Punishment. It is difficult to punish your loved ones, isn't it? It's always hard for me to stand on my ground to the very end of the punishment I said to my boys. Why it is hard because my oldest son kept bugging me over and over and over about one thing he complains about. Ugh! I had to punish him for that so he can be quiet and drop the issue. Sheesh. I have already explained to him the reasons and the "whys" for thousands times. :roll: He still keep complaining and whining. He's five now. What would you do if you're in my shoes?
Mealtimes is the hardest time for me because they won't eat what I cooked unless it is something they want.
They cannot have everything they want, can they? I have been reasoning with them all the time with mealtime and so forth. How do you punish them if they don't eat what they have on their plates?
My girlfriend told me this that, "if you won't eat, ok fine, go play, but you'll eat this same food for the next mealtime. At next mealtime, no eat, fine go play but again eat same food for the next mealtime. Same next same next...until they finally eat it." If they are very hungry, probably eat, right? Nothing else except water. I was like, wow, good idea, but what about their eating health habit? What would you do if your children won't eat what you cooked for them?
Guidance is easier way to do with children than punishing them, for me it is. Because it's almost like teaching and helping them to understand the reasons. I like to do that, but if they kept asking and asking the same question. One after the same one within five minutes or so. It's annoying!!! I just told them the answer... why can't they just take it as a fact?
For an example: My boy asked me
"Why do you have to go to work?"
- To make money
"Why do you have to make money?"
- To support you by keeping the house, keeping food coming, keeping utilities going, etc.
"Why do you have to support me?"
- So you won't be living out there on street like a bum
"What is a bum?"
- ............
AUGH! They kept asking and asking! It's fun at the beginning, but not on and on and on and on!! I just do not know how to "stop" them. I know they are interested in life and all that, but not asking these questions next after the next. It's exhausting for me. What would you say? How do we as an adult think like a child to answer these questions (funny answers, probably). It's awkward for me.
Mealtimes is the hardest time for me because they won't eat what I cooked unless it is something they want.
They cannot have everything they want, can they? I have been reasoning with them all the time with mealtime and so forth. How do you punish them if they don't eat what they have on their plates?My girlfriend told me this that, "if you won't eat, ok fine, go play, but you'll eat this same food for the next mealtime. At next mealtime, no eat, fine go play but again eat same food for the next mealtime. Same next same next...until they finally eat it." If they are very hungry, probably eat, right? Nothing else except water. I was like, wow, good idea, but what about their eating health habit? What would you do if your children won't eat what you cooked for them?
Guidance is easier way to do with children than punishing them, for me it is. Because it's almost like teaching and helping them to understand the reasons. I like to do that, but if they kept asking and asking the same question. One after the same one within five minutes or so. It's annoying!!! I just told them the answer... why can't they just take it as a fact?
For an example: My boy asked me
"Why do you have to go to work?"
- To make money
"Why do you have to make money?"
- To support you by keeping the house, keeping food coming, keeping utilities going, etc.
"Why do you have to support me?"
- So you won't be living out there on street like a bum
"What is a bum?"
- ............
AUGH! They kept asking and asking! It's fun at the beginning, but not on and on and on and on!! I just do not know how to "stop" them. I know they are interested in life and all that, but not asking these questions next after the next. It's exhausting for me. What would you say? How do we as an adult think like a child to answer these questions (funny answers, probably). It's awkward for me.
My mom have been very patient with me. I am deaf and my parents are hearing. I have high respect for my mother as she sacrifice lot of time learning sign language (Id say her skill is like PSE). She tend to let me choose whatever I want, and remind me that there is ALWAYS a conquence, ex. If I dont eat, what will happen to me? I will get hungry, and weak, and so on. If I give my younger brother a hard time, my mother will ask, "what do you think the conquence of giving your brother a hard time" "uhmmmm, ground me?" She have to make it firm with the punishment because once she bend it, she will do (bend) it again. 
That hurts me. It's about that "fun paperwork" thing. At first, he said that his brother torn it apart, but then now he said HE is sorry that HE (that oldest boy) torn it apart. AUGH!