Polygamy

Within the culture that they live and function, yes.
How so? What is that "power?" They don't make any of the relationship decisions, including choice of spouses. They don't control any of the wealth or material of the family. They can't do anything without permission.

If that's power for women, please don't bring it to the USA.
 
I did look it up and those aren't the same results that I found.

In one case, the men still control the one woman.
"The husband in Kaza, Baldev Nath, 50, said that 'everyone is pleased' with their shared-spouse arrangement, including his older brother and their common wife, 55-year-old Dalma Tashi, although he did not allow her to participate in the interview."
When two husbands are better than one | GlobalPost

"Positions of power" for the women wasn't in this list:
Causes of Polyandry:

Of course, it is not an easy task to give a generalised picture of the causes of polyandry. Still this form of marriage depends upon certain peculiar local conditions .These is as follows:-

i) Scarcity of women:

Polyandry is found in such communities where the woman population is less than male population. Due to the shortage or scarcity of women a number of men are required to marry one woman. The Todas of Nilgiri Hills practice polyandry due to this reason.

ii) Social Customs:

In some communities polyandry is practiced from time immemorial. It is a custom marriage to them. In Ladakh, for example, polyandry is practiced. Here, woman popularly outnumbered men still the people of Ladakh follows polyandry custom of marriage.

iii) Extreme Poverty:

There exists a close connection between poverty and polyandry. The condition extreme poverty may not permit a man to have more wives or even one wife. Under circumstances he may prefer to polyandry. That probably the reason that in western poor people practice polyandry and rich polygamy.

iv) Bride Price:

High demand of bride-price in some tribal communities is also the cause of polyandry. Owing to the poor economic status a single man fails to arrange the bride price independence hence, the numbers of men collectively arrange bride price and marry a woman.

v) Desire to keep the property intact:

It is said that Ladakhies marry one women just to avoid the division of their Ian property a and houses. The poor people of Ceylon practice polyandry because every far cannot afford to split up into smaller units. Thus, the practice of polyandry is motivated by desire to keep the property intact and to maintain the strength and power of the joint family

vi) Desire to control population:

It is an admitted fact that a single woman bears a limited children. Under polyandry many men marry a single woman. As the children producing capacity of a women is limit hence, polyandry is a very effective method to the people who desire to keep the population under control.

Notes on the types and causes of Polyandry

It's not very common worldwide:

"A comprehensive survey of traditional societies in the world shows that 83.39% of them practice polygyny, 16.14% practice monogamy, and .47% practice polyandry. Almost all of the few polyandrous societies practice what anthropologists call fraternal polyandry, where a group of brothers share a wife. Nonfraternal polyandry, where a group of unrelated men share a wife, is virtually nonexistent in human society. Why is nonfraternal polyandry so rare?"

"When multiple men are officially married to one woman, who is 'supposed to' mate with all of them, the co-husbands have very little reason to believe that a given child of hers is genetically his, and will therefore not be very motivated to invest in it. If the children receive insufficient paternal investment, they will not survive long enough to become adults and continue the society. Nonfraternal polyandry therefore contains the seeds of its own extinction."

Why are there virtually no polyandrous societies? | Psychology Today

Great read.. My issue with polygamy has always been what the daughters of that upbringing believe..That I may never know. When they grow up to be adults would they be more likely to live the same lifestyle they've seen growing up. Although I don't like polygamy the message I'd want the children to be taught is that's it's okay to want just one person in the future if they so choose.

I do understand why the idea might seem positive to some, as someone said before the "tribe" feel, but with everything else aside scheduling sex, and knowing there is five or more people sharing bodily fluids with what is suppose to be my love, I can't imagine jealousy not being involved in some way. It's normal human emotion. If there was a side piece (a boyfriend/girlfriend on the side) then it might not be so bad.
 
Agreed. It has been said that human beings were not meant to be monogamous creatures. When one attempts to force an unnatural state upon people, problems are created.
Man and woman were created to be monogamous couples, so they were meant to be monogamous. All these other "relationships" and behaviors created by man are deviations from their original design.
 
Yes. I do know of a couple of successful polyandrous situations.

