I"m Sooo Maddd At My Friends...

coolgirlspyer90

coolgirlspyer90

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i was in a chat room with 4 of my hearing friends. and they got me pissed off. Cuz i wasn't invited to go to the pool with them because i'm NEVER invited to anything. so thats it.. makes me want to cry... i'm just fustrated with the whole thing. alaina and caitlynn throws me on the side alot. not getting invited to stuff, things that real friends do and like the movies.:(:sadwave:

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Hey, that was the story of my life growing up mainstreamed. When I got involved with the Deaf community, finally I was the person to invite to every social event. Hearies really do not care for us deaf peeps sometimes. That's the dark side of mainstreaming.
 
yeah i know. It sucks sometimes though. Cuz i try really hard to make good friends with hearing people. Sometimes i doubt being in hearing schools. I don't want to go back to deaf schools but i doubt being in hearing schools. Because i'm never able to hang out with real friends like the ones in the movies. It sucks alot..:(:cry:
 
if your friends don't invite you to go anywhere with them, they're not your friends. fuck them.

do something by yourself if you have to. it won't kill you to be alone.
 
do u know what else now?? i'm actually crying because i asked {name removed} why {name removed} was making her mad and i can't IM her cuz she blocked me, then::::


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coolgirlspyer90 said:
yeah i know. It sucks sometimes though. Cuz i try really hard to make good friends with hearing people. Sometimes i doubt being in hearing schools. I don't want to go back to deaf schools but i doubt being in hearing schools. Because i'm never able to hang out with real friends like the ones in the movies. It sucks alot..:(:cry:
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At least u are recognizing that now. I knew I was unhappy in high school but didnt understand it. All I knew that I wanted to be just like my hearing friends but failed. It wasnt until I was 28 years old when I finally realized what the problem was. I teach at a Deaf school and so many of the kids are very happy and my Deaf brother and good Deaf friend whom both were raised going to Deaf schools have no idea what it is like to be rejected like we have been. They have so much confidence in themselves when I never had growing up.
 
you should do yourself a favor and delete AIM from your computer. but if you want to waste your hours away online stirring up drama with a bunch of tweens who probably only hang out with you so they can have someone to rag on, be my guest.

having "normal friends" like in the movies isn't all it's cracked up to be. you should go outside and do something that makes you feel good instead of constantly seeking approval and companionship from a bunch of catty little bitches.
 
August said:
if your friends don't invite you to go anywhere with them, they're not your friends. fuck them.

do something by yourself if you have to. it won't kill you to be alone.
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That is true, August. Her friends who happen to be hearing don't understand how important coolgirlspyer90 need to be with friends her age to go out and have fun, not wild, mind you. No, it won't kill a person to be alone, but people need friends and that is why we have AllDeaf to discuss our problems and vend our frustration and just making us feel better about ourselves for the every day problems and become friends like on PM(Private Message) which help make our lives better. I don't know about Chat Room as I have never been on one. Here on AllDeaf there is no Chat room, just discussions and some chats. I had my share of trying to be friend with hearing students in the mainstream school, boy it was not easy, but I was comfortable with my own deaf students in my classrooms years ago. I have always been comfortable chatting with my Deaf friends at Deaf events.

coolgirlspyer90, forget about your friends, if they don't want to invite you to join them for some good times. They are not worth your time. Try to find someone that want to invite you to have fun like going swimming in the pool during the summer time or go to the movies or just eat out at the pizza place, etc. :welcome: to AllDeaf. :cheers:
 
August said:
you should do yourself a favor and delete AIM from your computer. but if you want to waste your hours away online stirring up drama with a bunch of tweens who probably only hang out with you so they can have someone to rag on, be my guest.

having "normal friends" like in the movies isn't all it's cracked up to be. you should go outside and do something that makes you feel good instead of constantly seeking approval and companionship from a bunch of catty little bitches.
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yea, but it is not easy for many deaf people being mainstreamed with all hearing people. It seems like she needs friends whom she can connect with and is finding out that her friends arent the right ones. I went thru that and I still remember it vividly...it sucks..really sucks. I know what it feels like..
 
What idiot friends you have ...actually let me rephrase that..what idiot acquaintances you have....those arent friends....
sometimes..we need to hang out with ppl our own culture/background to feel at "home"
in hs i hung out with my mexican friends cuz school was invaded with asian people and Caucasian so it wasnt very hommie feeling..but wen i hung out with my sistas..it was nice
So maybe you should go back to a school for the deaf? or try or just get better real friends
 
avwdng29 said:
What idiot friends you have ...actually let me rephrase that..what idiot acquaintances you have....those arent friends....
sometimes..we need to hang out with ppl our own culture/background to feel at "home"
in hs i hung out with my mexican friends cuz school was invaded with asian people and Caucasian so it wasnt very hommie feeling..but wen i hung out with my sistas..it was nice
So maybe you should go back to a school for the deaf? or try or just get better real friends
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Speaking from a Mexican perspective...do you feel more connected with your Mexican friends than your friends with different backgrounds?

