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this is just not for angel... but for everyone too! :)

i am SO CURIOUS in everyone's opinions! NO BASHINGS, INSULTINGS OR DEGRADING! there is no right and wrong in this... it is just a matter of opinions AND ETIQUETTE!!! K??? :thumb:

if you were invited to a wedding and were allowed to bring a guest, would you EXPECT YOUR GUEST TO CONTRIBUTE TOWARDS MONEY/OR GIFT for the bride and groom??? or it is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO TAKE CARE OF THE MONEY/GIFT??? and your guest is just there to tag along and keep you company? :D
 
IF the guest doesn't know the bride or groom, i'd say no. if he does, it's up to him. that's just my opinion.
 
Actually, most people who bring guests along with them to the wedding, usually put their guests' names on the gifts they've bought already. It is not necessary for the guest of the invited person to bring a gift.
 
DreamDeaf said:
Actually, most people who bring guests along with them to the wedding, usually put their guests' names on the gifts they've bought already. It is not necessary for the guest of the invited person to bring a gift.
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***nodding agreement***
 
DreamDeaf said:
Actually, most people who bring guests along with them to the wedding, usually put their guests' names on the gifts they've bought already. It is not necessary for the guest of the invited person to bring a gift.
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:nodding in agreement:
 
I'm really don't know about wedding but not go here.

I know that some people did went to graduation without invitation, is it bad?
 
FeistyChick said:
...if you were invited to a wedding and were allowed to bring a guest, would you EXPECT YOUR GUEST TO CONTRIBUTE TOWARDS MONEY/OR GIFT for the bride and groom???
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No, I wouldn't expect my guest to contribute to the gift.
 
DreamDeaf said:
Actually, most people who bring guests along with them to the wedding, usually put their guests' names on the gifts they've bought already. It is not necessary for the guest of the invited person to bring a gift.
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yea i agree with u 200%
 
FeistyChick said:
Reba said:
Originally Posted by Reba
No, I wouldn't expect my guest to contribute to the gift.
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even if the guest/s know the bride and/or groom???
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Nope - because the bride and groom DID NOT invite the guest - they invited the person, who in turn, invited the guest. Therefore, the invitee should be willing to put the guest's name on the gift, if inclined to do so.

In fact, I would not expect the bride and groom to expect gifts - especially from guests of invited people.
 
FeistyChick said:
even if the guest/s know the bride and/or groom???
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If my guest was a friend of the bride and groom, he/she probably would have gotten his/her own invitation.

But if someone is my guest, there's no obligation to bring a present.
 
DreamDeaf said:
Nope - because the bride and groom DID NOT invite the guest - they invited the person, who in turn, invited the guest. Therefore, the invitee should be willing to put the guest's name on the gift, if inclined to do so.

In fact, I would not expect the bride and groom to expect gifts - especially from guests of invited people.
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Right I agree....
 
DreamDeaf said:
Nope - because the bride and groom DID NOT invite the guest - they invited the person, who in turn, invited the guest. Therefore, the invitee should be willing to put the guest's name on the gift, if inclined to do so.

In fact, I would not expect the bride and groom to expect gifts - especially from guests of invited people.
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i have recieved invitations where it is addressed like this.... or got invited by people as their guests as well...

Ms. "" "" and guest <<< ??? that means the guest is also invited by the bride and groom too???

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Reba said:
If my guest was a friend of the bride and groom, he/she probably would have gotten his/her own invitation.

But if someone is my guest, there's no obligation to bring a present.
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that is what i thought! :D

thanks everyone for your feedback/input! :thumb:
 
FeistyChick said:
i have recieved invitations where it is addressed like this.... or got invited by people as their guests as well...

Ms. "" "" and guest <<< ??? that means the guest is also invited by the bride and groom too???
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The bride and groom are letting the person who receives the invitation do the inviting of whomever he/she chooses. The guest of the guest is not actually invited by name. The secondary guest is usually added on the invitation for the convenience and pleasure of the original guest, so the original guest will have an escort or companion.
 
FeistyChick said:
even if the guest/s know the bride and/or groom???
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I would say the guest to contribute to the gift cause it's respect.(personal preference unless the person that brings the guest frets when contribute or not). That's just me I always contribute even though if I don't know the bride and groom but with the person I'm with.. I'm just too compassionate not to avoid it..

Most of the time the bride/groom will know when you just bringing a guest doesn't mean anything if their name is on the invitation as the person they invited will get a thankyou card... then it's passed to the guest..
 
DreamDeaf said:
Nope - because the bride and groom DID NOT invite the guest - they invited the person, who in turn, invited the guest. Therefore, the invitee should be willing to put the guest's name on the gift, if inclined to do so.

In fact, I would not expect the bride and groom to expect gifts - especially from guests of invited people.
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yea true i agree with u abt that..
 
Yeah i agree with everyone here. The guest, who is not invited should not pay for the gift. If you expect them to it is almost like you invited them just so they could pay for half of the gift for a wedding they were not invited to in the first place. It is the person who is invited to the wedding to bring a gift, if they are so inclined or are finacially able. If not then they do not have to bring a gift at all. Your date should never have to chip in on the gift. Besides did they help pick it out? I definately am not paying for something i had no say in getting and there for am not sure if i am able to afford. Especially if i wasn't invited. If the date offers to chip in for the gift they can but you should not expect it.
All the answers here seem to be the same however you are asking additional questions to see if our minds change and they aren't. It appears that you are of the oppinion that the guest should have to pay for half of the gift. I may be wrong though. =)
 
i agree with DD.

only the person's name on the inviton card shall give the gifts, etc.
 
Another reason for the bride and groom putting the invitees name AND guest is to make sure they will have enough seats and food when they receive your RSVP card back,and you've marked that you will be bringing a guest.

Otherwise, there may not be enough seats and food for all the guests!!!
 
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