Interestingly they are all BDSM'ers and the females are the Doms.

This also brings out another choice that some disapprove of. This is the insistence that every member of the multiple union be equal.

It has been my experience that very few women want equality with a man. Most either want to dominate or be dominated. Those women I've met who wanted a truly equal relationship found the same to be true of most men.

I am not convinced that striving for dominance in a relationship is human nature, but I am convinced that it is ingrained into our culture that "Someone has to wear the pants in the family."
 
Man and woman were created to be monogamous couples, so they were meant to be monogamous. All these other "relationships" and behaviors created by man are deviations from their original design.

Can you provide the scientific source for this?
 
Well, haven't you heard or seen that 2 men can insert both of their dicks in one woman's vagina? There is.... believe it or not. No, I don't own dvd porn. Maybe you should look around more at XXX shops in NYC.

Bullshit. I bet you watch internet porn!
 
No more than jillio provided one. "It has been said" is not a scientific source. I could just as well say, "It is written."

Well, I am asking you. This is because I am of a male gender and I am pretty sure I know how a man's body and mind works.
 
How so? What is that "power?" They don't make any of the relationship decisions, including choice of spouses. They don't control any of the wealth or material of the family. They can't do anything without permission.

If that's power for women, please don't bring it to the USA.

In the lineage. When we are talking the cultures of Africa that practice polyandry, there is not money and wealth to be concerned with.

Can't do anything without permission? That could be disputed. All control within the family lies within the family of the matriarch. Anything owned is not owned by the husbands, or their families, but by the family of the matriarch. As I said before, the matriarch's brother has more power within the family unit, and in deciding divisions of property and/or wealth, than do the husbands.
 
Well, haven't you heard or seen that 2 men can insert both of their dicks in one woman's vagina? There is.... believe it or not. No, I don't own dvd porn. Maybe you should look around more at XXX shops in NYC.

they're professional porno stars, ya know.....
 
Well, I am asking you. This is because I am of a male gender and I am pretty sure I know how a man's body and mind works.
What does that have to do with what was originally meant for man and woman? What you personally feel and think now has nothing to do with that.
 
Can you provide the scientific source for this?

There are those within the scientific world that believe that monogamy is a social creation borne of Puritanical perspectives. Along with that, it is believed that it is a forced condition which creates the tendency to extramarital affairs and divorce. Few Americans can claim to be truly monogamous. They are serial monogamists, which, in and of itself, supports the notion that humans were not meant to be monogamous.
 
Polygamy doesn't guarantee faithfulness, so it's not a solution for cheaters.

You are making an assumption that the person is "cheating" because they are somehow "bad people" and that this is the reason they "stray".

That doesn't fit the facts.

The best paid prostitutes thrive because they are skilled listeners while the men's wives keep telling them to STFU.

At the same time most women will tell you their husbands never listen to them.

Sex may well be the lowest priority for "cheating".

Most marriages are between people who want to GET from a marriage and do not want to give anything of themselves or consider the needs of the other person.

A carefully managed multiple partnership could very well be the answer to a pair of otherwise mismatched people who love each other.
 
What does that have to do with what was originally meant for man and woman? What you personally feel and think now has nothing to do with that.

Who meant that man was to be monogamous?
 
I think so theory person experiment on how on behavior counselor:hm;

counselor relationship reason resolve problem!
 
What does that have to do with what was originally meant for man and woman? What you personally feel and think now has nothing to do with that.

"Originally meant" according to who?

It's not what "I personally feel and think". It's the body chemistry of like 90% of the men out there. They're made to breed.
 
You are making an assumption that the person is "cheating" because they are somehow "bad people" and that this is the reason they "stray".

That doesn't fit the facts.

The best paid prostitutes thrive because they are skilled listeners while the men's wives keep telling them to STFU.

At the same time most women will tell you their husbands never listen to them.

Sex may well be the lowest priority for "cheating".

Most marriages are between people who want to GET from a marriage and do not want to give anything of themselves or consider the needs of the other person.

A carefully managed multiple partnership could very well be the answer to a pair of otherwise mismatched people who love each other.

Emotional infidelity is more prevalent than is sexual infidelity.
 
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