Funny, even though I am white, I feel very connected with Mexican people ..maybe it is cuz I grew up in Arizona and was always around Mexicans. Even my ex hubby was born in Mexico.
 
shel90 said:
yea, but it is not easy for many deaf people being mainstreamed with all hearing people. It seems like she needs friends whom she can connect with and is finding out that her friends arent the right ones. I went thru that and I still remember it vividly...it sucks..really sucks. I know what it feels like..
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but it's easy to be popular. just follow the steps:
1. don't express any original ideas; people don't like it when other people have opinions.
2. talk like the other kids talk.
3. dress like the other kids dress; clothes and makeup and jewelry are EVERYTHING.
4. remove your brain and place it in a jar filled with vinegar; you won't be needing that anymore.
5. CONFORM CONFORM CONFORM.


once you stop trying so hard to be accepted, you'll find people worth knowing.
 
August said:
you should do yourself a favor and delete AIM from your computer. but if you want to waste your hours away online stirring up drama with a bunch of tweens who probably only hang out with you so they can have someone to rag on, be my guest.

having "normal friends" like in the movies isn't all it's cracked up to be. you should go outside and do something that makes you feel good instead of constantly seeking approval and companionship from a bunch of catty little bitches.
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I am totally with August on this. Get a hobby also to take your mind from the teenage drama. Don't stay in the chat room inviting them to hurt you.
 
avwdng29 said:
What idiot friends you have ...actually let me rephrase that..what idiot acquaintances you have....those arent friends....
sometimes..we need to hang out with ppl our own culture/background to feel at "home"
in hs i hung out with my mexican friends cuz school was invaded with asian people and Caucasian so it wasnt very hommie feeling..but wen i hung out with my sistas..it was nice
So maybe you should go back to a school for the deaf? or try or just get better real friends
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I perfer to stay in hearing schools. Because i'll be in the marching band and My parents kept telling me over and over again taht the marching band is like a family like we are as a deaf family. And that people in the marching band makes really good friends. I thought about it alot and I hope thats really true. I survived a hearing middle school for 3 years now, lets hope i survive a hearing middle school
 
shel90 said:
Speaking from a Mexican perspective...do you feel more connected with your Mexican friends than your friends with different backgrounds?

Funny, even though I am white, I feel very connected with Mexican people ..maybe it is cuz I grew up in Arizona and was always around Mexicans. Even my ex hubby was born in Mexico.
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Yes very much so we have a language in common culture in common
we like the same food we have more things to talk about than i would another ethnicity
i feel more like they know me
i dunno why..
hehe yes we mexicans make great friends :p
 
My other hearing guy friend Shane is going to talk to Caitlynn and Alaina about me. They don't get it what we're going through and we don't be treated right as normal people. Here's what I said to him:: i dont get invited alot, its hard. because alot of deaf people say that hearing people doesn't care for deaf people because they don't know what we're going through and they don't treat us as a normal person because I know we are normal people, we're just deaf. thats it.

Shane told me he didn't care that I was deaf. He just found out I was deaf. He didn't care though. So he decided to talk to them for me. I was explaining everything to him how hard it was to survive a hearing school with people just judging you without getting to know you. He understands. So that kind of makes me feel better. I told him if they get mad at you for that i'm taking the blame.
 
coolgirlspyer90 said:
I perfer to stay in hearing schools. Because i'll be in the marching band and My parents kept telling me over and over again taht the marching band is like a family like we are as a deaf family. And that people in the marching band makes really good friends. I thought about it alot and I hope thats really true. I survived a hearing middle school for 3 years now, lets hope i survive a hearing middle school
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Hope u will find that connection with the marching band. Having that kind of connection is such a great thing to have and i finally found it for the first time in 28 years. Hope u find it earlier. :)
 
avwdng29 said:
Yes very much so we have a language in common culture in common
we like the same food we have more things to talk about than i would another ethnicity
i feel more like they know me
i dunno why..
hehe yes we mexicans make great friends :p
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typical Mexican conversation:

1: que pasa, ese?
2: notheen ese, mi primo Rogelio just got out of prison mang.
3: que bien. let's get drunk on tequila and eat some corn and flan.
2: buena idea mang. y la semana proxima mi amigo Fernando esta crosseen the border con los coyotes, ese!
1: andale muchachos! ayayay!
3: *high-pitched laughter*

and then they shoot their pistolas into the air and ride away on their caballos.

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KIDDING!

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avwdng29 said:
Yes very much so we have a language in common culture in common
we like the same food we have more things to talk about than i would another ethnicity
i feel more like they know me
i dunno why..
hehe yes we mexicans make great friends :p
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Lol! It is funny cuz many of my close Deaf friends are either Latino or blacks. I just dont know why. My brother said that it is the same for him. 3 of his best buds are Hispanics. We grew up in a predominately Latino neighborhood growing up.

My daughter is half Mexican and half white while my son is half black and half white. I know..I am very weird! LOL!
 
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