How Would You Feel?.....

I'm with Lizachick... wouldn't want to change anything here besides it is parents' responsibility when using the computer that contain graphic materials and strong language. Use it when the kids aren't around or are asleep. Just be wise, that's all.
 
IM with liza......

Another sample.. when you have radio on.. and you don't realized what it was saying since you are deaf but I have been hearing things from my mom and my husband that TALKShows do talk many things that included sexual talks, and musics.. I often ask my husband to listen to tapes for me if I want since my son now listen to rap (due of his friend joey's dad listen to raps lol)It s not only just on AllDeaf, other forums or anywhere online, emails etc..

I can understand how Angel feels about when son walk behind and was shock when see it. I would be the same.. If this happen to me Again with any kids I would said "im sorry for read this but this is adult to read, If you ever need to talk about this, it is ok to talk to parents but to talk about this with other kids may not be good idea because I don't want other parents to get mad at me for telling you this or that..." something like that but I DO Believe that I don't have any right to lie or cover up to my kids!


Another sample, As Some of you all know We have baby almost 4 months old. however I couldn't use some of birth controls I had to remove the patch due of the terrible side effect so for now we both agree condom! we came home from shopping my husband forgot to put bag somwehere else but my daughter looked and read the box I said huh what you doing.. she put back in bag then look at it again I said what you doing ? I though you are putting away ( I was cooking dinner as preparing etc) so she said "what is this ??" I saw the box... *oops* soo Im like oh never mind.. she put back in back few min later she went back in bag and read it again carefully and I said.. what are you doing I though I said put away she said " MOM I want to know what is it ?" I said 'well you're not ready for it! but I will tell you.. this is condom, Plese please please don't be afraid to ask me to have one or have any kind of form of birth control Please don't try to do it behind my back I want you to make sure you have some kind of protections not for only not to get pregnant but to have some diease-free too please please wait till you are over 18 years old but IF you ever ever decide to do it before 18 ASK ME for some kind of protections'.. I want her to know how important is to ask her mom and/or dad whenever she want as in not to be afraid you know..
SO sorry for begin Offtopic.. but I was just giving some kind of sample like she found in bag same idea when you don't realized kids Reading along with you while you don't realized they are behind you! If my daughter or sons caught something online that I was reading I would explain in honesty way of why I am reading this or that.. Personally It is my responsible to explain to my kids what was going on with their life, what is going on out in real world etc. We the parents ( Any parents ) really can't prevents from what could happen because we can't predication futures for them but we can try to protect them by begin honest, etc.. My daughter is almost 11 years old and it is "time" for her to start to realized what is going on, and to be aware what to prevent, what to protect herself from. I don't want to hide things from her...
offtopic again another sample..
My ex-bf who was very "obessive" with pornos... My daughter tend wake up in middle of night to go bathroom or get drink.. she would cry and cry because of the tv was left on in livingroom.. (don't ask me why it was in livingroom all I can say the ex-bf sleeps in livingroom as he s always drunken man! hes out of my life!) so I had to go out tehre and shut it off or change it .. of course I had to yell at him for leaving on he kept on apologizing over and over she was o nly 5 yrs old.. too young to see that... same with online if that happen... then have to say oops it was on, because of researches or something.. but don't cover up or say lies things I believe if parents begin responsible by doing this wait at night time or be reasonable to use limit times etc.. since they have child/children in home too! ya know.. ya ya i know im babbling LOL...

Well I got to go...
Wendy
 
Breezy said:
^Angel^ i totally agree with you 100%. I don't have kids or anything but sometimes it is shocking to read things under general discussion and come across some pretty explicted things.

I'll be sure to watch what i say more often, as i happen to be a chronic swearer myself. Thanx for bringing it up.*hugs*

Exactly! Thank you Breezy ! *hugs*....

Thank you everyone for your opinions ! :ily:
 
I totally agree with a lot of you -- I just believe that things containing sexual contents are just about everywhere...not only on the Internet.
Sex is a natural thing and everyone will experiment with sex eventually once they've hit puberty and onwards. I know there's a lot of concern over filtering sexual contents and sexually explicit graphics, etc...but kids will eventually see some while growing up.
Just have to take precautionary measures and methods in preventing kids snooping around and seeing what is on the internet while the parents are on the computer. It's the parents' responsibility in ensuring that is being taken place.
 
I would agree with liza, katzie, and sabrina's comment.

Smart (normal) parents wouldn't neglect their children when they are not using the computer for enjoy like surf the website except they are ok to check their emails. Sometime their children can be curious.

Chippy, you see what happen to your daughter who went through your stuffs.
 
