Courts Charge Mother of 555-Pound Boy

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A Mother Facing Felony Charges for Her Son's Obesity

The mother of a 555-pound, 14-year-old boy in South Carolina was charged with neglect last week for allegedly failing to control her son's weight.

Before fleeing town with her son, Jerri Gray had been contacted by the local Department of Social Services previous times about her son's weight and was even issued a treatment plan to turn around Alexander Draper's morbid obesity, Gray's attorney Grant Varner told ABCnews.com.

But when Gray failed to bring Alexander in for some of his medical treatment appointments recommended by the department and he continued to gain weight, the state sent notice that Gray would lose custody of her only child.

"She panicked," Varner said. "She had no lawyer, she couldn't afford a lawyer and they took off. They had no destination really. They stopped in Baltimore to do laundry, which is where they were found."

Alexander has been placed in foster care and Gray of Travelers Rest, S.C., will appear in court to face two felony charges -- custodial interference, which carries a 5-year sentence, and child neglect, which carries a 10-year sentence.

"I have not heard a case involving parents charged in neglect with obesity," said Thomas L. Hafemeister, associate professor of law at the University of Virginia Law School in Charlottesville.

But Hafemeister said state interference with children for health care reasons has become an increasing problem in the past 20 years. Take, for example, the case of Daniel Hauser , whose Minnesota family initially refused chemotherapy treatments for his Hodgkin's lymphoma in May

"Certainly, there are cases out there where parents are facing neglect and abuse charges for failing to provide needed medical care, in this case nutritional care," Hafemeister said. "But this is a very unusual case."

Jane Spinak, a professor at Columbia University Law School in New York, said that in many cases of medical neglect, public health officials are expected to offer help to a parent.

"I think the question is when is the outreach sufficient that a court could then say, 'Look, we're giving you all these opportunities to better care for your child?" Spinak said. "The state has to decide at what point is not accepting that voluntary assistance neglect."

Sometimes at issue, however, is whether child welfare officials can expect parents to show up to an appointment they reasonably cannot make.

Defining Neglect of an Obese Child


"The offers have to be realistic," Spinak said. "They have to be things that [a mother] and her child can actually take advantage of. If they want her to take him every day to something and she's working two jobs, that's not really realistic."

Only in the case of life-and-death situations do state officials normally intervene, family law experts say.

"If the child's life is at risk, the state can intervene: If it is a relatively non-life threatening situation, the state stays out," Hafemeister said. "With regard to obesity, in general, I don't think you're going to see a lot of interventions."

But in the case of a 550-pound teenager, pediatricians with an expertise in obesity say Alexander's health could be an issue of life or death. If not immediately, the extra weight may result in death 40 years down the road.

"At this weight, you can't sit in seats," said Dr. Keith Ayoob, director of the Nutrition Clinic and assistant professor of pediatrics at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York City. "You're talking about three, 150-pound people, and then put a 100-pound, 10-year-old in their lap."

"He's at high risk," Ayoob said. "The point is to get this kid help. Otherwise, he's at a very high risk for an early death. He won't make it until 50."

Ayoob said a 14-year-old's skeleton may suffer significant damage under the extra 400 pounds. That pressure would likely lead to hip and knee problems. Being morbidly obese also puts children at high risk for hypertension, which puts the them risk for heart troubles. At that weight, Ayoob said, there is a high risk for Type 2 diabetes, which puts a person at risk for a slew of other health complications.

"With Type 2 diabetes, he is at risk for a heart attack, and he's at risk for kidney failure, and he's at risk for circulation problems meaning he may lose fingers and toes and sometimes limbs," said Dr. Reginald Washington of the American Academy of Pediatrics and the chief medical officer for the Rocky Mountain Hospital for Children in Denver.

Added to that laundry list are sleep apnea and a fatty liver, with risk of liver failure, Washington said.

But obesity, as much of a public health issue as it its, is not always a proven grim health sentence.

Obese Children Open Up Family and Health Questions

Dr. Marc Jacobson, of the American Academy of Pediatrics, Obesity Leadership Workgroup, said a sizable fraction of obese people don't have co-morbid health problems.

"He could have orthopedic complications like bowed legs," he said, "It's called Blount's disease, he could have metabolic complications ... breathing complications. But he could also conceivably not have any of those."

"Believe it or not, there are people who are quite overweight who don't have any medical complications, about 1 out of 3," he said. "But that data comes from adults

But even if an obese child were lucky enough to not face any medical problems, those who treat childhood obesity say there are frequently co-morbid psychological problems or family dynamic issues.

"There's a chance that he has one of the genetic problems that can cause massive weight gain," Washington said. "When we see a child, especially at that age who is massively obese, we test him for that, but often they're negative. The [genetic] problems are very rare, but they're known.

"But you have to imagine that a 14-year-old probably doesn't have the resources to eat that much. Someone had to enable that to happen."

Ayoob, who treats morbidly obese patients on a regular basis, agreed. "If he's eating like a typical 14-year-old, he would lose weight," Ayoob said. "The heaviest patient I had was 675 pounds. That man was put in the hospital on 2,000-calories a day and he was losing six pounds a day at first."

Ayoob said the first question he often asks of his obese pediatric patients is, "Where is the food coming from," because there is often an enabler. Ayoob also insists on psychological treatment and family counseling.

