TiaraPrincess
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What do you think of people who don't give gifts in return? Do you think they should? Depends?
There is a co-worker that mom helped be hired a year ago because mom worked with her husband a long, long time ago in another company. Her husband was friends with my uncle a long time ago. We see them maybe once a year at a party they make. Anyway, my mother always has a gift for her little girl on her b-day and on Christmas. Sometimes when she feels like it if she finds something cute. When my mom turned 50, she only gave her a balloon and a printed out Happy Birthday with a design on it. Doesn't that sound cheap? (Remember the balloon and paper is the only thing that she gave in the last couple of years we've known them). We invited her to our new home a little after my birthday. We also had a birthday cake for me. They did not bring anything for me. She also bought her something for her baby shower before.
However, I don't know why this person that mom has known a long time never once gave her a gift. We aren't very close to them for some reason. However, I don't know what to think of people who do that. I didn't think much that she did not bring a birthday gift until after they left. I just think it's so odd. They are not poor people, so that's not a reason. It just becomes a pattern as you know them that they are not very thoughtful, giving or as you would say generous people. I don't really like her personally. I don't show that, but I didn't know that until last winter when I saw how she really was as a person. She doesn't really talk to me. I doubt that she ever thanked my mother for helping get her hired. A card or something thoughtful? Not an ounce of it.
Am I making a big deal out of this? We continue to be nice and friends because we have no issues with them, but my mom and I noticed this year about her greediness or however is best said. Why are some people cheap and not generous or thoughtful when appropriate?
There is a co-worker that mom helped be hired a year ago because mom worked with her husband a long, long time ago in another company. Her husband was friends with my uncle a long time ago. We see them maybe once a year at a party they make. Anyway, my mother always has a gift for her little girl on her b-day and on Christmas. Sometimes when she feels like it if she finds something cute. When my mom turned 50, she only gave her a balloon and a printed out Happy Birthday with a design on it. Doesn't that sound cheap? (Remember the balloon and paper is the only thing that she gave in the last couple of years we've known them). We invited her to our new home a little after my birthday. We also had a birthday cake for me. They did not bring anything for me. She also bought her something for her baby shower before.
However, I don't know why this person that mom has known a long time never once gave her a gift. We aren't very close to them for some reason. However, I don't know what to think of people who do that. I didn't think much that she did not bring a birthday gift until after they left. I just think it's so odd. They are not poor people, so that's not a reason. It just becomes a pattern as you know them that they are not very thoughtful, giving or as you would say generous people. I don't really like her personally. I don't show that, but I didn't know that until last winter when I saw how she really was as a person. She doesn't really talk to me. I doubt that she ever thanked my mother for helping get her hired. A card or something thoughtful? Not an ounce of it.
Am I making a big deal out of this? We continue to be nice and friends because we have no issues with them, but my mom and I noticed this year about her greediness or however is best said. Why are some people cheap and not generous or thoughtful when appropriate?