I realize today from reading post that I do not have the voice that I want. That I need to take responsibility for the wrongs done me and make difference.
That I, me, angry for wrongs. Okay to be angry but, then, do something about.
Thank you Becklak today I start being me. Tired of asking family to accommodate, well, then *make* them accommodate you! Tired of people thinking you hearie because you talk then *DON'T*. Then they have no choice!
I guess what I mean for 'hearies' is that I don't want to be hearie. I just want to be *ME*. I don't want to make apology anymore for not hearing.
I come to my own if make sense?
Thank you everyone, deafie particular, for helping realize this. Thank you AD!
I use Becklak 'STEP' from now on. Even with son who pretend I do not hear. Done with it. He can learn.
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I tried without using my voice but I reverted back to my old habits of using it. Got too brainwashed by the hearing way growing up. GRR!
I have had good luck except at work. My boss.... echhhh.
Yet, in my "real life" I am voice off. I just try to be more expressive. Voice off is great. Like Beklak was inspiring to you, PFH was inspiring to me. (Thank you formally, PFH). The only time I do have trouble is when I voice. Too loud, too soft, oh - voicing = hearing.... So I kept reading PFH's posts and sure enough, it works. PFH and Nike. Just do it. hahaha
Deaf Caroline also inspired me with a story of being a "good listener". haha
You will have good luck with this if you remember the expressive looks, posture and attitude. I wish you all the best in your journey.
I tried without using my voice but I reverted back to my old habits of using it. Got too brainwashed by the hearing way growing up. GRR!
It's quite liberating.
And matter of a fact!! I signed to the barista my order, and got it, sat down.
A few minutes later a lady approached me in sign... this lady is in her 2nd week of ASL 1 class! So we chatted briefly. It was cool.
She asked if we could meet and chat every once in a while. It was nice.
This happened just 5 minutes ago.
This would have never happened if I voiced or wrote my order.
LDNanna said:I have had good luck except at work. My boss.... echhhh.
Yet, in my "real life" I am voice off. I just try to be more expressive. Voice off is great. Like Beklak was inspiring to you, PFH was inspiring to me. (Thank you formally, PFH). The only time I do have trouble is when I voice. Too loud, too soft, oh - voicing = hearing.... So I kept reading PFH's posts and sure enough, it works. PFH and Nike. Just do it. hahaha
Deaf Caroline also inspired me with a story of being a "good listener". haha
You will have good luck with this if you remember the expressive looks, posture and attitude. I wish you all the best in your journey.
Grummer said:It's quite liberating.
And matter of a fact!! I signed to the barista my order, and got it, sat down.
A few minutes later a lady approached me in sign... this lady is in her 2nd week of ASL 1 class! So we chatted briefly. It was cool.
She asked if we could meet and chat every once in a while. It was nice.
This happened just 5 minutes ago.
This would have never happened if I voiced or wrote my order.
I have actually started doing that 4 months ago, and yeah its surprising that you Do get respect from the hearies, if not all. Only worry about good results not the negative 'oh she/he deaf cant talk frowns fuck them!, but
honesty its hard!, i do slip back voice on, now i tend to go half and half, like id teach them hand numbers if asking me for ID numbers or order numbers, and basic signs, like please, thank you, points, grine for coffee, black or white, and visually dipping imaginary teabags for tea, sugar is easy hearies arent that stupid if given chances youd find some of the quick ones, or more 'visual ones', the snotty Englishy types...i feel sorry for them they are so bittered and old worldy and too much of a conformist BORING lol
wicked way to go Reb, PFH, etc all those who do it, id be nice if not only encourage Beclak's ideas of STEPs but also to influence more of the voice on deafies to try stand up and BE DEAF...SHOW the world who we really are
peace to you all
haha last week, it was the first day of track for my boy, and i signed to hearing people asking where was my boy be in the group. Funny, one of them who happens to be a chairperson for this track. She signed to me and was telling me where my boy was supposed to be in the group. She even introduced herself and I introduced myself too. It's nice to see someone who knows ASL. cool.