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Hi everyone I have a problem with my partner's son who has been living with me for 18 months. His father is away most of the time. Son is 18... I have a rule that he has to text me when he is coming home or is in the house so I know someone is there. Last week I found he was home for four hours without telling me. I felt so violated and unsafe.
Now I find the light on he hasn't told me yet again. Two reasons this is frustrating. First reason - If he isn't home i dress more relaxed leave the bathroom door open etc and I leave my hearing aids to be able to relax and unwind.
I have been trying to explain to my partner who is hearing and the son what it is like not to feel safe in your own home. Also why its so important to tell me if they are home.
Please help me to explain it to them. I have been trying to find articles to explain this.
I can definitely understand what you're feeling. It's extremely unpleasant and can be quite unnerving at some time.
A simple common courtesy is all you're asking for. since he is not your son, I can see why you may feel violated especially since you're dressing "more relaxed" at home. My mom dresses "more relaxed" at home too and my brother and I always txt her if we're bringing friends over.
couple things you can do - install strobe signalers in some rooms and you'll have to have a sit-down with him and explain to him that he's always welcome to your home but he just need to simply let you know in advance.