Advice needed. Please~!!!!

[MelissaWatt]

I have two pairs of analog hearing aids that work for me and two other pairs that are in need of minor service. I am currently in a pair of custom analog that I have been trying to get used to for 2months now after a 8week trial on digitals that sent me into complete anxiety issues and still trying to come to terms with. ( I have worn analog for 45 yrs and tried digitals twice now)
I am trying to decide whether to go back to my old pair and stay with them as long as they are able to work and given that I have basically 4 pairs to live on. Or to continue trying to adjust with the custom pair that have a new updated analog trimpot. I am frustrated that I have not adjusted to these but feel that if I go back to my analog that in the future I will continue to struggle with making a change.
My anxiety is so bad and I for the life of me can't figure out why I am making this so hard on myself. It all about making a choice a decision. My husband who has been supportive is growing tired of my crying and being upset keeps telling me that I have a choice, an option. He told me.. make a decision and move forward. I just don't know what to do when I know that it may very well be that I will have to move to digital someday.. the question remains will I have a better adjustment time later or best to stick with the new analog or hope that the old analog which I love will last me as long as I live..
Help Please!!! Advice needed. Emotionally tired to the point where I don't want to live anymore and I am seeking therapy with a psychiatrist.. Anxiety/Depression meds are not all good because there are so many that will make you lose more hearing. ( look it up. it's real )
Profound hearing loss and living in extreme anxiety with my choices. Just need a sounding board to help me move on~!

 

[Bottesini]

Advice needed. Emotionally tired to the point where I don't want to live anymore and seeking therapy. Anxiety/Depression meds are not all good because there are so many that will make you lose more hearing.
Profound hearing loss and living in extreme anxiety.

That is a ridiculous statement.

You need to see a psychiatrist sooner than soon and faithfully undergo treatment for your anxiety and depression.

You say you don't want to live, but medicine could lose more hearing?

If you are dead, how much you hear is a moot point.

Plus it isn't true, about the medication. There are plenty of things your doctor could prescribe with little risk of damaging hearing.

 

[caz12]

I have two pairs of analog hearing aids that work for me and two other pairs that are in need of minor service. I am currently in a pair of custom analog that I have been trying to get used to for 2months now after a 8week trial on digitals that sent me into complete anxiety issues and still trying to come to terms with. ( I have worn analog for 45 yrs and tried digitals twice now)
I am trying to decide whether to go back to my old pair and stay with them as long as they are able to work and given that I have basically 4 pairs to live on. Or to continue trying to adjust with the custom pair that have a new updated analog trimpot. I am frustrated that I have not adjusted to these but feel that if I go back to my analog that in the future I will continue to struggle with making a change.
My anxiety is so bad and I for the life of me can't figure out why I am making this so hard on myself. It all about making a choice a decision. My husband who has been supportive is growing tired of my crying and being upset keeps telling me that I have a choice, an option. He told me.. make a decision and move forward. I just don't know what to do when I know that it may very well be that I will have to move to digital someday.. the question remains will I have a better adjustment time later or best to stick with the new analog or hope that the old analog which I love will last me as long as I live..
Help Please!!! Advice needed. Emotionally tired to the point where I don't want to live anymore and seeking therapy. Anxiety/Depression meds are not all good because there are so many that will make you lose more hearing.
Profound hearing loss and living in extreme anxiety.

you do have problems but hearing aids only part of it....suggest you talk to proffesional

 

[MelissaWatt]

That is a ridiculous statement.

You need to see a psychiatrist sooner than soon and faithfully undergo treatment for your anxiety and depression.

You say you don't want to live, but medicine could lose more hearing?

If you are dead, how much you hear is a moot point.

Plus it isn't true, about the medication. There are plenty of things your doctor could prescribe with little risk of damaging hearing.

I had an appt to see a therapist.. I had to leave town for two weeks to see my dying grandmother and it was cancelled. I have to wait til the end of october to see a therapist. I am seeking help, I know I need help. My anxiety is through the roof so to speak. I agree with you that there are meds to help but look it up.. antidepressants that affect hearing. You will see that there are meds out there that are a risk to hearing loss. I am already at profound and I don't want to lose anymore. I was very happy with my old analogs and still have them. I am just trying to figure out why I am pushing myself to this point when I know at some point in my life I will have to change. The change is what is affecting me. I have lived on them for 46 yrs and it's all I know and the digitals I tried had me in overload and made other things complicated.. calling my parents was a pain, the constant switching in the digitals between programs on its own., I could no longer hear my kids the way I did.. they sounded abnormal to me, certain sounds that I couldn't accept were like nails on a chalk board.. and when adjusted it altered everything else I heard. music… it was awful and i love music. I am just upset and at a loss.. I am just seeking a sounding board. I know I need a therapist.. and given that the way I feel and depression runs in our family.. I am taking that seriously.

