acousticpathway
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people assuming that i can totally understand them without lipreading when they find out i have HA's
I think the thing that really, really frustrates me to death---The constant covering of their mouth while talking. Also, the thinking that if I can speak, I can hear.
Bottesini said:My brother (criticize sign language).
Your sign language? Or just sign language in general?
Hi I'm a newbie...but I was reading through this topic, and though I'd add one of my own...
I HATE it when well-meaning people at my church tell me I should "believe for my healing so that I can live my life to the fullest" and that "I must have sinned or my parents' must have sinned and that's why I'm deaf!"
AND, I HATE it when I'm talking to someone, miss what they say, ask if they'd repeat themselves bse I'm deaf and I need to lipread them, and they are like "oh...I'm sorry"...or they see me having a converstion in Auslan with the other deaf at church, and then the next time they see me, they won't talk to me and I find out it's because they "don't know how to talk to me because I'm deaf".
I also HATE it when I'm with a deaf friend, and their hearing family talks about them to me and my husband as thought their relative isn't even in the room. I usually interpret what's being said, and the hearing person will tell me I shouldn't be interopreting for them, bse they are not talking to them, only about them, and I aways say "didn't you know it's RUDE to talk about other people behind their backs???" LOL! THAT shuts them up!
AuslanGirl
My teacher called me stupid when I didn't hear part of her instruction.
covering their mouth when they talk!!
"Why are you teaching your hearing son sign language, he's not deaf" (my ex mother in law said that to me.)
Inquiring minds (me) want to know.
When medical personnel approach parents of a new-born with long sad faces and tell them that they bring the awful, sad news that their baby is deaf. Kinda getting off on the wrong foot, eh?
Being a hearie myself, I could imagine that learning to read lips must be an awesome task. How hard is it to learn that skill? Very, very difficult I must imagine.
Difficult. British people say things differently than Americans and it's almost impossible for me. I've had no formal classes but I do ok in rochester or torono in the US and Canada, respectively.
I would think that hearies figure that deaf folks would not know if an emergency vehicle is rushing towards them. This is NOT my view.
Its not a hearing vs. deaf thing, some people are just jerks.
One peeve I have is some people assuming hearing aids work like glasses. Glasses can give people 20/20 vision but it doesnt work that way with hearing aids.
Hearing loss is loss, not unfocused hearing. Hearing aids help but its not like glasses wear it solves the problem.
Another annoying thing is when people tell you to turn up your hearing aid if you say "what" one too many times. They have no idea theres a limit to how much it can be turned up b4 feedback starts kicking in.
One of the things that annoys me about hearies is that when someone finds out I'm deaf, they get all excited and say something to the effect...
"Hey! You're deaf?? That's kinda cool, man! Ya know, I'm kinda deaf in my right ear....blah, blah, blah!"
I swear, some hearie people are out to annoy you on purpose!
When my hearing audiologist of 13 years talks to me while he has my HAs in his hands during my annual appointments.. My lip/speech reading skills are very limited without my HAs, so I had no clue what he was saying.
My teacher called me stupid when I didn't hear part of her instruction. Ironically, on the walls of the classroom, there was a poster stuck on it saying something along the lines of 'Don't call people names, it is hurtful.'
Even though I'm academically average, I was/am considered 'Special needs' and given an IEP (Individual Educational Plan). The IEP is riddled with mistakes. They say that my right ear is worse, when my left ear is actually the one which is worse. They can't read audiograms. The IEP says that captioning should be provided if possible, and if not then transcript should be given. Never in my school life has captioning been available or transcript been provided. Just couple of many mistakes.. They always seem to think they are doing what is best for me.
Unfortunately, my family (all hearing) thinks that the only reason why I turn captioning on is because I'm used to it. They think that I can watch TV or movies without captioning - I just have to lipread whatever the person's saying on-screen. They really don't understand.
Also there is the never-ending issue of people very slowly and over enunciating their words. It's like - I'm deaf, you know, not an idiot. Just speak clearly.
My ex husband who calls ASL "finger wiggling". I wouldn't be surprised if he thinks it's not a language either.
My mother left me at the hospital when she found out I was born Deaf. My auntie and uncle took me home and raised me for my first year.
Ouch! Your parents took you back after your first year???
My mother left me at the hospital when she found out I was born Deaf. My auntie and uncle took me home and raised me for my first year.