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^Angel^ said:
Last night when I was reading posts in AllDeaf and I opened a thread under General Discussions and while I was reading a few posts I did not know my 9 years old son was standing behind me ( I think he was waiting to get my attention ) and seeing the startled look on his face....Then, I realized the posts I had been reading contained several words of sexual content....

I do feel very uncomfortable as a parent by having to keep looking behind my back every so often to be sure that none of my three children is not standing by and able to see what is posted....I do feel and wish words used that describes things or actions in a sexual way could be refrained ( keep-out ) of these general topics and kept where it's most appropriate which is in the ' Penisarium ' Threads....I do find some of these posts funni and I do not want to come across in a way that looks like I am complaining....And since I can not hear when any of my children is coming into the room to get my attention, I don't feel that I must tell them to get my attention differently because they're my children and they shouldn't feel restricted when approaching me!...

How would you feel about this if you were in the same situation with children around you or people that works with you?...Feel Free to share your view and opinion on this..... :mrgreen:

Oh boy that is so tough!! I can't say it because my two kids are under age 3.
I really do not know what I am going to say it when it happens. BUT in my mind, i will do my best to explain that these graphics are for adult and will talk more about it somehow!!! i have to observe how mature they are. No matter what if they still laugh or get upset but mature in someway. oh i will let you know in the future when it happens to me. :eek2:
 
WaterRats13 said:
I totally agree with a lot of you -- I just believe that things containing sexual contents are just about everywhere...not only on the Internet.
Sex is a natural thing and everyone will experiment with sex eventually once they've hit puberty and onwards. I know there's a lot of concern over filtering sexual contents and sexually explicit graphics, etc...but kids will eventually see some while growing up.
Just have to take precautionary measures and methods in preventing kids snooping around and seeing what is on the internet while the parents are on the computer. It's the parents' responsibility in ensuring that is being taken place.

I do understand where you are coming from here, although, there is a place or like for here in this forum...there's a specific topic/thread whereas we can use such explicit content and graphics...point is...when children are around, and that would be the time to 'avoid' going into that topic/thread....and still be able to browse the other categories without having 'fear' of opening up a thread and something a bit out of line is exposed for all to see, and possibly for a child to come up and catch a glimpse of...like for what Malfoyish indicated earlier...it sure does sound like a good idea to add on: nfc (not for children)...etc...which would greatly help many of those who are not capable of having to 'move' a computer around...etc....and also wait later for a better time to check that specific thread....

The point I see ^Angel^ is getting across here is the widely used sexual content such as in the 'General Discussion', etc...when it is most befitting that it belongs in the Penisarium thread....
 
eternity said:
I would agree with liza, katzie, and sabrina's comment.

Smart (normal) parents wouldn't neglect their children when they are not using the computer for enjoy like surf the website except they are ok to check their emails.

Dumb parents neglect their children while they are using their computer. Their children can be curious.

Chippy, you see what happen to your daughter who went through your stuffs.

Angel, it never happen to me. Why should I feel if my daughter is behind me? I would use my common sense that I wouldn't be online while she's around.


Kinda hard to do..Kids always manage to sneak up on you or do something totally un expected.
 
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coffeeeeman said:
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Kinda hard to do..Kids always manage to sneak up on your or do thing totally un expected.

Exactly! Being a 'kid' eons ago...sure can remember the countless times I snuck up from behind....simply put, kids are kids and for the things they may do can be unexpected at any given moment or time....
 
VamPyroX said:
That's life. Nothing is 100% pure and clean. Something will always happen. Of course, many of us swear and there is nothing we can do about it. We can't be blocking out every swear word that goes on in this forum. If we were to keep changing rules and things just to make specific people happy, this forum would become too boring and everyone would lose interest in it. It's like my family. The only ones who enjoy visiting my house are the ones who go to church 3 times a week. Other than that, no one wants to visit because they know that no matter what they do... they will be criticized for their actions. I have friends who come to visit. After they leave, my mom will be yelling at me just because of some shirt a friend of mine wore. There was another time when she yelled at me because my friend kissed his girlfriend upstairs. It wasn't a make-out kiss, just a kiss from lip to lip. Sure, they're religious and I respect that... but this is reality. Nothing is perfect. If your son saw it, oh well... deal with it. It shouldn't be any concern unless he brings it up or you feel that he actually understands what's going on. If you're really concerned, you can wait and visit AllDeaf when they aren't around like in bed or at night. If the computer is in your own room, it might be good to set up the computer so that people can't sneak in behind you while you're on the internet. The computer in my parent's house is in a place that I hate. Anyone can sneak in on me. Once, I was telling my friend that I was going to meet him soon. My mom walked in and saw the message, then got nosy about where I was going. Jeez! Sometimes, we gotta work harder to make things work. We can't expect others to do it for us all the time.

