question about nightmare..

Nika said:
Tell me about it. My PTSD keeps me in bed all day sometimes. And people think being blind is hard. <laugh> Newflash, folks. Blindness is a walk in the park next to PTSD.
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**nodding in agreement** i feel the same way about my bipolar. deafblindness is *nothing* compared to bipolar (or so it seems to me).

and now that i have ptsd on top of everything else, sometimes i long for the days when i didn't have mental illness. i hate my rapid cycling. i hate depression. i hate nightmares. i hate flashbacks.

at the same time, i know god doesn't give me more than i can handle.
 
Berry said:
If it is socially acceptable then how come the sentence I have heard most often in my life is, "Michael, that is NOT funny."

And why is it the threat I have most often had directed at me is, "I'm gonna wipe that smile right off of your face" followed by "When I'm done with you you are going to laugh on the other side of your mouth?"
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because maybe you laughed inappropriately when it was not funny. Or maybe that person doesn't have a sense of humor. Not everybody have a good sense of humor.

Berry said:
Have not found that to be true.

I've never met a jerk who enjoyed looking like an idiot, and I've never had one come back for more.
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no no. it's YOU who looked like an idiot by laughing at horrible stuff being done to you.

Berry said:
I saw that show once. Did not find the humor in it.
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exactly.. it's not funny when getting bullied or beat up and tied to bed post and get abandoned, right?

Berry said:
When it comes to pain the Bible has the right of it. 'Tis better to give than to receive.
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yes... that's for charity purpose... to give money, food, clothes... not pain/insults.

Berry said:
What example would you use to make the statement; "Anything given time and perspective can become funny."?
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dunno. can't think of any for now. sorry.
 
Sorry Berry. Some things will just never be funny.

The pain may subside. I may heal more overtime. But find it funny I will not.
 
Hear Again said:
i don't either. it's no wonder why people with ptsd and other types of mental illness don't want to admit the fact that they have a certain diagnosis.
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I have a friend who is acute depressive, adhd, and bipolar. He has never been violent or threatened anyone. As long as he takes his meds he is stable and perfectly capable of working. But no employer will hire him because of his medical diagnosis.


Hear Again said:
i used to feel the same way when i was diagnosed with bipolar in 2006. eventually though, i learned how to reach out to others to help educate them about the disorder.

mental illness is something one should never be ashamed of.
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I would say refusing to be ashamed of oneself or one's problems is the first step to mental health. You cannot be ashamed and have self respect.

Without self respect you have nothing.
 
Berry said:
I have a friend who is acute depressive, adhd, and bipolar. He has never been violent or threatened anyone. As long as he takes his meds he is stable and perfectly capable of working. But no employer will hire him because of his medical diagnosis.
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thats because people dont understand and they are retarded.
 
Berry said:
I have a friend who is acute depressive, adhd, and bipolar. He has never been violent or threatened anyone. As long as he takes his meds he is stable and perfectly capable of working. But no employer will hire him because of his medical diagnosis..
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unless he disclosed his mental illnesses to prospective employers, they can't look at his medical records to locate this information because of HIPAA laws.


Berry said:
I would say refusing to be ashamed of oneself or one's problems is the first step to mental health. You cannot be ashamed and have self respect.

Without self respect you have nothing.
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i agree, but when someone is newly diagnosed with a mental illness, it takes that person time to accept their diagnosis. when i was diagnosed as bipolar, it took me a year to come to terms with that fact and accept my illness.

now i'm trying to come to terms with the fact that i have ptsd (i was only diagnosed a few days ago). in some ways, i'm still in denial.
 
Berry said:
I have a friend who is acute depressive, adhd, and bipolar. He has never been violent or threatened anyone. As long as he takes his meds he is stable and perfectly capable of working. But no employer will hire him because of his medical diagnosis.
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People don't hire folks with mental illnesses for the same reason they don't hire deaf or blind people. Ignorance.
 
I hate to veer too off topic, but I did find some truth in this:

It's not reputable to rely on something that is fiction; but there is something you might find. There was this one Japanese anime episode in an infamously well known - it's called Rurouni Kenshin in english. The char was called Seta Soujiro.