 

[MelissaWatt]

you do have problems but hearing aids only part of it....suggest you talk to proffesional

I had an appt that was cancelled to go see my dying grandmother. Given that I am a retiree dependent. Getting an appt on base is complicated and usually retirees are the last on the list to get help. To find someone who can help me with the hearing aid portion is hard. Honestly, I am ready to throw in the towel with the custom analog hearing aids and put back in my old ones but that could set me back even more when I will have to move over to digitals.. that is my problem. I am over thinking a lot of different things.. I was raised to be independent and not rely on things.. I am very conflicted right now.

 

[caz12]

hunny you got a few problems I strongly advice you seek proffessianl help both for your h/a and mental help.but if getting it of your chest I hope it helps

 

[MelissaWatt]

hunny you got a few problems I strongly advice you seek proffessianl help both for your h/a and mental help.but if getting it of your chest I hope it helps

Thank you , I am going to get help. I know I need it.

 

[Angel1989]

Since you are having such difficulty with hearing aids, have you considered getting a CI? I was in a coma for 31 days with a very low chance of survival. I woke up totally deaf but excited to be alive. Yes, life has change dramatically for us but I am here. If you spend all your time worrying about what MIGHT happen in your future, you will miss what is important today. Are your children healthy? Is your husband healthy? Can you pay your bills? Do you have a roof over your head? You can make yourself seriously ill by worrying about things you have no control over. Getting old is one of those things. You may not even go into a nursing home. We have no control over when we die. I think you do need help but I also think you need to count your blessings. Concentrate on the positives in your life, you seem to have many. Being deaf is not the end of the world.

*I replied to both of her posts here. Her other post was about her being scared of getting old.

 

[Frisky Feline]

Since you are having such difficulty with hearing aids, have you considered getting a CI? I was in a coma for 31 days with a very low chance of survival. I woke up totally deaf but excited to be alive. Yes, life has change dramatically for us but I am here. If you spend all your time worrying about what MIGHT happen in your future, you will miss what is important today. Are your children healthy? Is your husband healthy? Can you pay your bills? Do you have a roof over your head? You can make yourself seriously ill by worrying about things you have no control over. Getting old is one of those things. You may not even go into a nursing home. We have no control over when we die. I think you do need help but I also think you need to count your blessings. Concentrate on the positives in your life, you seem to have many. Being deaf is not the end of the world.

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I didn't know you were in a coma. I see your point. Glad you are ok.

 

[whatdidyousay!]

Since you are having such difficulty with hearing aids, have you considered getting a CI? I was in a coma for 31 days with a very low chance of survival. I woke up totally deaf but excited to be alive. Yes, life has change dramatically for us but I am here. If you spend all your time worrying about what MIGHT happen in your future, you will miss what is important today. Are your children healthy? Is your husband healthy? Can you pay your bills? Do you have a roof over your head? You can make yourself seriously ill by worrying about things you have no control over. Getting old is one of those things. You may not even go into a nursing home. We have no control over when we die. I think you do need help but I also think you need to count your blessings. Concentrate on the positives in your life, you seem to have many. Being deaf is not the end of the world.

She has anxiety and depression and that is making everything feel worst than it's , she is waiting to see someone and you know how mess up military
medical system is , people have to wait forever to see a doctor .

 

[Silvara]

I think you do need help but I also think you need to count your blessings. Concentrate on the positives in your life, you seem to have many. Being deaf is not the end of the world.

I'm very glad you survived your coma. However as someone who has been on medication for major depression since 13 years old and has had a total of 42 electroconvulsive therapy treatments a few years ago and while I will never consent to that again I am on multiple medications to this day... Someone in the grip of severe depression and anxiety often cannot just look at the positive things in life and consider themself lucky. If that were so easy I would not have undergone such awful methods of treatment and almost succeeded at suicide while in a ward with 5 patients and 4 nurses watching us.

Depression is a very serious illness and I really hope the OP can hang on until the medical system there gets her treatment.

 

[Angel1989]

I'm very glad you survived your coma. However as someone who has been on medication for major depression since 13 years old and has had a total of 42 electroconvulsive therapy treatments a few years ago and while I will never consent to that again I am on multiple medications to this day... Someone in the grip of severe depression and anxiety often cannot just look at the positive things in life and consider themself lucky. If that were so easy I would not have undergone such awful methods of treatment and almost succeeded at suicide while in a ward with 5 patients and 4 nurses watching us.

Depression is a very serious illness and I really hope the OP can hang on until the medical system there gets her treatment.

I never said that depression was not a serious illness. IF you read my post, I said getting help was a good idea. We are not doctors and we do not give medical advice. We can however, share our stories, experiences in hopes that maybe someone in need can relate just a little bit. If you read her others posts in other threads, she was having major anxiety regarding her new hearing aids.

