Bitter Single

Kalima01

Kalima01

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Does anyone feel this way?

I've been single for just over 2 years now...
My last actual "date" (as in, picked up, taken out etc) was like over 1 year ago...

Last time I had was kissed and had sex (one nighter, but I was desperate!) was 7 months ago...

I asked a guy out last weekend and he, quite insensitively, rejected me (I say rejected cos this was no let down)

I'm being to hate seeing couples and reading on facebook about couple crap... I don't want to participate in weddings, baby showers or anything of the like...

I hate the fact my own unhappiness is overtaken the fact I "should" be happy for my friends...

I am the only single person in my group of mates and it sucks big time!

ARRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGG sorry for the vent but I hope I'm not the only feeling like this :(
 
Wow.. I'll admit although at times i do feel this way..
it kinda hurts being the only one not married and seeing cute couples all around you..
But look at the postive side of being single you know?
and most men *if that is your preference* don't like desperate people
SO try to value yourself a little more look at the positive things what you enjoy about being single and when you gain confidence in that and in yourself you'll see it'll show and you'll see they'll be flocks of potential partners coming your way!:) Or so I'd like to think Gotta keep positive!
 
Hey fellow aussie :)
unlike you, there are pleny of singles like you out there so you are indeed not alone.
I was saying on facebook the other day because there w as a 16 year old boy surrounded by girls, he wanted a girlfriend but mate, he have youth in him and he gotta know he got plenty of time, everyone has to apply the brakes sometimes to enjoy life. I'm single too but on the positive side, I enjoy being single most of the time.... I have few friends surrounded around me who are either married or coupled up - things happen. Just chin up, smile and enjoy whats out in front of you...I'm pretty sure a guy would approach you one day.
 
JClarke said:
Hey fellow aussie :)
unlike you, there are pleny of singles like you out there so you are indeed not alone.
I was saying on facebook the other day because there w as a 16 year old boy surrounded by girls, he wanted a girlfriend but mate, he have youth in him and he gotta know he got plenty of time, everyone has to apply the brakes sometimes to enjoy life. I'm single too but on the positive side, I enjoy being single most of the time.... I have few friends surrounded around me who are either married or coupled up - things happen. Just chin up, smile and enjoy whats out in front of you...I'm pretty sure a guy would approach you one day.
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totally :)
 
I understand what you're saying Violet and by all means I do not come across as desperate (except that one time, but that was for sex hahah)

I guess it's just harder cos as my mates are all in relationships and/or having children, there's no one to hang out with on a regular basis, so most weekends are spent at home doing sweet **** all - no wonder I have so many movies right?

LOL
 
yeah i know all the logic guys really...

But that doesn't help me feeling lonely :(
 
Kalima01 said:
I understand what you're saying Violet and by all means I do not come across as desperate (except that one time, but that was for sex hahah)

I guess it's just harder cos as my mates are all in relationships and/or having children, there's no one to hang out with on a regular basis, so most weekends are spent at home doing sweet **** all - no wonder I have so many movies right?

LOL
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by all means "too many movies" - a movie junkie, right?
 
Aw, you'll find someone. I'm enjoying my time just doing my thing and accomplishing my goals for now. Take this as a time to do what you want to do and have fun. I know everyone says that, but when you get a boyfriend, you have to consider how THEY feel about your social activities, your goals, and all that.

Also, totally off topic, but Violet, is that you in your profile picture? If so, you look really pretty!
 
JClarke said:
by all means "too many movies" - a movie junkie, right?
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Errr yeah!

I know have this uncanny ability that I can watch a movie once and able to quote the movie - man I could prob write half the synopis (sp?) about the movie on IMDB hahahah

Too bad I didn't save enough room for important info that I need :( hahah
 
to be honest, My weekly enjoyment is my Auslan class :)
I'm glad to be actually doing something constructive...

If I could afford it, I'd study full time but alas, I need to be able to work fulltime!

At least it's something to look forward to each week :D
 
Kalima01 said:
to be honest, My weekly enjoyment is my Auslan class :)
I'm glad to be actually doing something constructive...

If I could afford it, I'd study full time but alas, I need to be able to work fulltime!

At least it's something to look forward to each week :D
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thats actually a very postive post - a motivation towards learning auslan :)
 
yeah I'm loving my Auslan classes!!!
Only 8 weeks but I'm enjoying the challenge!

My joke on Facebook is I can now talk to myself in 2 languages!!! Someone commented "at the same time too" hehehe
 
Kalima01 said:
yeah I'm loving my Auslan classes!!!
Only 8 weeks but I'm enjoying the challenge!

My joke on Facebook is I can now talk to myself in 2 languages!!! Someone commented "at the same time too" hehehe
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Oh yea, everyone does that come to sign languages :D
 
Kalima, I love your sense of humor! If you can laugh at yourself you'll always have a source of amusement handy. :lol:

Do take care of yourself and if you can, try to schedule at least two or three outings a month to things that interest you, an art exhibit, dog show, performance of some sort, whatever. Just getting out and about in the world keeps you engaged in life, expands your horizons, and gives you things to think about.

If you happen to meet a like-minded soul, that's a plus, but just keeping your mental engines firing on all cylinders is a life-enhancing thing to do.
 
I would say continue focusing on you, and do things that make you happy. Maybe if you joined a group or club that does something you enjoy you might meet someone. I think if you stop focusing on trying to find someone, and instead focus on you and your happiness (which should not be based upon whether or not you're in a relationship) it will come to you. Try to find the joy in your life, and try to appreciate the joy in the lives of your loved ones. I understand the desire to have a relationship, but truly...when the time is right it will come to you.
 
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I have to agree with Jake and Violet, there times we can feel this frustrated feeling of being single. Just keep a positive attitude. You can try new things, like a new hobby, learn something new or whatever interests you. Go volunteer somewhere I heard that's a good way to meet someone.
 
Thanks guys!

Sorry for the "downer" topic, just extremely tired and stress this week so it was just a rant, I feel heaps better today!!

I guess it's not so much the "relationship" or lack there of that gets me down, it's the lack of friends I have to go out with etc... I don't have the weekends booked with things to do to distract me or keep me occupied and feeling like my time is being used productively.

I'm def going to be looking at getting back into karate though! I need to tone up and get fit again (I hope I can train without a belt until my fitness is sowhat back otherwise SHAMMMMMMMMMMMMMMEEEE!!!)
 
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