When you get a pm from another member of the forum(s)..

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and they tell you that you post same thread on other forums and just want attention. And that it's pity, aint it?


Well, it happened to me, and when I read this, it broke me into tears. How could someone think that I am doing it for attention?

Is it wrong that I can make the same threads in some forums for fun or vent? I was only posting about SC and my family that was it.

I felt like I was being attacked! :mad:

Now I am still hurting and in tears!!! :tears:
 
INGORE THEM!!!!!!!!! Pity on them.. What comes around will come around!! They did it to me...On the cochlear implant thread! Im not going to call out the names!!!!!!! Shame on them and it's a free world to say what is on our mind....

I hope you are okay sarah!!

missed talking to you! :grouphug:

Im here if you need someone to talk to!! Just im me on aol or just pm on ad :angel:
 
Ignore it Kat!! and think to your self the real reason why you did it. know it your heart your intentions and keep thinking of them and maybe why they were good. It also may be that the subject u posted about hits close to home. :hug: Good luck girl and be strong!
 
yeah, just ignore them. They don't have any reason to attack you in the PM. Sorry to hear about it. :hug:
 
Don't let it get to you...simply post however you feel as long as it is within the guidelines for AD. ;)

I'm sure there are members here (and elsewhere online) that likes to share with quite a few people (not just only at one place online) and there's nothing wrong with that. ;)

Sooo, get your hubby and have him wipe away those tears and keep going however you've been doing as long as you're up to it. :)
 
Okay, Felixkat.

Don't get upset or anything, okay? I'll tell you what I've noticed so far and I'll tell you truth, nothing but all truth, ok? Seems you have been making lot of "negative" threads, not much of postitive threads. You know sometimes you need to keep 'personal' stuff to yourself. We don't need to know about your daily personal problems with your 'private' life. If you need somebody to talk to, I suggest you to talk to someone on AIM or in real life friend or somebody instead of making a new thread every problems you are having. For example, here's those threads you made I put down here and don't you see that's lot of negatives? It could 'turn-off' some people and lose their interest to read your thread, like they don't want to read or to hear anymore of it. I understand you may be very sensitive person but sometimes its best to keep it to yourself, keep your problems out of here or something and talk to someone on IM or in real person in real life instead, you know? I'm just helping you.


Those threads you made (negatives):

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29843

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29843

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29838

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29814

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29614

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29323

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29405

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=28685

there's much more but you get it what i'm trying to make a point here. :)
 
AnnyGuy said:
Okay, Felixkat.

Don't get upset or anything, okay? I'll tell you what I've noticed so far and I'll tell you truth, nothing but all truth, ok? Seems you have been making lot of "negative" threads, not much of postitive threads. You know sometimes you need to keep 'personal' stuff to yourself. We don't need to know about your daily personal problems with your 'private' life. If you need somebody to talk to, I suggest you to talk to someone on AIM or in real life friend or somebody instead of making a new thread every problems you are having. For example, here's those threads you made I put down here and don't you see that's lot of negatives? It could 'turn-off' some people and lose their interest to read your thread, like they don't want to read or to hear anymore of it. I understand you may be very sensitive person but sometimes its best to keep it to yourself, keep your problems out of here or something and talk to someone on IM or in real person in real life instead, you know? I'm just helping you.


Those threads you made (negatives):

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29843

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29843

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29838

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29814

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29614

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29323

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29405

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=28685

there's much more but you get it what i'm trying to make a point here. :)
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True but sometimes she needs someone to talk to ya know... But I do get your point here... But I told her while back there are some things that she will have to handle herself...
 
I've gotten a few of these, mostly from hearing parents of implanted children. I would just ignore most of them, but if it is clear harassment, I forward it to a mod or Alex.

If I have a problem with another member, though, I don't send them hate messages. I only PM people to compliment them, especially if I want to get to know them (in a friendly way), or if I already know the person. I never PM people just to criticize them.
 
Just forward to Alex or moderators then they can control this issues.

Sarah... It's alright :hug:
 
AnnyGuy said:
Okay, Felixkat.