 

[Silvara]

Ok

 

[MelissaWatt]

Since you are having such difficulty with hearing aids, have you considered getting a CI? I was in a coma for 31 days with a very low chance of survival. I woke up totally deaf but excited to be alive. Yes, life has change dramatically for us but I am here. If you spend all your time worrying about what MIGHT happen in your future, you will miss what is important today. Are your children healthy? Is your husband healthy? Can you pay your bills? Do you have a roof over your head? You can make yourself seriously ill by worrying about things you have no control over. Getting old is one of those things. You may not even go into a nursing home. We have no control over when we die. I think you do need help but I also think you need to count your blessings. Concentrate on the positives in your life, you seem to have many. Being deaf is not the end of the world.

*I replied to both of her posts here. Her other post was about her being scared of getting old.

I am not a candidate for CI. You are right about looking at all the positives. It is hard to do that when have lived on my analog hearing aids for 45/46 yrs depending on how you want to look at it. That is all that I know. I have tried digitals twice now. I spent time trying to get acclimated to them. When your audi of 14 yrs just ups and leaves with out telling you anything and you are expected to trust someone else to help you. You find a place and all they can say to your face is.. I am sorry, they don't make analogs anymore( shocker), here is the price list for your hearing aids ( shocker ) and you will just have to make do ( shocker). I asked to send off my old pairs to be repaired and was told that " I don't' know where to send them and if they can even repair these". I spent 8 weeks crying, trying to listen to all the new things, some things were not what I expected. music was horrible and was my life as was hearing my kids and husband. it altered everything. Being told you can do this, be strong, it's just a trivial thing. To me_ it means everything. I even contacted all the hearing aid companies begging them to help me.
Yes, I am getting help, it just takes time.. just like the current audi .. it takes time for your brain to adjust. I feel like I should of already adjusted.. my body and brain won't let me. Being HOH and close to Deaf is mind blowing and crushing me. I never did let this bother me my entire life, I was raised in mainstreamed in school, no need for extra help from alarms, flashing lights. I am basically stuck between two worlds trying to survive. Only a few would ever understand why this is affecting me more than I really want to or ever care. Waking up in panic, spend my day crying and shaking/trembling, and not being able to sleep with out a sleep aid.. I know.. it's bad..I just want my old analogs to live as long as I do and I will be fine.

 

[diehardbiker]

Well, I was born Deaf, never experience the sounds... You said mind blowing... Okay... what did I miss? Whats so special about the sense called sounds? I have been pounder on that question... Don't get me wrong, we are in same age group, just that I am bit older than you.

Society has evolved, technology has evolved, we all have to deal with changes. I know it is hard, but it is the way it is deal with it or else.

I am not a candidate for CI. You are right about looking at all the positives. It is hard to do that when have lived on my analog hearing aids for 45/46 yrs depending on how you want to look at it. That is all that I know. I have tried digitals twice now. I spent time trying to get acclimated to them. When your audi of 14 yrs just ups and leaves with out telling you anything and you are expected to trust someone else to help you. You find a place and all they can say to your face is.. I am sorry, they don't make analogs anymore( shocker), here is the price list for your hearing aids ( shocker ) and you will just have to make do ( shocker). I asked to send off my old pairs to be repaired and was told that " I don't' know where to send them and if they can even repair these". I spent 8 weeks crying, trying to listen to all the new things, some things were not what I expected. music was horrible and was my life as was hearing my kids and husband. it altered everything. Being told you can do this, be strong, it's just a trivial thing. To me_ it means everything. I even contacted all the hearing aid companies begging them to help me.
Yes, I am getting help, it just takes time.. just like the current audi .. it takes time for your brain to adjust. I feel like I should of already adjusted.. my body and brain won't let me. Being HOH and close to Deaf is mind blowing and crushing me. I never did let this bother me my entire life, I was raised in mainstreamed in school, no need for extra help from alarms, flashing lights. I am basically stuck between two worlds trying to survive. Only a few would ever understand why this is affecting me more than I really want to or ever care. Waking up in panic, spend my day crying and shaking/trembling, and not being able to sleep with out a sleep aid.. I know.. it's bad..I just want my old analogs to live as long as I do and I will be fine.

 

[MelissaWatt]

Well, I was born Deaf, never experience the sounds... You said mind blowing... Okay... what did I miss? Whats so special about the sense called sounds? I have been pounder on that question... Don't get me wrong, we are in same age group, just that I am bit older than you.

Society has evolved, technology has evolved, we all have to deal with changes. I know it is hard, but it is the way it is deal with it or else.

