What first impression do you give out when a person meets you?

[deafannieboo]

Babyblue

What I hate are the "Iam so sorry!" and then walk away. Ok whatever. :roll:

haha, yeah the worst thing is when people tell me u dont look deaf! i just wanna say thats funny u dont look stupid. wonders never cease! lol
its just lack of understanding is all!

 

[SeanB]

No problems are encountered today, besides, many don't know how to approach a deaf individual, so I assist them on how best to communicate with me. When I was younger, I had people perform charades to make their point. It was really stupid, but hilarious! One time, some guy was trying to ask me where the restroom was located, I gestured I didn't understand, so then he proceeded to enact the act itself!

 

[shel90]

Sometimes if I meet someone for the first time they notice that I'm looking at their lips and ask me why. then I tell them that I'm hoh some people are okay with it some are not, like I said in another thread what piss me off is that I get that ' Nevermind' :roll:

Lately, I have become aggressive with those who say "nevermind". I used to let it slide but recently, I have been saying "No, No..u are not going to get away with telling me nevermind. Please repeat what u just said and we will continue to communicate."

I guess after all those years, I am fed up so I am refusing to let hearing people get away with it. Even strangers...

 

[rockin'robin]

I admit, I have lightly "tapped" a hearie's hand when they said..."Oh, never mind"!...and I said...."don't say that!!" and shake my head, and ask them to pls. repeat what they said........that embarrassed them....but I was being firm about it.

There were times when I was younger that I felt so isolated...and became depressed due to some hearies responses to the fact I was deaf....But, time marches on!...I don't let it bother me as much, telling myself if someone says "never mind"....then it really was not worth knowing what they said.

Back to the times, where these "Healing Preachers" were supposedly "healing people"....I did have someone grab my ears....and say "Heal"....Got a out of me!

I've also had one man, who was "overly religious" at work....who told me FLAT OUT in the cafeteria that..."God did not make me Deaf....that the Devil did"!!...So that did make me so very angry....I just walked off.

 

[whatdidyousay!]

Yes, I have....even one guy wrote on some paper..."Can you read"?....Neverless, I do try to be "friendly" and in some small cases overlook a hearie who is somewhat rude, knowing that they just don't know how to respond....even tho' it's 2009 !! A sense of humor can solve things sometimes.

This remind me when a cop came up to my car and said" Are you deaf !" And I said " No I am HOH ! " Boy that cop was so embarassed! He just walked away!

 

[Babyblue]

This remind me when a cop came up to my car and said" Are you deaf !" And I said " No I am HOH ! " Boy that cop was so embarassed! He just walked away!

That was funny.

I have had people approach me, irritated, and would ask me "Are you Deaf?" I would say yeah..

They would be either Apologetic or they would have that "OMG shocked" looked the truly embarrassed one.

 

[rockin'robin]

This remind me when a cop came up to my car and said" Are you deaf !" And I said " No I am HOH ! " Boy that cop was so embarassed! He just walked away!

HAHAHAHAHAHA!....Good one!

 

[MoonDrifter]

Usually people ask me about my CI and show their curiosity as to how it works. I haven't had a bad experience yet.

 

[Loghead]

I never explain to people that I am HOH (because I never think to tell anyone... I forget about it most of the time). They usually just figure it out for themselves. I remember one time, maybe in last October, I was talking about something regarding my hearing aids and then a good friend of mine asked me, "Yeah, so what are those things in your ears," then I explained it to him and he goes, "So that's what those things are in your ear!" At first I was thinking, "Are you slow?" But I think it would be fair to explain earlier on in the friendship that I do not wear plugs in my ears as fashion statements.

I have had people ask my friends if I could talk. I also have had people ask if I was mentally retarded.

 

[Bottesini]

I have had people ask my friends if I could talk. I also have had people ask if I was mentally retarded.

You are not the only one! Those have happened to me more than once.

And as it was pointed out about me earlier today, I am multihandicapped.

So actually in real life, I am often half hiding behind a family member, which probably increases the problem.

Oh well, I am a dynamite internet correspondent!
Yay me!

 

[Bebonang]

Jillio! I had the same happened to me.

I went to a service. With my Aunt... They said if I had enough faith. I could be cured.

The pastor blamed me for not having enough faith. That is why it did not work.

It majorly pissed me off.


I was 12 at the time....

You and Jillio's son are not the only ones, I remembered when I was little (don't remember how old I was, probably about 5 or 6 years old ). My mother and I were on the bus, there was a young woman putting her hand on my shoulder and seem to pray over me. I looked at her and then at my mother. I just sat still until she removed her hand. I was kind of puzzled and relieved that she did not do anything to me. Later when I got older like 12years old I had asked my mom about the incident on the bus. She told me that the woman who put her hand on my shoulder to pray that she want to cure for me to open my ears so that I can hear and understand people's languages. I thought she was weird back then. She was very religious. :roll:

 

[Loghead]

You are not the only one! Those have happened to me more than once.

And as it was pointed out about me earlier today, I am multihandicapped.

So actually in real life, I am often half hiding behind a family member, which probably increases the problem.

Oh well, I am a dynamite internet correspondent!
Yay me!

What do you mean by multihandicapped Bott? And what do you mean by riding behind family members?

 

[Bottesini]

What do you mean by multihandicapped Bott? And what do you mean by riding behind family members?

I have Asperger's syndrome. It is just a problem mostly with social interaction.

I meant "Hiding". I meant literally I am usually standing behind someone. I am extremely shy.

 

[dogmom]

I am shy too, Bott

 

[dogmom]

since we're discussing first impressions - when I tell folks I have LD, I've often been told - oh but you seemed smart-

 

[Loghead]

I have Asperger's syndrome. It is just a problem mostly with social interaction.

I meant "Hiding". I meant literally I am usually standing behind someone. I am extremely shy.

I know someone else with Asperger's syndrome. He is an old best friend of mine... not anymore though. He was a really nice guy, just had a couple added issues other than the Asperger's. I am a very shy person too. I have social anxieties that I am constantly trying to overcome.

 

[Bottesini]

I know someone else with Asperger's syndrome. He is an old best friend of mine... not anymore though. He was a really nice guy, just had a couple added issues other than the Asperger's. I am a very shy person too. I have social anxieties that I am constantly trying to overcome.

Well at least we are all in good company here most of the time.

You too dogmom.

 

[Phi4Sius]

I've always been outgoing and confident and have always been able to make people comfortable around me. However, with the recent deterioration of my hearing, I've become significantly more withdrawn and isolated.

I'm considering not telling people anymore about my severe-profound hoh. Everytime I've told someone about it they stop talking to me. The only time that hasn't happened is at work. Either I work with really great people, or it's such an environment that they can't really do anything about that there either. Buwahahahaha.

 

[MoonDrifter]

I'm shy at first, easygoing later. In an ongoing friendship, I'm the group clown.

 

[gaparker]

Easy...Just a nice face expression like smile a little with eye brow raised. Sometime when I do that and customers would sudden said that I look like Bill Murray. Oh funny. After smiling then I will gesture little more as more different face expression as go on. Two days ago, I have eye examine as I keep teasing other staff and doctor as have fun. As I am ready to go home, everyone in office look direct at me with big smile to me as they don't do that to many other people while I sit waiting for doctor.