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[sonocativo]

Ok, Im venting a bit here as well as seeking some advice I suppose.
My wife, dont know what her deal is, I am disabled and stay at home to take care of my son 24/7 while she works a typical day.
She is jealous that she has to work and I get to care for our son, yet she wants a divorce ( I am disabled due to spinal injuries as well as being deaf )
Problems all started after my injury due to financial issues and its not as big as she makes it out to be.
So, since friday my hearing aids were sent for repairs as they normally are every so often and I live in a world of silence till I get them back.
On a normal night my wife and I are on our laptops, she researches stuff for her mutts ( show dogs ) and I am here or another site for all my interests from airbrushing to automotive, playing with my son and playing his Mickey Mouse shows on TV. Well, last night I pull up Netflix to watch a movie with cc as I cant hear it. Afterwards I am trying to talk to my wife and she is just flat out ignoring me ( she can hear ) until I touched her arm then she answers me ( she normally gets my attention just waving her arm) so I ask why she wasnt answering me and she responds with " Because Im deaf like you" All that did was piss me off, she has been pulling stunts like this for some time now, and I dont get what her problem is.
Guess I will be glad when we do get a divorce, just wish I could hold all this shit against her in court when the time comes, especially her 2 bratty a** teens and their comments/attitude.

 

[dereksbicycles]

I have a hearing girlfriend so I sympathy with you. We have some issues in our relationship.

I would save them for other thread or you can talk to me over private messages. Just to let you know I feel for you.

 

[Jane B.]

Ok, Im venting a bit here as well as seeking some advice I suppose.
My wife, dont know what her deal is, I am disabled and stay at home to take care of my son 24/7 while she works a typical day.
She is jealous that she has to work and I get to care for our son, yet she wants a divorce ( I am disabled due to spinal injuries as well as being deaf )
Problems all started after my injury due to financial issues and its not as big as she makes it out to be.
So, since friday my hearing aids were sent for repairs as they normally are every so often and I live in a world of silence till I get them back.
On a normal night my wife and I are on our laptops, she researches stuff for her mutts ( show dogs ) and I am here or another site for all my interests from airbrushing to automotive, playing with my son and playing his Mickey Mouse shows on TV. Well, last night I pull up Netflix to watch a movie with cc as I cant hear it. Afterwards I am trying to talk to my wife and she is just flat out ignoring me ( she can hear ) until I touched her arm then she answers me ( she normally gets my attention just waving her arm) so I ask why she wasnt answering me and she responds with " Because Im deaf like you" All that did was piss me off, she has been pulling stunts like this for some time now, and I dont get what her problem is.
Guess I will be glad when we do get a divorce, just wish I could hold all this shit against her in court when the time comes, especially her 2 bratty a** teens and their comments/attitude.

I guess I have been lucky over the years but every time I have sent an aid in my dispenser has had something I could use as a loaner. Not always up to the power of my own but something to keep me from being completely isolated. Also, I have hung on to at least one of my prior aids for just such times.

 

[sonocativo]

I have a hearing girlfriend so I sympathy with you. We have some issues in our relationship.

I would save them for other thread or you can talk to me over private messages. Just to let you know I feel for you.

Thanks, and Ill be in touch...
My second wife was hearing but she respected me, did everything she could for me, but her kids were wild and she chose them over me as I wasnt putting up with them. Her eldest totaled every car we had ranging from 16L to 36K in value each and I took him off the insurance as well as told them they werent driving anymore, none of them worked.

 

[sonocativo]

I guess I have been lucky over the years but every time I have sent an aid in my dispenser has had something I could use as a loaner. Not always up to the power of my own but something to keep me from being completely isolated. Also, I have hung on to at least one of my prior aids for just such times.

I had 2 extra sets, one was AIC (all in the canal ) which I couldnt hear anything from anymore, also an AIE ( all in the ear ) which barely heard turned to full volume, unfortunately they both broke, out of warranty so they were trashed as the audiologist said they were useless and couldnt be made to fit anyone else as well as I wanted to donate them but they would never fit anybody else as the hard plastic ear pieces were only made to fit me.