I never realized how my hearing was until just recently. All of my audiologist that I had never used the terminology profound hearing loss, until recently. Everything I ever heard was normal to me. Nothing unusual and never thought twice about if I was missing out in conversations, or what I heard in the house, outside.. you name it. It was an mind blowing event for me. I don't expect you or anyone else to understand. When you have your husband and kids finally tell you.. " you really do miss out on what we are talking about", What we hear is what we want you to hear with the digitals, sometimes you come in to conversation and you say things that don't match up to what we are talking about, why can't you just accept it?? " You are right, but sometimes to much technology is not good. I like what I had and it worked just fine. I don't need all the extra programs, beeps, noise limiting environment. I heard things just the way I liked it for 45/46 yrs. Simplicity is all that I need. My family and kids have issues when the internet is down, microwave broke, cell phone dies.They all need a quick fix. Me, my analogs still work, my first pair of digitals completely disintegrated. Anyway, some technology is good and too much can be bad.. simple as that.
My apologies if this makes no sense to you.

 

[sonocativo]

I never realized how my hearing was until just recently. All of my audiologist that I had never used the terminology profound hearing loss, until recently. Everything I ever heard was normal to me. Nothing unusual and never thought twice about if I was missing out in conversations, or what I heard in the house, outside.. you name it. It was an mind blowing event for me. I don't expect you or anyone else to understand. When you have your husband and kids finally tell you.. " you really do miss out on what we are talking about", What we hear is what we want you to hear with the digitals, sometimes you come in to conversation and you say things that don't match up to what we are talking about, why can't you just accept it?? " You are right, but sometimes to much technology is not good. I like what I had and it worked just fine. I don't need all the extra programs, beeps, noise limiting environment. I heard things just the way I liked it for 45/46 yrs. Simplicity is all that I need. My family and kids have issues when the internet is down, microwave broke, cell phone dies.They all need a quick fix. Me, my analogs still work, my first pair of digitals completely disintegrated. Anyway, some technology is good and too much can be bad.. simple as that.
My apologies if this makes no sense to you.

I went from anologs to digitals and the sounds are so much better, crisps and clear, dont know why you are afraid of digitals... same thing as product-wise, just different technologies used. Its amazing. Sadly neither work for me anymore so I am getting cochlear implants soon. I myself miss out on a lot. My son sings songs to me and I have no clue, my wife will run in and say, can you hear him, he is singing a song to you ( songs he makes up, I love dad...ect...) so yes, it is frustrating not to hear him and my wife has to relay to me what he is saying as it is a spontanious thing with him, If we stop him to come over to me and sing it, he will shy away and stop singing. So I do miss out on some very important things with my son, as well as my family, I am mostly in the dark with everything. Stop making excuses and brace the change, it takes a couple weeks but by then you wont even realize you made the change as you get used to it. I did.
Now, to go extreme, Get CI and supposedly the best, most say they will never go back to hearing aids even if they could. I am about to find out myself in a few months down the road here.

 

[MelissaWatt]

I went from anologs to digitals and the sounds are so much better, crisps and clear, dont know why you are afraid of digitals... same thing as product-wise, just different technologies used. Its amazing. Sadly neither work for me anymore so I am getting cochlear implants soon. I myself miss out on a lot. My son sings songs to me and I have no clue, my wife will run in and say, can you hear him, he is singing a song to you ( songs he makes up, I love dad...ect...) so yes, it is frustrating not to hear him and my wife has to relay to me what he is saying as it is a spontanious thing with him, If we stop him to come over to me and sing it, he will shy away and stop singing. So I do miss out on some very important things with my son, as well as my family, I am mostly in the dark with everything. Stop making excuses and brace the change, it takes a couple weeks but by then you wont even realize you made the change as you get used to it. I did.
Now, to go extreme, Get CI and supposedly the best, most say they will never go back to hearing aids even if they could. I am about to find out myself in a few months down the road here.

Thank you for sharing with me. I honestly don't know why I can't seem to embrace the change. Stubborn, hard headed, not sure.. but I am not a candidate for CI and have been told several times. Good luck on your endeavors and hope that this helps you to a better outcome~!

 

[sonocativo]

Thank you for sharing with me. I honestly don't know why I can't seem to embrace the change. Stubborn, hard headed, not sure.. but I am not a candidate for CI and have been told several times. Good luck on your endeavors and hope that this helps you to a better outcome~!

I myself am very stubborn and hardheaded, but lately I have just fell into the " What the hell rut " and just jumping in with both feet, we only live once.

 

[MelissaWatt]

I myself am very stubborn and hardheaded, but lately I have just fell into the " What the hell rut " and just jumping in with both feet, we only live once.

I think once I can gain my balance back and come clear headed about all the things on my plate I can fully jump in with both feet.. Right now, I am just standing on the edge of something deep and just need someone who has been there and understand. ~ I would love to just be like " What the Hell and go for it". I am leaning on God right now and trying to get an answer on what to do. Thanks for your support~!!!!