Exactly !
 
i understand how you guys feel about having kids around sneaking up from behind. for me, i had to be extra careful whoever walked up from behind me while browsin on AD at work, i didnt want anyone to see certain words or pictures especially my supervisors/bosses. not only for AD, ANY websites i accessed has some things you dont expect that you dont want anyone notice. i think its best to move your computer to face foward the door/enterance of the room.
 
e said:
i understand how you guys feel about having kids around sneaking up from behind. for me, i had to be extra careful whoever walked up from behind me while browsin on AD at work, i didnt want anyone to see certain words or pictures especially my supervisors/bosses. not only for AD, ANY websites i accessed has some things you dont expect that you dont want anyone notice. i think its best to move your computer to face foward the door/enterance of the room.
BINGO! :thumb:
 
^Angel^ said:
Exactly! Thank you Breezy ! *hugs*....

Thank you everyone for your opinions ! :ily:

Angel, you are welcome and thank you for yours as well :thumb:
 
Man, I'd tell my friends about kids seeing the "mature" content.. to have a good laugh and some advice. Cant think it's any different from my little nephew walking on me a few times "casually." Had to tell him to stay outta the bathroom when he knows it's occupied.. he didn't think there was anything wrong with it (he's just 6), but was embarrassed finally when Imp-hubby explained it to him. :laugh2:

I have a question for all of you - if the kids aren't yours, but belongs to someone else - but they accidentally saw something "mature" would you tell their parents about it?
 
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eternity said:
I would agree with liza, katzie, and sabrina's comment.

Smart (normal) parents wouldn't neglect their children when they are not using the computer for enjoy like surf the website except they are ok to check their emails. Sometime their children can be curious.

Chippy, you see what happen to your daughter who went through your stuffs.

Eternity,
Just Happends, She curouisity browsing on AllDeaf.com while I forgot click X mark to remove the browsing.. Really quite my fault should not minz -. Big bomb, She asked me big question etc etc.. I felt turned embrassement the moment.. I'd rather not have them snooping on my fave site.. as long Kids are around here.. then I'll not have use my computer until clear the coast.. Then I can use my computer... My children has thier own computer and mostly "Parent Guard". Sometimes fusterate to get thru what they wants. TOO BAD. Recently I bought new computer for my daughter and let her own browsing instead of mine!
Hey Eternity, what makes you remind of my old nick.. ((chuckles)) r u must be loved my old nick? I love old nick but have to remove due respect my precouisly 1st Bulldog "Chippy". No longer "Chippy".. would have Bullym0m..
Thanks for your time. :) :thumb:
 
My Son has his own account and he is on Parent Control. He is not allow to Chat with Strangers on line or Look in websites He can only play on line games or Look at Cards on Line for Kids.

My Son never Caught anything Sexual On line even through my Computer is in the Living Room...My boys are so busy all the time playing with their toys, Cards or watching movies or Playing with their Video games...If they decide they want to go to the Park I take them to the Park or Outside and I'll get off Line or put away message up... :mrgreen:
 
Cheri said:
My Son has his own account and he is on Parent Control. He is not allow to Chat with Strangers on line or Look in websites He can only play on line games or Look at Cards on Line for Kids.

My Son never Caught anything Sexual On line even through my Computer is in the Living Room...My boys are so busy all the time playing with their toys, Cards or watching movies or Playing with their Video games...If they decide they want to go to the Park I take them to the Park or Outside and I'll get off Line or put away message up... :mrgreen:
Now, that's what I call being well-prepared and responsible. AOL and MSN offers these services. People should take advantage of these things. As for kids sneaking up, that's something parents have to deal with on their own. There is no real program or solution for this except to wait for the right time or to move your computer so that you're facing the computer and the doorway at the same time.
 
I was just telling what happened and how I feel....I guess it was a bad idea to post this...Next time I'll keep things to myself!

Thanks for your input and opinion!

Have a great day!
 
^Angel^ said:
I was just telling what happened and how I feel....I guess it was a bad idea to post this...Next time I'll keep things to myself!

Thanks for your input and opinion!

Have a great day!



^Angel^, Honey.. Don't worry about it.. I do know how Wonderful Mother you are and you are corncer about your Son. Nobody is Perfect out in the World.. If they think they are Perfect Parent that would be a Lie...Every Child do things like that and it does happens. They are Kids and they do get into things or accident looked at something they are not suppose to be doing....*Hugs* You made a good Thread. :kiss:
 
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