I'm gonna save a bit of time and just copy from the wiki, it's a lot easier and the info seems correct:

Seta Sōjirō (瀬田 宗次郎), addressed as Sojiro Seta in the English-language dubs:
Background

Sōjirō's constantly smiling face and polite manners stem from his tragic past. Born in Kanagawa Prefecture,[4] Sōjirō is an illegitimate child. Sōjirō's father left him in the care of his family, who badly mistreat him. He is assigned chores such as carrying rice to and from the family warehouse, and whenever he faltered, he was beaten by his family. Sōjirō built a defense against their lashings; he put on a smiling face, and endured the torture until they got tired of beating him and left him alone.
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That kid always smiled or laughed, made jokes of horrible things that happened to him. It made him unreadable. If you saw it, it totally reminds me of Barry's approach.
 
this is a little off-topic, but...

speaking of employment and mental illness, i don't plan on disclosing my bipolar diagnosis to my employer until after i'm hired. there is too much stigma related to mental illness and i don't feel like being discriminated against for an illness i cannot help.

once i'm employed, i will be happy to educate my employer and co-workers about the disorder, but not until then.
 
naisho said:
I hate to veer too off topic, but I did find some truth in this:

It's not reputable to rely on something that is fiction; but there is something you might find. There was this one Japanese anime episode in an infamously well known - it's called Rurouni Kenshin in english. The char was called Seta Soujiro.

I'm gonna save a bit of time and just copy from the wiki, it's a lot easier and the info seems correct:

Seta Sōjirō (瀬田 宗次郎), addressed as Sojiro Seta in the English-language dubs:


That kid always smiled or laughed, made jokes of horrible things that happened to him. It made him unreadable. If you saw it, it totally reminds me of Barry's approach.
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That to me has "coping mechanism" written all over it.
 
when i was traumatized, i used to smile too, but it still didn't prevent the several kinds of abuse i experienced from happening. sorry, but i don't believe "putting on a happy face" eliminates or decreases one's exposure to traumatic events.
 
Hear Again said:
speaking of employment and mental illness, i don't plan on disclosing my bipolar diagnosis to my employer until after i'm hired.
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I didn't disclose my PTSD to my employer until a year after she hired me. And I still regret it now. She treats me differently. Tells me to "get over it" and "move on" and compares me to the human rights cases we enter. Now I wish I hadn't told her. <frustrating>
 
Hear Again said:
when i was traumatized, i used to smile too, but it still didn't prevent the several kinds of abuse i experienced from happening. sorry, but i don't believe "putting on a happy face" eliminates or decreases one's exposure to traumatic events.
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No it dosent, and some times it can make it worse *personal experience* Nika. Yes, absolutely...
 
Hear Again said:
when i was traumatized, i used to smile too, but it still didn't prevent the several kinds of abuse i experienced from happening. sorry, but i don't believe "putting on a happy face" eliminates or decreases one's exposure to traumatic events.
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I think "putting on a happy face" actually makes things worse. It's at a huge emotional cost. It is draining to constantly hide how you really feel just so everyone else in the room can keep their insecurities intact.
 
Nika said:
I think "putting on a happy face" actually makes things worse. It's at a huge emotional cost. It is draining to constantly hide how you really feel just so everyone else in the room can keep their insecurities intact.
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Exactly, it just hurts more.
 
Nika said:
I didn't disclose my PTSD to my employer until a year after she hired me. And I still regret it now. She treats me differently. Tells me to "get over it" and "move on" and compares me to the human rights cases we enter. Now I wish I hadn't told her. <frustrating>
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that's too bad. i'm sorry your boss treats you that way.

i still don't know for sure if i will disclose my bipolar diagnosis. that's something i'm going to have to think long and hard about. the tricky thing for me though is that (like you with your ptsd triggers), i will have to say something given the fact that i rapid cycle on an hourly basis and my employer needs to know why that is happening. if he/she doesn't, i could be fired for inappropriate behavior and something i can't help.

as for disclosing my ptsd diagnosis, i don't think i'm ready to do that. i haven't even told anyone in my family yet.
 
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