Why online comment are so toxic

Jiro said:
I see that my post has been removed - probably by mistake but I'll restate it here.

"I am aware of certain constraints (financially, medically, etc.) that prevent ADer from meeting other ADer and that's ok with me. There are a lot of ADers who have never met with other ADers but most of time - they usually get along just fine with everybody else in AD. I know they do want to meet with other ADers but they just simply can't for time being. I have no problem with that.

However, there are some ADers who have absolutely no interest in meeting with other ADer and most of time in AD, they are just causing problems and creating arguments. Hence..... a troublemaker or an agitator. That's precisely what Post #1 is all about. Easy for them to make trouble when they're anonymous.

Many of us in AD knows each other and I believe that's what contributes to AD's well-being as a community. Look at bunch of other deaf forums. They didn't last as long as AD because it was full of anonymous people being vicious with each other."

Please use your common sense. You are much older than me so you should be old enough to understand what I'm trying to say unless you're being too literal and see everything too linearly. I'll repeat for you in a very simple term - "If you have absolutely no interest in meeting with any of us and you have "I don't give a shit" attitude and most of your time in here is making problem... then you're a troublemaker and an agitator." Is that simple enough for you to understand? Do you understand?
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Perhaps you needed to use more simple wording in the beginning, Jiro.....or either you are back-pedaling.....but anyhow, I don't see any members who are here to start trouble or be agitative....we all have a right to our opinions, and to state them....a lot of members are here for information....some for clarity....some for help...some for friendship...some are lonely....the list goes on and on. I believe the Mods clean up very well....and feel to point a finger at "some" members who you or someone "thinks" are troublemakers and agitators....just don't feel it's your place to do so....Just report to the Mods.
 
rockin'robin said:
Perhaps you needed to use more simple wording in the beginning, Jiro.....or either you are back-pedaling.....but anyhow, I don't see any members who are here to start trouble or be agitative....we all have a right to our opinions, and to state them....a lot of members are here for information....some for clarity....some for help...some for friendship...some are lonely....the list goes on and on. I believe the Mods clean up very well....and feel to point a finger at "some" members who you or someone "thinks" are troublemakers and agitators....just don't feel it's your place to do so....Just report to the Mods.
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1. it was simple enough. perhaps too simple that some of you took offense to it and I have no idea why since I've never pointed finger at someone.
2. I've never mentioned a specific person
3. you are contradicting yourself. you stated that we all have a right to our opinions and to state them.... so why can't I state my opinion? I've never pointed a finger at someone.
4. I do report trolls to mods
 
I'm new here, but the fact that Jiro has mentioned the above without mod status makes me wonder.
 
Jiro said:
1. it was simple enough. perhaps too simple that some of you took offense to it and I have no idea why since I've never pointed finger at someone.
2. I've never mentioned a specific person
3. you are contradicting yourself. you stated that we all have a right to our opinions and to state them.... so why can't I state my opinion? I've never pointed a finger at someone.
4. I do report trolls to mods
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Number 3....No, you didn't mention a specific person...just "some members"....which I replied to (in case I was one of the members you were posting about)....since I could not at the time meet you in person....Then you replied that I was not a troublemaker or an agitator....so it leaves many members up in the air....wondering who you are actually implying to....

Feel sometimes it's just best to bite the bullet and leave it all be....
 
The thread title is actually living up to it's name. That's how toxic it has became. :lol:
 
S.O.B. said:
I'm new here, but the fact that Jiro has mentioned the above without mod status makes me wonder.
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You've got 512 posts in your four years here. That's far from new, and if you think Jiro is bossy without being a mod, obviously you haven't met me.

Why don't you think people can express their opinions without mod status?

I wouldn't want to be on a forum where the mods were the only ones allowed to speak out.
 
Bottesini said:
You've got 512 posts in your four years here. That's far from new, and if you think Jiro is bossy without being a mod, obviously you haven't met me.

Why don't you think people can express their opinions without mod status?

I wouldn't want to be on a forum where the mods were the
only ones allowed to speak out.
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I recall you which I am aware of your approach to other posters. Reread what I just meant, or are you looking to escalate what was already established here?
 
