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hearingaidmama

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I want to apologize for my lack of understanding on the thread I posted about 2 weeks ago "About parents?" Most of the comments opened my eyes to see a world for my daughter other than, being just like me.

I thought the "best" things I could do is to help her to be most like a hearing person but now I realize that the best thing for her is to give her the tools she needs to succeed and fit in.

Update: I will be taking ASL 101 at Community College in the winter semester. for right now I am teaching my self as much as possible using lifeprint.com The city of Philadelphia requires us to stick to the previously chosen therapy until the next 3 month evaluation, which is just another 2 months. At which time we will be switching her therapy to PA school for the deaf. We'll be touring the school in the next few weeks.

Thank you!
 
I am very proud of you, it is a wonderful choice for your daughter!
 
How silly for the city make you do some therapy. What if it really not working for you, they make you waste time on it? Weird.

Yay for AsL101! Yay you!
 
hearingaidmama said:
I thought the "best" things I could do is to help her to be most like a hearing person but now I realize that the best thing for her is to give her the tools she needs to succeed and fit in.
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IMO - even though people are supposed to accommodate us instead of other way around.... it is unrealistic to expect that all the time wherever you go.

Bold red font above - that is the best way for deaf person to know how to work with hearing people and function in hearing world.

good luck to both of you!

oh btw - if we ever meet up at RT market, it's on me :)
 
Good luck to you and your daughter Hearingaidmama! :)

I hope you will continue to post at AD!
 
hearingaidmama said:
I want to apologize for my lack of understanding on the thread I posted about 2 weeks ago "About parents?" Most of the comments opened my eyes to see a world for my daughter other than, being just like me.

I thought the "best" things I could do is to help her to be most like a hearing person but now I realize that the best thing for her is to give her the tools she needs to succeed and fit in.

Update: I will be taking ASL 101 at Community College in the winter semester. for right now I am teaching my self as much as possible using lifeprint.com The city of Philadelphia requires us to stick to the previously chosen therapy until the next 3 month evaluation, which is just another 2 months. At which time we will be switching her therapy to PA school for the deaf. We'll be touring the school in the next few weeks.

Thank you!
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You are welcome and your apology is accepted from all of us. I really like that positive altitude on getting yourself involve with ASL so that you can communicate with your daughter. Yes, she needs the kind of tool that she can be comfortable to communicate out of the toolbox. Just continue signing with her and she will be very grateful that you understand how she feel when she need that accommodation whether in the mainstream schools or in the hearing world. Beside she will meet lots of Deaf people who sign to communicate. Give her happiness. Right on, hearingaidmama (HAM) Whoopee. :party: :applause:
 
I am glad that despite all the battles, you were able to get past them and really understand how life was for many of us growing up without ASL. That's a rarity so I applaud you for taking the time to share this with us.

Good luck with your ASL class and pls feel free with any questions you have. :)
 
shel90 said:
I am glad that despite all the battles, you were able to get past them and really understand how life was for many of us growing up without ASL. That's a rarity so I applaud you for taking the time to share this with us.

Good luck with your ASL class and pls feel free with any questions you have. :)
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Yeah, that is true, Shel. I really don't understand why we had struggled and had battles with some of the hearing parents in the past on AD. They were so stubborn and refused to believe that their children was not going to be like us. They would rather have their children be like them. I felt sorry for this children to have to go through what we had gone through. What a bummer! :roll:
 
There's a sticky for study buddies on skype when you're ready to practice. :D
 
I am support to alldeaf value

ad support to team work help you!!
 
The deaf world is a wonderful journey in which you will be able to travel with your child. Welcome to this new world and thank you for taking the step to embrace all of her, including her deafness.
 
JK, of course apology is accepted. You are not the first parent that we see here who is in denial and defensive about deaf child and what is best for them. *BUT* you *are* one of the few who *gets* what we were trying to explain to you. Because we care so much!

I'm excited that you are looking at Deaf school for her and that you are learning ASL. There is nothing in this world *more* important to the Deaf and HoH than being able to communicate with others.

Even if Natalie's deafness do not progress this is a beautiful language and culture to immerse yourself in. Who know, maybe down the road, you, too, will become Deaf advocate.:cool2:
 
Definitly! Apology is accepted! You know.....I really do think that you'll be surprised at the quality of ASL using Deaf Ed nowadays. I think oral experts and eductors might have an outdated view of what ASL schools really are like. It's like they think that Deaf Schools/programs don't really concentrate enough on speech and stuff like that, or that Deaf schools are all filled with voice off Deafies or mentally handicapped kids. A lot of that has changed.....Deaf Schools are now very much becoming hoh friendly. That's actually a big part of the reason why oral k-8 schools don't have a lot of older students....b/c the kids who don't do well in the mainstream, can now go to Deaf School. Unfortunatly most Deaf Schools aren't really used for first resort placement. Most of them have ex mainstreamers as their biggest population base. There are quite a few Deaf Schools with hoh students (both functionally and audilogically) It really can be good especially early on......the preschool and kindergarten and early childhood tend to be out of this world. Are there regional dhh programs in Philly? Those can be decent too. It's too bad you're not in Pittsburgh. There is a SUPERB Deaf School there. I'm really excited about this. Think about it this way. With ASL, your kid will be able to function both WITH and without her hearing aids, and be a part of both the hearing and deaf worlds. It's just that traditonally most hoh kids have been REALLY oralized and mainstreamed to the max, without thinking that ASL and Deaf ed might be a good idea.
 
And HearingaidMama, we do understand. People who push auditory-verbal seem to push the myth that oral abilty automaticly gives all the advantages of the mainstream/hearing world. Oral skills rock, and I would definitly encourage a hearing parent of a dhh kid to pursue speech. Very few of us here are "Oh all dhh kids need is ASL and to be voice off"
But the thing is auditory oral and auditory verbal advocates seem to brush the downsides of the approach under the rug.
I say that as a former kid who was mainstreamed and oralized. I think they try to appeal to the parents with a " Your child can be "normal" and not "need" ASL or "special schools" approach.
What they don't understand is that ASL is a REALLY good additional skill, and that the Deaf School/program approach can be REALLY awesome. Instead of fighting with clueless hearing teachers (even sped teachers may only have a minimum of experiance with teaching dhh or other low incidence disabilties), you can deal with teachers who are experianced in how to teach kids like us. Instead of being the only kid in the universe to wear hearing aids or talk in a funny voice, we are with other kids who sign and talk....and it's a real honest to god vibrant community.
 
Excellent post Deafdyke!! SO true!!

Always better to give a child other forms of communication. Always.
 
Oh, and hearingaidmama, you may have some issues in sending her to an ASL using program. Just be firm, that a) ASL Deaf Schools are now Hoh friendly, and that you want your daughter to learn to function fully both with and without her hearing aids.
 
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