Women who have children, did your life change, or does it make you look older?

[naisho]

I had an interesting convo with our frisky cat and we thought that this may be a good topic to speak of.

If you've given birth to a child before, does it/do you think it makes you look aged?

Did anything change, physically -- outside of having to tend for a new child, etc etc. the kid stuff.

Why or why not? Any particular experiences you want to share?

I notice that we have a large female base on the forums that could contribute to this thread overall, not just for their comments, but for future women looking to give birth to a child as well.

 

[Frisky Feline]

I told him that he should make a thread and he did. Since he brought up a question about it. I don't know what to answer his good question.

I have two kiddos. One thing is that i can't say if my kids do make me look older. But kids do make me feel older, ( hint, not OLD ). I often get tired than before. naturally, Kids are almost "leech" all over on me and suck out of my blood that makes me tired. :wink:
After i gave birth to little wild monkeys, my body did change a lot. I notice that my hips just got wide and I think I have a much more curvy figure than before. I do my best to take care of my body and my enegry after two kids.


i will think of something to answer and will come back..

 

[shel90]

After my first daughter, I gained a lot of weight and all of sudden, I looked homely...started putting 10 to 15 hours a week at the gym a year later and lost all the weight plus some...When I was 30, I looked 20...After my 2nd son at 33, I gained a lot cuz I was working 2 full time jobs (80 hours a week each week) and since then, I have been struggling to lose it..I feel once I turned 35, I look older than I ever did but I dont know if that has to do with having kids or just turning 35 itself.

I am trying to lose the wieght and I have always dressed fashionably but lately, it has been hard to do that with the economy the way it is..my children take precedence over an updated wardobe.

Maybe when both of my kids grow up, I will look younger!

 

[David]

When my first wife had our first daughter, she got a severe case of post-partum depression but refused to get help. As a result of this, she became mentally and emotionally unstable and still is so to this day, in my opinion.

 

[Babyblue]

Having kids do change your whole perspective of life. You can not just do for yourself anymore. You have a responsibility of caring for the kids.

About the body changes. Yes It changes your body. I ended up with some stretch marks. and bigger hips. As for looking older, those signs are starting to show up as my kids get older. The grays are starting to pop up on my head

 

[Frisky Feline]

Oh yes stretch marks are all over it too. I dont give a fudge about it. haha

 

[~*Kaelei*~]

After I gave birth to my son, a lot of things has changed. I wasn't skinny (And still am) as I used to be before I got pregnant, my breasts became bigger different, my hips became wider, my skin on my stomach have stretch marks (well the stretch marks are now faded, white). Even though I have lost all my pregnancy weight, I'm still not as skinny as I used to me, only like five pounds heavier than my pre-pregnancy body.

But I don't look like a mom, I don't look any older. In fact I've been told that when people looks at me, I look like a older teenager (17/18) or a young adult (20) that never had a child before. I'm only 22. I don't even feel old either, but I do feel more mature than I was three years ago before my son was born. I am more mature than the adults that are my age and the reason is because I have a child to take care of.

The only way you can really tell that I had a child is if I'm wearing a swimsuit or is naked when you see the stretch marks. That's really the only way you could tell that I was with a child before. I just wish my stomach used to be tight and smooth, not filled with old scars of stretch marks. That's all my fault really, not drinking enough water!

 

[Jolie77]

After having the kids - It has definitely changed my life.

As for the physical aspect - It has changed in a way. I still have some old stretch marks that are barely unseen but it's there. I've noticed that I've got some few grey hairs on me.

As for the feeling part - It makes me feel much older than I am at my age but then again, who doesn't feel old when they age too? Heh.

I also have noticed that my menstruation cycle and the cramps are much different. Before I had the kids, my cycle was not on a regular track and with the cramps, it was not that bad. After having the kids, my cycle is on track but with the cramps - ugh - some of the time, it can be unbearable.

I suppose, it depends on each women to it's own.