I am new here, seeking and searching for answers to a lifelong problem with interpersonal relationships.
I know this place is called alldeaf, but I can see that there are all levels of hearing abilities in the posts.
I have hearing loss, but I can hear. My left ear hearing is totally gone. My right ear has one frequency(high pitch) in the normal range, everything else is 65dba or worse. I was diagnosed several years after the onset of the loss so I had already taught myself to lip read. I was mainstreamed, and learned to speak clearly with speech therapy.
I have attempted several times to adapt hearing aids, but the discomfort the aids cause due to the normal freguency make it impossible to focus on the sounds that it improves.
I see several posts about those comments early on about "you speak so well, I had no idea" and all the variations of that. I can totally relate to that.
How do you deal with the people who still expect you to react and relate in the hearing world? I am exhausted, tired of apologizing for offending someone by not responding to them in passing, and dealing with all the awful things being said about me. I don't hide my disability. I make it known early in relationships that I have certain needs.
I have been accused of being:
selective in hearing
deliberate in ignoring
none of these things are who i am. and before you tell me to let it go, some of these people are close to me, and some I must find a way to get past these impressions because I must work with them.