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I haven't been through this, but a friend of mine lost her mother to cancer. She and her mother were very close and I remember it being very hard on her.

Her mother passed away several years ago, peacefully. I wish there was an easy solution, but talking about it might help.
 
warpedpink said:
My dad has cancer, again. The last time he had it was the worst time of my life. Hands down. He only had a 5% chance of survival and he beat it. I stupidly, stupidly thought he had beaten it forever- that it would never come back. How fucking stupid can one person be? God.. Hopeful to the point of stupidity- that's me.

My heart is beating so fast and my whole body is literally shaking. I'm surprised I'm able to type and think coherently. Last time I spent the entire ordeal imaging the worst and I simply can't do that again. I need to keep a clear head so I guess I'm asking for advice.. If you've been though this before and figured out a solution, I'm open.
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He beat it once, he CAN do it again!!! I'm a strong believer in mind over matter, it may sound like garbage but a positive attitude has healing powers you wouldn't believe.
I wish your dad the best of luck and tell him breaking things, preferably glass, is very therapeutic
 
I am sorry to hear about your father's illness, Warpedpink. I agree with some posters. It is good for you to talk about him. I went thru because my father died of throat cancer 16 1/2 years ago from smoking and drinking. He went thru chemotherapy and raditation that he underwent to fight for two years and he lost about 30-40 pounds, I think. (All his clothes were too big for him at the time.) I remember he was in a good spirit to talk to me and our 4 other siblings when we visited him but he died the next day. (We are glad that we did get a chance to talk with him..) So, we knew that he already knew when he is ready to die. I think it's best to let him go because I don't want to see him suffering so much, I mean, pain, etc.. I sometimes miss him. Sigh...
My parents's side, their siblings almost all have cancer, too. I talked about my father's sister in other thread. I was thinking of visiting her but I need to get myself better first.
Again, I am sorry about your father's illness. I know that Cancer is no fun!
Here is a :hug: from me.
 
Sosie said:
I am sorry to hear about your father's illness, Warpedpink. I agree with some posters. It is good for you to talk about him. I went thru because my father died of throat cancer 16 1/2 years ago from smoking and drinking. He went thru chemotherapy and raditation that he underwent to fight for two years and he lost about 30-40 pounds, I think. (All his clothes were too big for him at the time.) I remember he was in a good spirit to talk to me and our 4 other siblings when we visited him but he died the next day. (We are glad that we did get a chance to talk with him..) So, we knew that he already knew when he is ready to die. I think it's best to let him go because I don't want to see him suffering so much, I mean, pain, etc.. I sometimes miss him. Sigh...
My parents's side, their siblings almost all have cancer, too. I talked about my father's sister in other thread. I was thinking of visiting her but I need to get myself better first.
Again, I am sorry about your father's illness. I know that Cancer is no fun!
Here is a :hug: from me.
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The first time my dad had esophagus cancer.. It was so bad he had to have major, aggressive surgery and have his entire stomach along with some other organs removed. He lost about a hundred pounds and was on chemo and radiation 6 days a week for a year and a half. But he lived and it's ridiculous that after all the tears, work, and sacrifices- it recurs. None of my friends know about it yet. Sometimes it's easier with strangers, no?
I'm really sorry about your dad.. I am.
 
Wow, it sounds like your father really went through hell the first time. I truly hope he will make it through it this time too as well.

Cancer is never easy to deal with, and it does take a toll on the individual and its family and friends. I send my best wishes to your father.
 
WarpedPink-

I truly hope the best for you and your father. My father-in-law died June 2, 2009 from "untreated melanoma". What the death certificate doesn't say is, he sought treatment for 12 years and it kept coming back worse and worse. He finally gave up spending the money and in the end, he had alzheimer's, diabetes and the melanoma moved to bone cancer (so the doctor said). He lost 105 pounds, but not his hair. That was the only amazing thing I can think of. For my husband's sake and the sake of my kids, I am glad we were not here through the illness. I am glad that my kids and husband have the memory of what he always was. My husband just about fainted when he saw his father in the open casket at the funeral. We left Missouri to move down here on June 1st, he died the 2nd and we got here the 3rd.

Treasure the time you have with your father and make the most of it. Feel free to talk as much as you need here on AD. We are a good support for a lot of people with all kinds of issues.
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My best friend dies at the age of 40 from a brain tumor. Her parents made her have shock treatments , and I bet that gave my friend a tumor! She said the shock treatments where really painful!
 
We just lost one of our students to cancer. He was only 12 years old. Very sad.
 
Now, for a little bit of a positive that I just remembered. My MIL has had 2 brain tumors removed. One is 1958, one in the 70's or 80's and now she has another that is inoperable. With the 2nd one, she lost her peripheral vision. If they operate now, she will possibly go totally blind and they won't do that. There is also the possibility that she could become brain dead. She was not expected to live after the 1st operation back in 1958.
 
Thanks, WarpedPink. Sigh.. :hug:
I agree some of the posters that you need your quality time with your father (and with your family as well) as much as you can and also, you are lucky that you have a lot of supporters here who care about you. You can talk with us anytime if you feel comfortable. That's what we are here for. Maybe you can join the Cancer Support Group, to discuss it with them. It will help.
Hugs,
Sosie
 
shel90 said:
We just lost one of our students to cancer. He was only 12 years old. Very sad.
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I am sorry to hear that, Shel. He was so young and he had so much to do in life. It's so sad.
 
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