Hearing Looks vs Deaf Looks

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I saw someone's status on FB.

I get this often and it's really annoying!

Explain:

e says, "Are you deaf or hearing?"
I say, "I'm deaf."
He says, "Ohhh, you look like a hearing."

What the hell is that suppose to mean? We somehow suppose to look different? Lol
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Thoughts, anyone? I'd seen those situations. While I seem I am easy to pass me as a deaf person, cos how I "look" or how I act or how I dress or whatever. My thought is, that is really matter?

Bah. I think it is stupid, IMO.
 
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I have been accused of having the "queer eyes" because of how dependent I am with lipreading. :laugh2:

Apparently THAT was someone's measurement of if someone is gay or not, based on how much a person of the same gender stare at another.
 
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I've been asked that of myself several times, if I'm hearing. I do find it a little weird :)
 
KarissaMann05 said:
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I saw someone's status on FB.



Thoughts, anyone? I'd seen those situations. While I seem I am easy to pass me as a deaf person, cos how I "look" or how I act or how I dress or whatever. My thought is, that is really matter?

Bah. I think it is stupid, IMO.
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Interesting. Don't get mad, but if you show me a small group of people with one deaf person in it, I bet I can pick out the deaf person. It is that almost-indefinable quality that gives them away, the way they look around them. Once I was working in a restaurant and simply standing behind a counter when a hearing couple beckoned to me from a table. They asked, "Are you deaf?" in sign language and I said "Yes, how did you know?" They replied "You were aware (of my surroundings)." So I dunno...
 
It's happened to me many numerous times also. I believe it's because I move my mouth and speak when I'm signing.
 
Heh, in my area, deaf people assumed that I was hearing at first, more than other deaf people for some reason. I think because I don't share a lot of same traits or behaviors that a lot of deaf people have.

Doesn't bother me though. I can just surprise em with the truth, lol.
 
Silentwolfdog said:
Heh, in my area, deaf people assumed that I was hearing at first, more than other deaf people for some reason. I think because I don't share a lot of same traits or behaviors that a lot of deaf people have.

Doesn't bother me though. I can just surprise em with the truth, lol.
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What "traits and behaviors" do a lot of deaf people have?
 
Let's see, for being passive, less blunt, and being quiet I guess which is opposite by most deaf people.

I even have been criticized by hearing person for being too timid around deaf people while a lot of others aren't. lol

And by deaf folks I used more of English words. Younger deafies laughed at me for using "Oh." or "Oh I see." like I said it quite literally rather than using ASL form. (I'm PSE btw but I seem to be using a lot of phrases used by hearing people even around deaf people. Sometimes I forgot that deaf people are probably not familiar with it or something.)

My vibe is also different I think. One deaf adult thought I was hearing because I look somewhat like "hippy" or something and it isn't something you usually see in deaf community. At least in my area. I have been exposed to hearing culture a lot so when I go back to deaf community after long time being away, I do feel different.

Deaf communities are probably different across United States.

Kinda hard to explain though. I do feel like there's two different cultures which I can feel the different. Not sure how to explain.

But you should know by now that there's norm and rules in deaf community which is different from hearing community, no? If not then I dunno why I get mistaken a lot by deaf people for some reason.
 
Hrmm...that's interesting. For nearly for my whole life, people assume I'm hearing when looking at me and were surprised when I told them that I"m deaf. I asked them about my speech and stuff. Half of them did say I sounded like I have an accent or that I'm from somewhere.
 
sheila022 said:
Hrmm...that's interesting. For nearly for my whole life, people assume I'm hearing when looking at me and were surprised when I told them that I"m deaf. I asked them about my speech and stuff. Half of them did say I sounded like I have an accent or that I'm from somewhere.
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As opposed to being from nowhere? I have to tell people I am deaf, I have animal print hearing aid covers and they still don't get it.
 
my husband's family asked my husband where I was from, they couldn't figure out my accent.
 
Children are more receptive that adults. While on the most part adults don't pick up that I am deaf, many times children on the other hand, will come up to me and say 'you speak funny'.
 
deafgal001 said:
my husband's family asked my husband where I was from, they couldn't figure out my accent.
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Same here. A friend of mine at MIT said she has been forever trying to figure out my "accent". A mutual friend of mine and Jiro said we both kind of sound like each other. LOL!
 
souggy said:
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I have been accused of having the "queer eyes" because of how dependent I am with lipreading. :laugh2:

Apparently THAT was someone's measurement of if someone is gay or not, based on how much a person of the same gender stare at another.
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I was told by a roommate in broading school I was rude for looking at new student face too long . She was from Iran and I was trying to read her lips , I told my roommate this but she did not get it. The girl from Iran thought I did not like her as was looking at her face . I guess I had the rude HOH looks.
 
rockin'robin said:
What "traits and behaviors" do a lot of deaf people have?
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I turn up my HA when I am having a hard time understanding or hearing a person ,so I guess putting my hand up to my HA would be my trait. I did this the other day when talking to an older woman and she said "I wear those too" and showed me her HA. People know I HOH when I put my hand up to ear.
 
sheila022 said:
Hrmm...that's interesting. For nearly for my whole life, people assume I'm hearing when looking at me and were surprised when I told them that I"m deaf. I asked them about my speech and stuff. Half of them did say I sounded like I have an accent or that I'm from somewhere.
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People think I have a Spanish accent! A Hispanic man told me I had beautiful Spanish accent! LOL And when I was in Mexcio I when to a bank and was talking to my boyfriend and woman came over to started talking to me in Spanish. She over heard me talking and thought I had a Spanish accent . I think this is so funny as I can't speak Spanish at all.
 
whatdidyousay! said:
People think I have a Spanish accent! A Hispanic man told me I had beautiful Spanish accent! LOL And when I was in Mexcio I when to a bank and was talking to my boyfriend and woman came over to started talking to me in Spanish. She over heard me talking and thought I had a Spanish accent . I think this is so funny as I can't speak Spanish at all.
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Aw shucks, it would be cool if I had a Spanish accent or some identifiabl accent besides Chinese accent...instead of people just assuming I came from China or another Asian country >.< Fuck that I look Asian and people assume automatically I can speak Chinese, especially when I was in china last summer >.<
 
whatdidyousay! said:
I was told by a roommate in broading school I was rude for looking at new student face too long . She was from Iran and I was trying to read her lips , I told my roommate this but she did not get it. The girl from Iran thought I did not like her as was looking at her face . I guess I had the rude HOH looks.
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I think hearing people who don't know better would think that you're trying to look down her shirt.

Some women do get uncomfortable once I start following their mouths to lip-read. I guess once I tell that she's uncomfortable I tell her, but I'm wondering if it's more common of an uncomfortable behavior than not.:hmm:
 
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