i know what brian means, most women ARE offended if you are caught looking, unless she's a very 'i dont mind if you looking at me...' type or unless you have a popular reputation or something that lets you get away with gawking and i am SURE most women DO peek when men are not looking, its a knon fct women have 'better brain/eyes to look -whats the periperailly (sp?) like looking striaght ahead but can see.notice the feature down there (as Shel90 said), but all the men would not realise this happened.
Indeed Brian did said personality is important. I for one, thinks personality comes first, and sometimes its hard to know what personality she would have (i dont do psychology to 'watch people to pick out clues - i dont know what to look for) so if anything. i usually found out the hard way, with many rude snarks or bitchy snarls of dissapprovals. On my part i lack social skills to be relaxed and get them relaxed and talking, nowaday i dont bother trying anymore, and i noticed something else, they come and talk...
Nothing wrong with pride in good looks and health while it is over rated, admittingly I like slim petite ladys as it is a more a physical match in size for me, if that what i prefer so here it is. i prefer slim. i am aware there's people to like people differently sized from themselves, but in most cases it is not.