RebelGirl : well, I know who you're referring to ... when the member said "drama, drama.... or jump on bandwagon.. I understand its annoying.. but have you said this before.. maybe not those kind of words.. or maybe you have... but I do recall in threads that you have said quite of a few things that were off. I'm not only blaming you.. but i'm going to say that each and every one of us have said stuff. I definitely know I have. You have, other members have. Only to think.. that when its annoying you, me or others .. we don't like it.. we say something about it. Well, you got to the point you didn't like what that member said, and you were fed up. but that member isn't alone.. I believe each and every one of us have been bashed, talked about and stuff.. but honestly....
its like this... when we're bashed on.. go running to your daddy (Alex) and tell on that person.. is NOT GOING TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM. only to make things worse. when there's a problem.. we have to figure out a way.. if the problem doesn't solve.. then ignore it. for example.. if you don't like me.. put me on your ignore list... or try to work it out with me... your choice.. I'm pretty sure that Alex is getting tired of it and he's probably feeling that he has put us through alot of strain and stress because of us fighting, insulting, etc. I don't know how he feels, but I can imagine that he's probably thinking of closing AD or just don't want to come in here and see more problems. you know? He has paid so much money for us to be in this forum because he is MOTIVATED to keep the deaf/HOH/CIs/Hearing community together.
Of course, I am aware of that. I don't run to daddy ( Alex ) or other moderators when someone push the button under the avatar, if there's a problem. I will just simply ignore or be more helpful by explainin' things to help a person to understand. Try to use positive/soft words and be more direct, then maybe some ADers will not think or feel negative towards it. I am learnin' each day everyday from this AD by readin' everyone's posts and get to know them.
I know its not easy to ignore but when tensions are building up.. it just makes it worse for everybody and all the "stress" we get from chatting in Alldeaf. I mean, come on.. Alldeaf stressing us out? sigh.. I just want to be able to see peace.. I know its almost impossible but at least do this in an adult way and think twice before typing.
what if I died tomorrow? How are some of you going to feel.. some of you are going to feel regrets.. some may not care... but as for me.. I would feel totally bad for the person's passing and I didn't have the chance to say "I love you no matter what even if we aren't friends" that's just me. on the other hand.. i'm not soft hearted... I can be if i want to.. but when it comes to getting deeper and deeper.. it has to stop somehow.. someway... someday!
Well, I don't attempt to make THAT MANY friends from this AD. Only very few. If, you happen die tomorrow, then I will be sad and say a few nice words and even, thou you and I are not makin' friends.
I have a few that I don't like in here but I continue to speak to each and every one of them regardless. Yes, I may be blunt at times.. just out of honesty and what my heart says.
CyberRed, i'm not blaming you at all.... I was just speaking for everyone really..
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