Don't get upset or anything, okay? I'll tell you what I've noticed so far and I'll tell you truth, nothing but all truth, ok? Seems you have been making lot of "negative" threads, not much of postitive threads. You know sometimes you need to keep 'personal' stuff to yourself. We don't need to know about your daily personal problems with your 'private' life. If you need somebody to talk to, I suggest you to talk to someone on AIM or in real life friend or somebody instead of making a new thread every problems you are having. For example, here's those threads you made I put down here and don't you see that's lot of negatives? It could 'turn-off' some people and lose their interest to read your thread, like they don't want to read or to hear anymore of it. I understand you may be very sensitive person but sometimes its best to keep it to yourself, keep your problems out of here or something and talk to someone on IM or in real person in real life instead, you know? I'm just helping you.


Those threads you made (negatives):

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29843

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29843

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29838

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29814

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29614

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29323

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=29405

http://alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=28685

there's much more but you get it what i'm trying to make a point here. :)
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I don't see anyone else complaining about those threads except for yourself.

If you don't like her threads, then DON'T read them.

You don't need to be so rude about it.

And whether her threads are wrong or not are up to the MODERATORS not you.
 
FelixKat930 said:
and they tell you that you post same thread on other forums and just want attention. And that it's pity, aint it?


Well, it happened to me, and when I read this, it broke me into tears. How could someone think that I am doing it for attention?

Is it wrong that I can make the same threads in some forums for fun or vent? I was only posting about SC and my family that was it.

I felt like I was being attacked! :mad:

Now I am still hurting and in tears!!! :tears:
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Don't pay attention to that crap...your threads are fine. :)
 
I'm new here , but from my experience on other forums I was also attacked by another memeber on a subtle different topic and in the end I actually ignored them .. I sent a pm to the board admin asking how I could add the user to the ignore list and when I was asked about that particular member I just said I never wanted to hear from him .. Now all is fine...
 
LuciaDisturbed said:
I don't see anyone else complaining about those threads except for yourself.

If you don't like her threads, then DON'T read them.

You don't need to be so rude about it.

And whether her threads are wrong or not are up to the MODERATORS not you.
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:ugh2: No, I'm not being rude. I'm just giving an OPINION which I am ENTITLED to, what I see and can't I give her bit of advice and can't I help her? :hyper: Maybe she might did not realize it so I thought maybe I should point it out and make her go, oh hmmm, I didn't realize that, etc. And no, I'm not complaining. I am sure that I'm not only one who notice it but they probably did not want to bring that up or whatever. No big deal. No harm done. I'm just helping her out thats all and find a way to solve problems or whatever. :)
 
Sarah

Posting in forums means that you will meet people from all kinds of lifestyles and opinions.

You have to develop a thick skin and ignore these who dont agree with you or belittle you. You cannot expect everyone to agree with you. If someone doesnt agree with you, you have to decide whether it is worth shedding a few tears or getting all upset over.

Granted you have a right to get upset if someone DO attack you - simply forward that to Mods. I have been attacked over and over. But I take the risk because I am still posting away in forums.

AnnyGuy is right on many counts - he is simply offering you his advice. Forums are not places to post confidential information - only because we have to protect ourselves out there. Internet is a scary place so the less information you give out about yourself, the more safe you are.

Hang in there
 
Sarah, I am sorry about you are hurt. I posted one time that I told you that I understand how you feel and I was in your shoes. You never say anything to me back. I didnt complain about it. I dont let myself to get upset. Think postive. I agree with Annaguy.
 
FelixKat930 said:
and they tell you that you post same thread on other forums and just want attention. And that it's pity, aint it?


Well, it happened to me, and when I read this, it broke me into tears. How could someone think that I am doing it for attention?

Is it wrong that I can make the same threads in some forums for fun or vent? I was only posting about SC and my family that was it.

I felt like I was being attacked! :mad:

Now I am still hurting and in tears!!! :tears:
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Sarah, just add a specific member to your ignore list if you dont wanna hear a comment from that person... You have many friends so ignore them. I dont take everything too seriously, just be carefully and you might be attacked on some of the threads but just ignore them or report them to one of the Mods... :angel:
 
I am sorry to hear that you are upset that someone attacked you in PM. However, I hate to say this, I agree with Annyguy and Gemtun..they made some points. Be careful when you create any threads, so some people can use them against you. Your threads are not bad to me really.. Just be careful.
 
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