Audiofuzzy said:
>>My knowledge of stretching is based on the fact I can probably named 20 close friends of mine right off the bat who have stretched, let closed up, and stretched again. I know people who have stretched up to an inch and a half.>>
CENTAL,
20 out of .. 20? or 20 out of 200? or 2000?
Do you GUARANTEE that the girl in question won't be unfortunate 21'st who'se holes doesn't close up?
How do you know she'd even want them to close up? No matter if they close up or not, they will still shrink back to standard size, which, correct me if I'm wrong, is normal for females into American society to have their ears pierced.
Just because you have some personal experience does NOT mean the site I gave link to is not based on someone else personal experience, too.
I would say I'd rather trust a professional who does hundreds of gauging per year than a private, most likely not professional person like you.
Professionals will tell her the same thing. Several of those friends I know whom have stretched, work in tattoo and piercing parlors. And 8g (like she stated she wanted to stretch to) is not a big stretch at all.
But really, that discussion is pointless because of this simple fact which few pple already pointed out- the girl is a minor.
Under the law, the shop who does the gauging will need parent's written permission to do this. At least it should do so. I'm pretty sure if otherwise whoever goes ahead and do any body alteration, piercing, tatoo, w/o parent's permission to a minor is gonna lost in the court.
That means, under the law, her parents are responsible for her, and she needs her parents permisson to do anything. Even how to dress because after all it's the parents who pay for her clothes. For her make-up too, for everything. They understand the implication of dressing code. They know for example why it is not good to wear revealing clothes for 15 years old.
You people are all acting like she isn't capable of making her own decisions, and that she is a gentle, immature child, incapable of decision making. Sbe's akready stated her parent's reasons are because they're afraid of how it would reflect on them. So parents' must be obeyed, no matter how selfish and irrational the decisions they make for their children are? There is no law forbidding gauging. If she was going to have her ears pierced, yeah, she'd have to have parental permission.
And even if she distribute newspapers and have her own money, she still needs her parent's permission as per to what to wear and buy.
because if we will think along the lines- "she works, it's her money, she can do with them what she wants" - she can go ahead and buy alcohol, drugs - it's her money.
Like I said, I completely support free will. I believe if you earn your own money, you should have the right to spend it however you want. Its your own personal responsbility of how you spend it.
There is more than money and rules to children-parents relationship, though.
A child is supposed to trust it's parents to do what is best for them children. Chidlren should trust their parents, and respect their rules and suggestion.
If the parents say NO, they should trust that it is in their (child) best interest,
And likewise, parents should not merely use their power because they can, but consider the child and the circumstances carefully in order to come to the best conclusion/solution. How can you butt in and encourage a minor to do against her parents? Who are responsible for her well being?
We're talking about ear gauging, not her going out getting shitfaced and sleeping around. If she was asking "how do I convince my parent's that marijuana is alright," do you really think I'd hold the same stance. "Mother knows best," is not a universal truth, only socially accepted truth.
I know out there there is many underage kids pierced, gauged, roaming freely late at night but that does not mean it's OK to encourage one more 15 y. old girl to go ahead an pierce her ears against her parents wishes.
If as you say you are 5 years older, that means you are 20ty, you're an adult now, and you should KNOW WELL that 15 years old is still a CHILD.
She may look like she's mature and she may act like she's mature, but the truth is she's only NOT QUITE MATURE 15 years old who should respect her parents rules.
Nothing's gonna stop her from fulfilling her dreams of having gauged ears a few years later!! IF she still WILL want it.
I suspect though, most likely, despite your age, I think you simply didn't matured yourself. You may be 20 but your mind is still... 15.
If you were 20 AND mature then you would know that it's YOUR DAMN RESPONSIBILTY AS AN ADULT to encourage her to listen to her parents, NOT disobey !!
There's that word again. "Child, child child."
I try to make it a point to avoid cliches, but... you don't know me. I'm irresponsible? Is that what you think? I've been working and paying for my own clothes, food, and everything since I was 15. I knew what responsbility was earlier than the average teenager does. And that has nothing to even do with this topic. So stop attacking my credibility and maturity level.
And, for crissake, to offer a 15 year old naivette to give a stranger (it's YOU!!!) her address over internet, at that !!
don't you know that's what perverts do?
Fuzzy
I just love how I automatically get classified with internet stalkers and perverts because I offered to send a pair of plugs to her.
I've stated my case, and I've seen all the outrage over my advice. If you don't like it, don't agree, or think I'm out of line, then fine, whatever. PM me and we can discuss it there. This thread has been derailed because I don't share the mainstream social views of parental control, and that is not fair to the thread's author. You think I'm offering bad advice? Don't tell me. Tell the person I offered advice to do, and offer her possible solutions to rectify her problem. I'm through with this "parental disobedience" topic. Got it?