Hello, I just needed to talk to someone that would understand. Sometimes I get frustrated because everyone I know has hearing babies or the people that i talk to with deaf children dont have the same views i do. Sometimes I feel so alone.My daughter was implanted 4 months ago. I still sign with her though. Shes so cute when she signs. I just feel like I have no support with the ASL. I just wish I could meet more parents that sign with their babies.The people I meet just stick with oral communication.I feel like a loner because we(my husand and I) decided to have her implanted, but still like to sign. Im not that great so far! I get "tongue twisted" with my hands.Oh, well Im still learning.I hope to just get better and better.I just start to think of my daughter's future.Im scared that she will grow up confused.I dont want her to be confused.I will accept any route she decides.Honestly, when i envision her in the future i hope she chooses to date a deaf man, have deaf friends, and embrace who she is.I cant wait to finish nursing school so that we can move.the city we live in does not offer much for deaf children or families.The city I would like to live has a larger deaf population. I have noticed that since my daughter was implanted, my family and friends need lots of educating.The first thing they ask is," So she can hear now, right? Or how about before she was implanted people would say," Im surprised she cries!" HELLO! of course she can cry! I was watching this clip on youtube, and this mother was crying after her baby was implanted and telling the doc. thankyou for this wonderful gift,I dont know why it made me mad.She acted like the hearing loss was soo horrible and she was so grateful that he was cured now.When I found out I didnt feel like it was this horrible curse.I even had an audiologist tell me he was surprised at how well I was taking the news.My friends attribute it to the fact Im becoming a nurse and I accept people for who they are.I just knew I fell in love with my baby and she was healthy so I was happy. I know some people may wonder why we chose to get her a CI if we were so accepting of her.Just like I mentioned in my previous post(though it has been awhile) I just want her to have choices.Some may agree and some may not.Im not perfect and I know I'll make mistakes.It would just be nice to have a friend that understands where We(my family and I) are coming from.Thanx for listening! I appreciate any feedback or advice, I dont take things too personal!
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jillio
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Stick around. There are plenty of people around AD that agree with your decision to continue sign with your child.
Cool,how long have you been a nurse? Im in a ADN program and Im going on my 4th semester.Some days I want to hide under my bed and never come out! It gets hard with a little toddler and a 9 yr. old busting in the room when ur trying to study a 14 chapter test!
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It takes time to become fairly good in sign language. But I applaud you and your hubby for thinking of your child's needs, and for believing that sign language is vital to her wellbeing & development.
It'll be worth it in the long term. I know this because my mother would say it if she saw what you wrote. She learned to sign when I was 4, and because of that, our relationship's close. My friends and acquaintances are often impressed with her signing skills, even though my mother think she is crappy at it.
Good luck with making educational decisions for your child. And for working to complete your nursing degree.
My mother worked two jobs and went to college to get Bachelor of Education while raising 6 of us. A miracle woman, eh?
Anyway, you're welcome to contact us for anything.
Cheers
It'll be worth it in the long term. I know this because my mother would say it if she saw what you wrote. She learned to sign when I was 4, and because of that, our relationship's close. My friends and acquaintances are often impressed with her signing skills, even though my mother think she is crappy at it.
Good luck with making educational decisions for your child. And for working to complete your nursing degree.
My mother worked two jobs and went to college to get Bachelor of Education while raising 6 of us. A miracle woman, eh?
Anyway, you're welcome to contact us for anything.
Cheers
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Keep signing...she will thank you one day for it.
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Doug, You will have to wait until she/he reach her/his 100 posts to answer the questions for you. :roll:
ange26s, I wish my parents were like you giving the ability to sign with me along with my sister when I was young. It really important to have sign language to communicate with your child no matter if she has hearing aid or CI. I wish many hearing professionals like doctors, audiologists and AGBELLers would stop poking into our deafness affair saying that we should learn to speak and use lipreading only which is bad enough to damage our lives trying to understand what hearing people say. It had been a struggle for many of us deafies with the oral only environment in mainstream and we were not happy with this. So keep signing with your daughter because she will be grateful and happy that she can understand what you all were saying a lot better than lipreading. You did the right thing and you are a terrific parent, I must say!
ange26s, I wish my parents were like you giving the ability to sign with me along with my sister when I was young. It really important to have sign language to communicate with your child no matter if she has hearing aid or CI. I wish many hearing professionals like doctors, audiologists and AGBELLers would stop poking into our deafness affair saying that we should learn to speak and use lipreading only which is bad enough to damage our lives trying to understand what hearing people say. It had been a struggle for many of us deafies with the oral only environment in mainstream and we were not happy with this. So keep signing with your daughter because she will be grateful and happy that she can understand what you all were saying a lot better than lipreading. You did the right thing and you are a terrific parent, I must say!
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Like Deafbajagal said..keep signing. Your daughter will appreciate u giving her the best of both worlds.
I was forbidden from sign language because the specialists told my parents in order to make me normal, I need to learn oral skills and not to expose me to any ASL.
I grew up struggling because of that. I learned ASL at 25 years old and I wish I had ASL growing up. Would be nice to have both instead of just oral only or the "hearing" way.
I was forbidden from sign language because the specialists told my parents in order to make me normal, I need to learn oral skills and not to expose me to any ASL.
I grew up struggling because of that. I learned ASL at 25 years old and I wish I had ASL growing up. Would be nice to have both instead of just oral only or the "hearing" way.
Thank you.
I just want to say it because I do not want to see any deaf child with/without CI to go thru without sign. I wish I learned sign right after I became deaf so I would not being miss out so much. I applaud you for using sign with your child. Your sign will become better as she growing older.
I just want to say it because I do not want to see any deaf child with/without CI to go thru without sign. I wish I learned sign right after I became deaf so I would not being miss out so much. I applaud you for using sign with your child. Your sign will become better as she growing older.