Wishing her good luck?

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As many of you may know, I'm no longer in a relationship with my girlfriend. We've went our separate way. When I was with my girlfriend, I got to meet the woman who babysat for my girlfriend when she was a baby. I met a lot of nice people through my (now ex)girlfriend.

This woman is now dealing with cancer. She is going through chemo and battling it. I want to wish her good luck. A part of me feel that is nice thing to do even though I'm no longer with girlfriend. A part of me feel it's kind of rude to get in way since I'm no longer with my girlfriend.

What would you do?
 
dereksbicycles said:
As many of you may know, I'm no longer in a relationship with my girlfriend. We've went our separate way. When I was with my girlfriend, I got to meet the woman who babysat for my girlfriend when she was a baby. I met a lot of nice people through my (now ex)girlfriend.

This woman is now dealing with cancer. She is going through chemo and battling it. I want to wish her good luck. A part of me feel that is nice thing to do even though I'm no longer with girlfriend. A part of me feel it's kind of rude to get in way since I'm no longer with my girlfriend.

What would you do?
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I would visit her. She'd appreciate it... I think. I mean, this is your last shot seeing her. This is once-in-lifetime chance that you wouldn't be able to come back to.


Normally, when it comes to me, I'd leave her and let her burn. I'd ask doctor for a quick euthanasia session. I've had enough bullshit of girls.
 
I agree, if she was nice then she is most likely nice now. Maybe send her a card letting her know your thinking of her. Those always make me feel a little better.

Yes I understood it is not your girlfriend!!!
 
Lukin said:
I would visit her. She'd appreciate it... I think. I mean, this is your last shot seeing her. This is once-in-lifetime chance that you wouldn't be able to come back to.


Normally, when it comes to me, I'd leave her and let her burn. I'd ask doctor for a quick euthanasia session. I've had enough bullshit of girls.
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I hope I make it clear that it's not my ex girlfriend who has cancer. It's my ex girlfriend's former baby sitter. We've spent sometimes with her when I was with my girlfriend.
 
Find an appropriate way to send a card, but don't show up in person unless that person responds that she would like to see you.

You are no longer with your girlfriend and that circle of friends is hers.
 
If the Lady is in the hospital...I would send her a bouquet of flowers and a card...letting her know it was a pleasure meeting her and you wished her the very best....And thinking it might be sort of awkward if you went to visit and ur girlfriend was there at the same time....but again, if you both parted on good terms, then it might be OK....

It's a very nice gesture of you, Derek!
 
I was planning to merely send message via facebook just to wish her the best luck. I don't plan to visit her.
 
dereksbicycles said:
As many of you may know, I'm no longer in a relationship with my girlfriend. We've went our separate way. When I was with my girlfriend, I got to meet the woman who babysat for my girlfriend when she was a baby. I met a lot of nice people through my (now ex)girlfriend.

This woman is now dealing with cancer. She is going through chemo and battling it. I want to wish her good luck. A part of me feel that is nice thing to do even though I'm no longer with girlfriend. A part of me feel it's kind of rude to get in way since I'm no longer with my girlfriend.

What would you do?
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I think sending a note with a box of chocolates or gift basket -as flowers might not be allowed due to possibility of bringing in germs on them -
is a nice gesture.

Do let her know thru your mutual acquaintances you are ready to see her if only she wishes so - that is, if you are willing to do this.

Fuzzy
 
dereksbicycles said:
As many of you may know, I'm no longer in a relationship with my girlfriend. We've went our separate way. When I was with my girlfriend, I got to meet the woman who babysat for my girlfriend when she was a baby. I met a lot of nice people through my (now ex)girlfriend.

This woman is now dealing with cancer. She is going through chemo and battling it. I want to wish her good luck. A part of me feel that is nice thing to do even though I'm no longer with girlfriend. A part of me feel it's kind of rude to get in way since I'm no longer with my girlfriend.

What would you do?
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There's nothing rude about wishing people well in their illness. We have a woman in our condo that's sadly dying and just about no one goes to visit her. My mother does, although she was a nurse. She worries about her and no matter how awful she feels, company cheers her. People are so afraid of death they neglect that people are still living and in need of comfort. Just hearing a kind word and showing that you care means a lot to those seriously ill. Why would you have to still be with your girlfriend to be kind?

Laura
 
Audiofuzzy said:
I think sending a note with a box of chocolates or gift basket -as flowers might not be allowed due to possibility of bringing in germs on them -
is a nice gesture.

Do let her know thru your mutual acquaintances you are ready to see her if only she wishes so - that is, if you are willing to do this.

Fuzzy
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If she has Cancer and is going through treatments, she may not be able to eat, so chocolates or food in general, might be out of the question. The woman I know dealing with it is unable to eat at this point. Flowers, a visit, a card, are all appreciated, even if a person is dealing with the side effects of Chemo....
 
I went to an ex's aunt's wake. I went for her. Had nothing to do with him. Do what you are comfortable with.
 
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