1.) Adults are more independent when it comes to finding information and navigating the world. A deaf child in school may find CIs useful since they are in a classroom for most of the day.
2.) That's totally fair. I know you hated the speech therapy and stuff, but I didn't know if you ever used it later.
3.) Deaf schools aren't near every parent. Some deaf schools may be of poor quality. Not all parents can move closer to a good deaf school. Not all parents have that choice.
Not all of us live in Boulder, dear.

I live in the SE side of town and I just barely made it within Cheery Creek School District. Yeah, we have choice here, but there are too many parents trying to get their kids into "good" schools and not enough good schools to go around. If my son didn't have a scholarship, I would have been screwed. We lived downtown until recently. While the loft was great, the elementary school was awful...all parents that I know of who live downtown send their kids to charters or private schools. One friend of ours had to apply to EIGHT different schools for their 6 year old son! That's how long the wait lists are.... After I moved, I realized I'd be near a good charter school if the situation called for it. Public school not too shady, either.
You're fooling yourself if you think there's equal access when it comes to education in this country.
Yeah, if Jude were born deaf, I could send him to Rocky Mountain, but he wasn't. If he became deaf for whatever reason, he may actually do better in his current school because of the kind of school it is.
So do you think Grendel's school is second rate because it's bilingual? Or just mainstream schools?