I plan on moving to a place with a nice medium. New Yorkers are too rude, and too ready to knock you down. I do enjoy the transportation system when its not dirty. Things are just too fast. Unfortunately my other options are pricey but you gotta do what you gotta do. If I were to stay in the states Id probably go to VA where my closest friend lives.
You might like northern Virginia and/or the D.C. region generally. I lived in Boston for five years right after grad school (many, many years ago) and loved every minute of it. Then a new job took me to the D.C. area. I did not expect to particularly like it, but to my amazement, I really, really do.
Boston was probably the most intellectually stimulating place I've ever lived, but the D.C. area is certainly a very close second. The climate is far better than Boston's, especially considering I no longer ski. (The good skiing nearby made Boston a great city to be young in. To be old in - hmm, maybe not quite so much.)
If you don't like gov't work and aren't a policy nerd, maybe you'd think D.C. would not appeal, but there is more than just gov't these days. The area generally is a center for technology, communications, the arts, all sorts of things. Housing is high by most people's standards (people from the Midwest just about have cardiac attacks when they see what an average 4-bedroom house on 1/4 acre of land costs in the close-in suburbs), but coming from New York, you're probably used to high prices. D.C. /northern Virginia is probably a bit less than NY, generally, but maybe not by much.
Traffic around here is crazy, so living close-in really, really beats having a long commute from the outer suburbs.
Anyway, just a few thoughts. You might want to look into it as a possibility.