Jiro does have a point. His opinon may be a little strong and a little bit forward to some but it is his opinon nonetheless and i don't think he meant for it to offend or upset anybody.
 
S.O.B. said:
I recall you which I am aware of your approach to other posters. Reread what I just meant, or are you looking to escalate what was already established here?
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or you can clarify what you meant.
 
MushyCookies said:
Jiro does have a point. His opinon may be a little strong and a little bit forward to some but it is his opinon nonetheless and i don't think he meant for it to offend or upset anybody.
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Exactly, I made mine like Jiro does his, if he wants to respond "in kind", I respect that. Others to whom I did not direct an opinion towards to talking for him, that says there are other things in mind.
 
S.O.B. said:
Exactly, I made mine like Jiro does his, if he wants to respond "in kind", I respect that. Others to whom I did not direct an opinion towards to talking for him, that says there are other things in mind.
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the difference between your post and mine is that mine is more direct and to the point.

I have absolutely no idea what you're trying to say....... it's so vague and confusing.
 
Jiro said:
or you can clarify what you meant.
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I came upon some rules or ideas explaining your opinion on what makes someone legit, reminded me of mod enforcement, nothing more. You know what? I think the necessary points have been made, I hint for :locked:
 
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S.O.B. said:
Jiro said:
or you can clarify what you meant.
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I came upon some rules or ideas explaining your opinion on what makes someone legit, reminded me of mod enforcement, nothing more. You know what? I think the necessary points have been made, I hint for :locked:
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The mod will put warning or lock if you continue those lock icons. Best to keep this thread healthy in debate.
 
S.O.B. said:
I came upon some rules or ideas explaining your opinion on what makes someone legit, reminded me of mod enforcement, nothing more. You know what? I think the necessary points have been made, I hint for :locked:
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this thread isn't about whether or not if an ADer is legit. I mean... obviously every ADer in here is a real human... right? :lol:

this thread is about people being trolls, troublemakers, agitators, haters, etc. because of online anonymity.
Online anonymity creates a sense of a culture without consequences.
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most troublemakers/agitators in AD have:

1. never met any of us
2. never bothered to meet any of us
3. never made any effort to meet any of us
4. never had any interest in being "online friend" with any of us
5. never wanted to share any of their personal stuff such as stating their home state or posting a pix of themselves in avator or pix thread
6. never wanted nor had any intention to get along with any of us in AD

I don't understand why a person would be so mean and hateful online when they aren't mean in real life. It boggles me and it's extremely disturbing.

"Social psychologists have known for decades that, if we reduce our sense of our own identity -- a process called deindividuation -- we are less likely to stick to social norms," wrote Michael Marshall in New Scientist . "The same thing happens with online communication... Psychologically, we are 'distant' from the person we're talking to and less focused on our own identity. As a result we're more prone to aggressive behavior."
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like I said previously - many ADers know each other in real life.... therefore creating a community where AD is more civilized and harmonious despite of a few bad eggs. beside - every society has a few bad eggs anyway.
One of the strangest things about the commenters from that Brooklyn blog was that many of them had in-person relationships. They held regular meetups in local bars, attaching a face, if not their real names, to their screen personas. And for a few days after these gatherings, the comments would be less vitriolic, as if the civility of the evening leaked onto the virtual pages of our site.
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Jiro said:
this thread isn't about whether or not if an ADer is legit. I mean... obviously every ADer in here is a real human... right? :lol:

this thread is about people being trolls, troublemakers, agitators, haters, etc. becau,se of online anonymity.


most troublemakers/agitators in AD have:

1. never met any of us
2. never bothered to meet any of us
3. never made any effort to meet any of us
4. never had any interest in being "online friend" with any of us
5. never wanted to share any of their personal stuff such as stating their home state or posting a pix of themselves in avator or pix thread
6. never wanted nor had any intention to get along with any of us in AD

I don't understand why a person would be so mean and hateful online when they aren't mean in real life. It boggles me and it's extremely disturbing.



like I said previously - many ADers know each other in real life.... therefore creating a community where AD is more civilized and harmonious despite of a few bad eggs. beside - every society has a few bad eggs anyway.
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I've read the above posted, sir, I stick to my posts. :D
 
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