I know that right now there's really nothing that I can do with my friend Dani (see the confused as hell post in The Closet) but I did get a free tarot reading about it.....and I am kinda ambigious about tarot readings and stuff like that....but on the other hand the reading that I got has made me thingk...anyone else got a story or anything?
The question is: I've had a crush on my friend Danielle for a year or
so. We were very good friends until this semester. As far as I know,
Dani saw me as a good friend, and was not aware that I liked her. (and I
was extremely confused about that, since I knew she was straight)
However in the past few weeks she found out or realized that I had a crush on
her. The college psycologist called me and told me that she knew all
about this incident and that Dani was very uncomfortable with the whole
sitution and did not want to be my friend any more. I have not spoken to
Dani in a month and am terrifed about contacting her. Yet at the same
time, this whole sitution has devastated me to put it very mildly. I am
over my crush. I understand Dani's reaction, but am devestated at the
loss of one of my best friends. I am so scared that Dani and I will
never be friends again because of what happened. I am scared to contact
anyone (eg her, mutal friends etc) but I want to know if Dani and I will
ever be friends again. I miss her so much.
They included these notes:
First Name:
Birthday: 09/09/1979
Gender: Female
Comments: <none>
Hi
Welcome to the Free Tarot Network. My name is Alcyone and it's my
pleasure to read for you. I am providing you with a one-card reading for the
question I have posed for you, "What do I need to do to restart a
friendship with Dani?"
I use the Robin Wood Tarot. After concentrating on your question and
asking the Universe to provide a clear and concise answer, I pulled the
card of the Three of Pentacles, reversed. The card in this deck shows
the image of a man working on a sculpture or wall decoration of some sort
that involves gold, colors, Celtic knots and feathers. The man works
without interference on his own design in his own fashion and time frame.
Draped through the middle of his work are three golden pentacles. You
can see this card at http://lighthouse.ncf.ca/robin/3_of_pents.jpg (©
Robin Wood; Used with Permission)
The Threes of any suit represent the first stage of a process
completed. Obviously you have put a lot of effort into this friendship - you
have actually made an "investment" of time and energy with Dani. You're
still feeding a lot of emotional effort into the situation.
The Three of Pentacles confirms that you have laid down the foundation
necessary to achieve your goal. What is required now is persistence,
time and patience. The message of the Three of Pentacles is that
consistent effort will bring fulfillment and success - however, this Three of
Pentacles came up reversed (upside down). This would indicate blocks or
delays are currently in the way of achieving your goal, but it does not
mean your goal is not achievable. It just means that it may take more
time and/or persistence to get what you want.
Let's talk about what's going on for a moment beyond the cards. You
probably scared Dani. You are both pretty young. My intuition tells me
that she's never had a friendship before with a woman who wasn't straight.
So now she doesn't really know what to do. She doesn't know if it's
"ok" to resume her friendship with you because you've shaken up her
comfort zone. There's also the chance that you have stirred up unexplored
feelings in her, but my intuition tells me that's probably not it. She's
just confused.
I know nothing about this college psychologist, but it seems to me that
if she were doing her job she would try to get this friendship back on
track. It feels to me that the friendship is perhaps a little bent, but
not broken. My counsel to you (as a completely objective, yet older,
outsider) is that you should try to talk to Dani. Find a public situation
(where she may feel more comfortable for now) such as going for coffee
and explain things to her. Give her space, give her time - but you
should have your say. I wouldn't go through mutual friends, that's too
"high school". As a grownup you should handle this like a grown-up. If Dani
can't get past her (perceived) prejudices to see that she is throwing
away a good friend (and who among us has so many friends that we can
just toss them away?) then perhaps she's not the right friend for you.
Don't push things with her - just nudge them a bit. Use humor and make
sure she knows that you no longer have sexual feelings, just
friendship, toward her. If you can get her to talk with you then you'll have made
a huge stride toward mending this friendship. I wish you the very best
of luck!
The question is: I've had a crush on my friend Danielle for a year or
so. We were very good friends until this semester. As far as I know,
Dani saw me as a good friend, and was not aware that I liked her. (and I
was extremely confused about that, since I knew she was straight)
However in the past few weeks she found out or realized that I had a crush on
her. The college psycologist called me and told me that she knew all
about this incident and that Dani was very uncomfortable with the whole
sitution and did not want to be my friend any more. I have not spoken to
Dani in a month and am terrifed about contacting her. Yet at the same
time, this whole sitution has devastated me to put it very mildly. I am
over my crush. I understand Dani's reaction, but am devestated at the
loss of one of my best friends. I am so scared that Dani and I will
never be friends again because of what happened. I am scared to contact
anyone (eg her, mutal friends etc) but I want to know if Dani and I will
ever be friends again. I miss her so much.
They included these notes:
First Name:
Birthday: 09/09/1979
Gender: Female
Comments: <none>
Hi
Welcome to the Free Tarot Network. My name is Alcyone and it's my
pleasure to read for you. I am providing you with a one-card reading for the
question I have posed for you, "What do I need to do to restart a
friendship with Dani?"
I use the Robin Wood Tarot. After concentrating on your question and
asking the Universe to provide a clear and concise answer, I pulled the
card of the Three of Pentacles, reversed. The card in this deck shows
the image of a man working on a sculpture or wall decoration of some sort
that involves gold, colors, Celtic knots and feathers. The man works
without interference on his own design in his own fashion and time frame.
Draped through the middle of his work are three golden pentacles. You
can see this card at http://lighthouse.ncf.ca/robin/3_of_pents.jpg (©
Robin Wood; Used with Permission)
The Threes of any suit represent the first stage of a process
completed. Obviously you have put a lot of effort into this friendship - you
have actually made an "investment" of time and energy with Dani. You're
still feeding a lot of emotional effort into the situation.
The Three of Pentacles confirms that you have laid down the foundation
necessary to achieve your goal. What is required now is persistence,
time and patience. The message of the Three of Pentacles is that
consistent effort will bring fulfillment and success - however, this Three of
Pentacles came up reversed (upside down). This would indicate blocks or
delays are currently in the way of achieving your goal, but it does not
mean your goal is not achievable. It just means that it may take more
time and/or persistence to get what you want.
Let's talk about what's going on for a moment beyond the cards. You
probably scared Dani. You are both pretty young. My intuition tells me
that she's never had a friendship before with a woman who wasn't straight.
So now she doesn't really know what to do. She doesn't know if it's
"ok" to resume her friendship with you because you've shaken up her
comfort zone. There's also the chance that you have stirred up unexplored
feelings in her, but my intuition tells me that's probably not it. She's
just confused.
I know nothing about this college psychologist, but it seems to me that
if she were doing her job she would try to get this friendship back on
track. It feels to me that the friendship is perhaps a little bent, but
not broken. My counsel to you (as a completely objective, yet older,
outsider) is that you should try to talk to Dani. Find a public situation
(where she may feel more comfortable for now) such as going for coffee
and explain things to her. Give her space, give her time - but you
should have your say. I wouldn't go through mutual friends, that's too
"high school". As a grownup you should handle this like a grown-up. If Dani
can't get past her (perceived) prejudices to see that she is throwing
away a good friend (and who among us has so many friends that we can
just toss them away?) then perhaps she's not the right friend for you.
Don't push things with her - just nudge them a bit. Use humor and make
sure she knows that you no longer have sexual feelings, just
friendship, toward her. If you can get her to talk with you then you'll have made
a huge stride toward mending this friendship. I wish you the very best
of luck!
