Hi, I'm new here.
I was searching for a place like this so I could ask for some help. My name is Diederik, I'm 19 years old and I'm gay.
I'm not deaf and I had never met a deaf person before and that's why I'm here.
I met a deaf boy through some friends of mine. He's 18. He can't hear a thing and he never spoke a word in all his life. Not even a moan. Plus he's gay and his small group of friends are the only ones who know that. He's been having a hard time dealing with all this. He really finds it difficult to deal with himself. And he prefers to write instead of using "deaf language" (I'm not sure that's how it's called, sorry), althought he learned it. I guess he feels unconfortable. Well, at least I was able to comunicate with him (writing), because I know nothing about "deaf language".
So, the thing is... I fell in love with him. He said he never had a boyfriend, probably because he's deaf and people's discrimination... We know each other for a month now and I think he might like me too. He's the sweetest good looking guy I've ever met. His shyness and beautiful smile makes him so....... (I just can't describe it)
I really love him. The fact that he can't hear me or speak to me, doesn't matter. The problem is that I have no experience of... "living with" and understanding a deaf person. And could he actually love ME, a hearing person?
If someone could just tell me if there's anything I should know/do/go etc, in order to love him without hurting him...
Please forgive my ignorance towards this issue, but I really want to make this possible. I want to know his world and be there for him.
Hope you can help me.
I was searching for a place like this so I could ask for some help. My name is Diederik, I'm 19 years old and I'm gay.
I'm not deaf and I had never met a deaf person before and that's why I'm here.
I met a deaf boy through some friends of mine. He's 18. He can't hear a thing and he never spoke a word in all his life. Not even a moan. Plus he's gay and his small group of friends are the only ones who know that. He's been having a hard time dealing with all this. He really finds it difficult to deal with himself. And he prefers to write instead of using "deaf language" (I'm not sure that's how it's called, sorry), althought he learned it. I guess he feels unconfortable. Well, at least I was able to comunicate with him (writing), because I know nothing about "deaf language".
So, the thing is... I fell in love with him. He said he never had a boyfriend, probably because he's deaf and people's discrimination... We know each other for a month now and I think he might like me too. He's the sweetest good looking guy I've ever met. His shyness and beautiful smile makes him so....... (I just can't describe it)
I really love him. The fact that he can't hear me or speak to me, doesn't matter. The problem is that I have no experience of... "living with" and understanding a deaf person. And could he actually love ME, a hearing person?
If someone could just tell me if there's anything I should know/do/go etc, in order to love him without hurting him...
Please forgive my ignorance towards this issue, but I really want to make this possible. I want to know his world and be there for him.
Hope you can help me.