"It has nutritional consequences but it's a mental health issue," Ayoob said. "I could put someone on all the right foods and nutrition but then you're just going to have a normal-weight person with an eating disorder. You work together with a counselor."

Gray's lawyer declined to give details about what kind of therapy Alexander and his mother were offered by the court. At the moment, he said, Gray cannot afford health insurance, but Alexander does have health care.

"She basically is on a very limited income and there were often appointments she could not make it to," said Varner, who mentioned a difficulty paying for gas money

Varner said a local bond agency, Trotter Bail Bonds, volunteered to pay Gray's $50,000 bond

Courts Charge Mother of 555-Pound Boy - ABC News
 
She is on a limited income and cannot always afford gas.

Food costs money.

Something here I'm not understanding.
 
At 555 lbs., this child had to be eating more than a Twinkie a day....I do sympathize somewhat, as some parents have even resorted to installing locks on their fridge's and food cabinets, because their kids eat and eat....but this is just 1 child!

It's abuse to let ur child get this overweight. And catching the bus is a lot cheaper than having a car and gas $$....Maybe even walking to the doctor's office would have resulted in a shedding a few pounds.....Or even skipping a meal, such as breakfast, $3 or $4 dollars, should be enough for gas money!
 
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There's no way you're going to be able to take a kid that size on a bus or walk to the doctor with.
 
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There's no way you're going to be able to take a kid that size on a bus or walk to the doctor with.

Well, now I even wonder about the shocks on her car....could be the reason another family member, neighbor/friend would not help them? A wheelchair would work!
Which reminds me, my boys are due at the gym after lunch....no way would I ever let a child of mine get this heavy......
 
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There's no way you're going to be able to take a kid that size on a bus or walk to the doctor with.

Yup, I can tell that and I know some obesity people don't want to walk in more than 1 block.
 
No, Berry, you're right. This is a case of making one individual responsible for a societal problem. Both the mother and child need medical and mental health support. We have many obese people and they need our help not our blame. Blame, contempt and ridicule do not motivate people.

The thing that is unusual about this case is that the state does not normally take custody of a child without an imminent threat of harm. In this case, the state is taking over when real harm is decades away.
 
On the other hand, the kid is VERY morbidly obese, and the mom sounds like my mom's stereotypical patients. Maybe it might be better for the kid to be in state custody. I mean the kid isn't 200 pounds....but is VERY obese.
 
My son is considered obese, but at least he's not that heavy. I try and try to get him to stop snacking and don't buy things for him to snack on. He will nibble on bread, cheese, peanut butter and then MIL buys both kids chocolate, soda and cookies. She feels that she needs to make up for all the years she didn't get to spoil the kids while we were in Missouri. Because of that, my son is now in a weight loss club with her. He has severe asthma, and finds it hard to do strenuous exercise, but he can handle walking and my resistance bands. He is also beginning to light weights.

Luckily, he is nowhere near this kid.
 
I am sorry but when a child is 500 pounds, it's the parent's fault for letting it happen. You cannot just let the kid do whatever he wants when it's threatening his life.

It's every parent's responsibility to assure that a child is healthy.
 
I am sorry but when a child is 500 pounds, it's the parent's fault for letting it happen. You cannot just let the kid do whatever he wants when it's threatening his life.

It's every parent's responsibility to assure that a child is healthy.

Right on the money. In this case, the mother should be charged with more than neglect-Attempted Murder.
 
She is on a limited income and cannot always afford gas.

Food costs money.

Something here I'm not understanding.
That's exactly what I was thinking.

She says she can't afford other things, but she can afford to stuff her kid's face? What's up with that? :crazy:

Seriously, 555 lbs is TOO MUCH... especially for a kid who is only 14 years old! :shock:
 
And how could she afford to get to Baltimore from S.C. where they arrested her "doing laundry" at the laundrymat?...Laundrymats are expensive, and wonder if "she drove, or caught the bus....or called the airlines"....would they allow a 555-lb. 14 yr. old kid on the bus or a plane? Isn't that "extra seating"?...Cost more?....
 
Junk food is a lot cheaper than healthy food. Just a FYI..
 
I was trying to find a picture of them but couldn't. The day old bakery supplies things very cheaply if you are poor.

And that type of empty calories makes you very hungry, so you eat even more.

I was kind of guessing the mother must be really heavy too.
 
I am not worried about the cost...

I am thinking... how the hell do parents let their kids get so big?

Neglect but why?

Could be she is selfish, depressed, overwhelmed, or uneducated. Dunno..
 
Junk food is a lot cheaper than healthy food. Just a FYI..

Mmm... not really. Junk food is cheaper than learning how to cook-- but once you know how to cook, it's really inexpensive compared to buying junk food all the time. However most people don't have the time to cook. Most people don't really even know how to cook anymore. It's really a sad state of affair.

But even if she gets all her food from the dumpsters for free or get them at reduced price, the amount of time you spend foraging in the garbage and going to bakeries and supermarkets at reduced price for unspoiled SAFE food could be used toward working at a job. Yeah, you don't get to spend any money eating out of a dumpster, which is perfectly safe if you know your sanitation rules, but you spend like two maybe three, four hours a day looking for ones that are safe to eat. So it's really no excuse if she can afford a cab or not.

If she's buying food for her kid, she doesn't spend that much on her kid. If she's dumpster-diving, she can use the hours that she spend foraging toward working at a job.

So something is not adding up.
 
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