and some women don't listen to me and yell at me accusing me of being a racist or whatever it is then a few days or weeks later. She ends up in the hospital or worse and I don't tell her " I told you so ". I just leave her alone and let her bad experience speak for itself and hopefully she learns from it. Please never have a bleeding heart or give in to him. Never !!!! Never !!! Never !!!!! Please okay ??? Thank you .....
 
DoofusMama said:
yes its very scary..

it happened to my friend in minneapolis, minnesota..

she and the guy from uk... met online and he came out of blue like that..

her parents and friends told her to disappear for few days.. till hes gone..

he just sound like your guy.. making up stories and etc..

ughh.. (shudders)
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Sorry.. :topic: DoofusMama, You just posted my thread telling me its not good idea for me to vent my situation...and now here, you are supporting this person's thread...:roll:
 
Cane Corso said:
Last two semesters ago, I was in England and I met a guy through one of my friends online. I was being nice and polite so I said he is more than welcome to visit Tucson. He and I had a conversation online and he wanted to visit me in June. I warned him that June and first week of July are not a good month to visit. I have a summer class at the UA. He and I talk online once in a while and it was nothing personal until just recently. I had no clue that he came here and stalked me from England. He texted me and said he is in Tucson. It was out of blue and told me he needs to be picked up from the airport. Weird!

I was shocked and had no idea. I said I have to ask my sisters since my parents are out of town. They are not comfortable about him staying here and I wasn't either. I told him no, he needs to stay at a hotel. It seems like his story was getting creepy. He said his credit card was stolen in Hawaii and he has no place to stay. He said he is going to stay at a hotel for two days, but the next day I got a message from him. He said he is at the police station and gave them my number.

I took my advices from my sisters not to reply any of his message and he finally left me alone. He is starting to ask people around about me now. The deaf community in Tucson is ceratinly small and people do know who I am. I encourage anyone who personally know me or have heard of my name. Do not get involved or give out my info.

I really hope he is going home soon. It does creep me out! Be cautious who you talk to and hang out with people who you just met. A friend who knows me very well told me that one of her friends contacted her and asked where I live. It is dreadful.
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so sorry you had to go thru this with creepy person...glad that you are safe and sound..:)
 
pek1 said:
Perhaps it would help you if you went to your options and where it says "location," delete that you are in Tucson, AZ. DoofusMama and I are both in Minnesota, though we know where each other are, neither of us (and neither should you) give the actual town of where we live. I had a problem like this on another website where people found out who I was and created problems for me at a college. I'm a guy, so, if it happened to me, it sure as heck can happen to you.

By the way, it was only "creepy" (your words) because you actually didn't expect someone to track you. In reality, well, welcome to the real world where anything is possible. There are ways to screen people and, if you have an email address, change what your name is, if it's even changing or dropping your last name and location. People here on alldeaf, if they want to contact me and go off list, know that they pm me, then they receive my email address and follow my specific instructions. As I said, I'm a guy and don't trust someone new who wants to meet me; you, as a woman, should be equally concerned and wary.
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I have changed the location and deleted two pictures in my profile and avatar. Honestly, this is not something I would expect. I appericate your advices. I was being naive and don't expect it can happen to me.
 
Heath said:
So much for being a British gentleman ..... If he really wanted to visit you the right way then he would have done it in an appropriate manner. I hope nothing else bad happens and he finally leaves you alone and chalk it up to a very good learning experience and what Lucia does is exactly what I do that way I have a whole less problems. One e-mail for people who I know in real life and another e-mail for people who I don't know and then another e-mail for free games online that ask for e-mail in order to play some games online for free etc. Also if you are going to use a credit card then use a Visa gift card which means that you still can use Visa much like if say you use a Walmart gift card right? same idea. Ask your local bank about a Visa gift card then the bank will help you with one so that you can order things off the internet and you will not have to worry about a traditional credit card. Hope this helps and God Bless, you are in my prayers and he really needs to leave you alone and go home either that or he goes to jail, simple as that. Never have a bleeding heart or give in to him !!!! Never, I can't tell you how many times I have told another women to never have a bleeding heart or give in to him. Some women do listen to me and some women don't listen to me and yell at me accusing me of being a racist or whatever it is then a few days or weeks later. She ends up in the hospital or worse and I don't tell her " I told you so ". I just leave her alone and let her bad experience speak for itself and hopefully she learns from it. Please never have a bleeding heart or give in to him. Never !!!! Never !!! Never !!!!! Please okay ??? Thank you .....
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I appericate your concern. Yes, you are right, if he wants to visit me. He needs to do it in the right way. I didn't have a problem with him before until he drops a huge bomb on me. It is like HELLO! I'm in town so you need to come and get me from the airport. A long time ago like in Janurary, when he and I spoke online. I remember he was trying to pressure me that he has to come to Tucson in June. I told him on many occasions that it is not a good time for me to show him around. I have a summer class and I can't show him around like I want to. I don't leave any of my friends at home and expect them to wait until I get home. I respect my guests when they come to stay over my place. I rather them to come on my own terms or find the perfect time to make an advance plan.

