I do understand the laws of child support and custody -- the only time I'd disagree is when one is deceiving the other...for example my husband's ex wife...she lied and made up stories so she could keep the children and get my DH pay approximately $700 a month for 2 children.
He still pays child support each month, but don't see the children at all because the mother refuses to let them or him see the children. Stupid, hey? She even emotionally blackmailed the children into believing her stories that she and the children were abused and mistreated by my DH (while he was married to her) which was totally BS. She lied and she lies about her so called disabilities so she can get disability pension...plus receives pension for the son as he's deaf and a bit of a simpleton (not finished school and his grasp on english is really bad). She even tried to convince the government that her 3rd kid was blind...wtf? But she failed, ha. (She was the one who committed adultery behind DH's back -- had an affair with her new husband while she was still married -- and told the children that their father was the one who had the affair. Yeah, right..he worked 12 hour shifts EVERY day...6 days a week...supporting the family while the ex lolled around at home and looked after the children.)
She currently has a business which is currently folding as I heard it's not doing well-- she kept that business under her new husband's name so her income wouldn't be counted into the Child Support Assessment to figure out how much DH had to pay for child support. :roll:
We haven't seen the children since May this year - we've wiped our hands free of them and refuse to acknowledge their presence. We haven't helped nor called them up on their birthdays at all. Never will nor have them come over for Christmas, etc. No way, not after what they've done to us.
I will never ever forgive them -- UNLESS they beg for forgiveness and truly prove they're remorseful of the hateful and painful things they've done to us...and admit that their mother lied big time.
If I ever see the children on the streets - I will ignore them. I won't acknowledge them at all. Will treat them as strangers.
One of these days, all what she has done will come around and bite her in the arse big time. I'm waiting and looking forward to THAT day.