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Lil_country_gal

Lil_country_gal

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I'm in a wedding this weekend and i'm a bridesmaid I only have one problem I hate the groom. The bride is very very close to me! but the groom in my opinion is controling her not physically or anything but he is trying to make her move away when we feel she really doesn't want to. He always complains about his job but won't get up and go look for a new job and it's really difficult I love the bride dearly and he's ok to her but he's also very disrespectful to me and my family. We've told the bride we're worried but she won't admit to him controling her but she also complains of it all the time. I don't know what to do anymore it's driving me in sane i dont even wanna be in this wedding because of him the only reason i'm still in it is because i love the bride so much HELP
 
Its tough call. Your bride is now in "blind" to the love. She just don't know what to do without him. Sometime it may be werid that she might like to be controlled becauseshe like have someone to look over her and caring for her all the time. In your case , if it s not physcially or emotional abuse. I just dont see what is wrong with it except that his husband dont like you and your family.
 
How long have they been together?

It is a tough spot for you to be in, my bf's sister is going through something similar. She just got engaged to her bf of 8 years and the family doesnt like him.

My only advice is... be there for her. Voice your concerns in a mature and adult manner but be ready for her to be upset.
 
Live and let live

How good is this friend of yours? Have you noticed how happy she is when she is with him?

Will she keep friend with you if you gentle tell her the truth of your opinion about her man afterward, how would she handle this situation?

If your friend still adamant that he is the one for her, please be happy for her and hope your wrong about her man?

If she is listen to you, you would tell her she is deserves better to find a better personalities man than this scum groom!
 
Yikes !! ummm it is hard to doing that :-S

I was hoping so not my cousin and her boyfriend to get married FORGET IT!!! all of my family dont like her boyfriend very much but it is all stuck cause she have 3 kids by him so they are common in law that is all .. I really hate him very much!.
 
Been there, done that....I know how you're feeling. I felt almost the same way with my little brother's wedding. His wife is so dang controlling! She has always acted indifferent to me. Grrr...I wan't even in a good mood the whole night I had to stand around next to my brother at his wedding, just because of her.:whip:
 
Opal said:
How good is this friend of yours? Have you noticed how happy she is when she is with him?
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She's not my friend she's my big sister she says she's happy but complains all the time like omg this summer we reached record highs in Minnesota my sister has severe asthma and can not stand the heat but her fiance wouldn't even turn the air on for her until my mom told him he had to!!! idk the wedding is saturday and i can't turn anything around oh yea and they got engaged after 6 months of knowing each other i'm sorry but i think that is alittle to quick expecially for him just comming out of a divorice it wasn't even finalized before they started dating
 
I've tried talking to her so has the whole family and rehershal is only is 5 hours there is no turning back now
 
I can understand your concern but you can´t do anything because she is an adult and know what she doing. If she is happy with him then let her... Let everyone to experience their mistakes and then improve their mistakes next time.
 
Lil_country_gal said:
I'm in a wedding this weekend and i'm a bridesmaid I only have one problem I hate the groom. The bride is very very close to me! but the groom in my opinion is controling her not physically or anything but he is trying to make her move away when we feel she really doesn't want to. He always complains about his job but won't get up and go look for a new job and it's really difficult I love the bride dearly and he's ok to her but he's also very disrespectful to me and my family. We've told the bride we're worried but she won't admit to him controling her but she also complains of it all the time. I don't know what to do anymore it's driving me in sane i dont even wanna be in this wedding because of him the only reason i'm still in it is because i love the bride so much HELP
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Well it is hard for a groom to change the job... Nowadays jobs are scarce...
 
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