 

[caz12]

i not sure i understand,when you say second wife it makes it sound like you have third wife.the wife you have in your last paragraph she has bratty children not yours,and second wife had bratty teenagers not yours..
just get divorced be the parents of your kid.... the teenagers are your kid sibs so you going to have them in your life for your kids sake.....dont make it a dirty divorce do it then move on

 

[sonocativo]

i not sure i understand,when you say second wife it makes it sound like you have third wife.the wife you have in your last paragraph she has bratty children not yours,and second wife had bratty teenagers not yours..
just get divorced be the parents of your kid.... the teenagers are your kid sibs so you going to have them in your life for your kids sake.....dont make it a dirty divorce do it then move on

I am currently in my 3rd marriage, 2nd wifes kids were hers I had none with her.
My current wife (3rd marriage ) she has 2 teens and we had a son together. Her kids dont even get along with their father, I have talked to him and he is very cool and level headed, he even told me the kids are out of hand. so its not me.

 

[SeanB]

Ok, Im venting a bit here as well as seeking some advice I suppose.
My wife, dont know what her deal is, I am disabled and stay at home to take care of my son 24/7 while she works a typical day.
She is jealous that she has to work and I get to care for our son, yet she wants a divorce ( I am disabled due to spinal injuries as well as being deaf )
Problems all started afyter my injury due to financial issues and its not as big as she makes it out to be.
So, since friday my hearing aids were sent for repairs as they normally are every so often and I live in a world of silence till I get them back.
On a normal night my wife and I are on our laptops, she researches stuff for her mutts ( show dogs ) and I am here or another site for all my interests from airbrushing to automotive, playing with my son and playing his Mickey Mouse shows on TV. Well, last night I pull up Netflix to watch a movie with cc as I cant hear it. Afterwards I am trying to talk to my wife and she is just flat out ignoring me ( she can hear ) until I touched her arm then she answers me ( she normally gets my attention just waving her arm) so I ask why she wasnt answering me and she responds with " Because Im deaf like you" All that did was piss me off, she has been pulling stunts like this for some time now, and I dont get what her problem is.
Guess I will be glad when we do get a divorce, just wish I could hold all this shit against her in court when the time comes, especially her 2 bratty a** teens and their comments/attitude.

It can be any number of things, she may resent you for something you weren't aware may have offended her to something she might have been told by someone else or has her eyes on a potential guy, etc. I know you tried, but talk to her again, go somewhere without distractions and find out what went wrong and her intentions. Make your best decision from there, but like Caz said, don't let it escalate on bad terms. Aside from caring for your son, remember you also have a relationship to put time and effort into with your wife. Can't be passive and "let things fall into place". What do you want out of it? Good luck.

 

[caz12]

from my experience my first husband was real prick second is gay but we remained married live same house and we good parents...i can only say move on as quick as possible but she is mother of your child so dont run her down in front of them,its hard when you just want run away left in peace..my husband just come through door my stomach go over when he comes in cos another load of rows are going to start...you young enough to start over,i wished i could made that break when my husband came out of closet years ago to late now

 

[LoveBlue]

from my experience my first husband was real prick second is gay but we remained married live same house and we good parents...i can only say move on as quick as possible but she is mother of your child so dont run her down in front of them,its hard when you just want run away left in peace..my husband just come through door my stomach go over when he comes in cos another load of rows are going to start...you young enough to start over,i wished i could made that break when my husband came out of closet years ago to late now

It's never too late but it may be hard. Only you can decide if it's worth the effort.

 

[sonocativo]

from my experience my first husband was real prick second is gay but we remained married live same house and we good parents...i can only say move on as quick as possible but she is mother of your child so dont run her down in front of them,its hard when you just want run away left in peace..my husband just come through door my stomach go over when he comes in cos another load of rows are going to start...you young enough to start over,i wished i could made that break when my husband came out of closet years ago to late now

Ive never done anything to put her down, her kids are terror and so she sides with them mostly ( mothers istinct or love...whatever ) makes excuses for them... you need to hear the way they talk and treat her, I just dont put up with it. Besides Im 44 with an 80 year old body...it seems to feel at times from pain...lol
I love her and her kids as if they were my own, but she thinks I hate them and I dont, Im just strict and dont put up with their B.S. and she gives in too easy and let them do what they want. I know Im not their dad but Im not gonna let them get hurt and care for them as my own, but the way they act towards me.... they can kiss off !

 

[rockin'robin]

It's never too late but it may be hard. Only you can decide if it's worth the effort.

Ditto....been there, done that.....we only have 1 Life to live...how you opt to spend ur time, that's up to you....You're doing urself "no favors" by staying in a marriage when ur partner is "gay"!...Whether it's financial, still love him...a good father...whatever!...You're never too old to find Love or another companion that you can relate to and share some good laughs!....

But, it's ur life and if you opt to stay with the man....then ur complaints will fall on "deaf" ears....it's ur choice.

 

[sonocativo]

I agree... just hate starting all over again