Normal people would make an advance plan and communicate clear before they are going to stay at somebody's house. He didn't do this and I'm glad that I'm not stupid enough to fall for it.
 
Cane Corso said:
Actually, no you would not believe this. He is a deaf guy from England who I met through a friend. He is not a scam, but seems to act like a stalker for some apperance reasons. I only met him one time at a formal party called Remark! Film and TV awards. The deaf community in England does know who he is and he went to Ovingdean Hall School.

After that, it has gotten really bad. I tried my best to keep it cool and mellow. I guess it didn't work.
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How about Boult (Sweetmind best friend)? He haven't change his location or whatever.
 
I am sorry to hear Cane Corso, but I am glad that you are safe. It is the one of the reasons why I am takin' my time to get to know the person first -- no matter if, it takes a year or more. If, he has no patience for me .. then, I will tell him to take his hike. I detect men to see, if they have any virtues or not. ;) No address or full names givin' out, if it takes me 5 years to get to know him. He has to learn to respect at my wish - if, not - then :bye:

I am too old for head games. I am tired of men's thinkin' of one thing or another. I am 45 years old --- I am not in 20's or somethin' years old.
 
Cane Corso said:
Last two semesters ago, I was in England and I met a guy through one of my friends online. I was being nice and polite so I said he is more than welcome to visit Tucson. He and I had a conversation online and he wanted to visit me in June. I warned him that June and first week of July are not a good month to visit. I have a summer class at the UA. He and I talk online once in a while and it was nothing personal until just recently. I had no clue that he came here and stalked me from England. He texted me and said he is in Tucson. It was out of blue and told me he needs to be picked up from the airport. Weird!

I was shocked and had no idea. I said I have to ask my sisters since my parents are out of town. They are not comfortable about him staying here and I wasn't either. I told him no, he needs to stay at a hotel. It seems like his story was getting creepy. He said his credit card was stolen in Hawaii and he has no place to stay. He said he is going to stay at a hotel for two days, but the next day I got a message from him. He said he is at the police station and gave them my number.

I took my advices from my sisters not to reply any of his message and he finally left me alone. He is starting to ask people around about me now. The deaf community in Tucson is ceratinly small and people do know who I am. I encourage anyone who personally know me or have heard of my name. Do not get involved or give out my info.

I really hope he is going home soon. It does creep me out! Be cautious who you talk to and hang out with people who you just met. A friend who knows me very well told me that one of her friends contacted her and asked where I live. It is dreadful.
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I agree that you should not reply to him anymore.. yes, do not give out PHone # and such.. you are right about Tucson that deaf community is smaller than Phoenix. (but I like here anyway cuz it is my hometown I grew up in)

****last paragraph deleted**** never mind.. I missed few posts here and there.
 
I am glad you are safe. Yea I never give out personnel information. If I feel creepy for the first time then I dont answer to that person. I gotta stay safe for the sake.
 
Hey, everybody, here's a REAL address:

Pomeranian
237 Arf Arf Lane
Doggyville, NH 12345
 
this thread makes me jaw drop, only because I know who you're talking about, cane corso. he told me that he was coming to america and he made it seem like he had plans set in stone (plans such as lodging, initerary, etc). then out of the blue, he immed me to complain about how boring tucson was. last I heard, he was planning on

even though he's my friend, I don't blame you. I probabaly would've freaked out too. the stolen credit card bit does sound fishy.
 
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