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In the email, just get straight to the point of the email such as scheduling a day to meetup and do something fun together, ignore her comments about how she sacrificed a nursing career to raise a special needs child. It was HER decision to give up nursing to stay at home last I checked ADD wasn't a disease or disorder that required the parent to stay at home. It could be maintained through consistent discipline and medications to help the child focus during school. Ignore her comments, it will drive her insane, and she may do it more often for a short while in an attempt to get more attention, keep ignoring it and eventually she'll drop the issue altogether with you. When she brings it up in conversation politely change the subject without giving in to her comment.
Like for instance
You: I can't believe Joe and I have been married for 10 years this June. Wow, time goes by fast.
MIL: I know, but I was always a bit concerned about how you would fare with his ADD and being a special needs person. I know I sacrificed a lot and it was hard, you just have to watch him.
You: Hmmm, well I guess I need to get some shopping done at Wal-Mart, I guess I'll see you sometime when you're around?
Then you just leave her there hanging. She'll be like "did I offend her so she had to leave?" YES, but you did so in a polite way. The more you switch topics or just leave the conversation altogether when she brings this up, the more she'll learn to NOT bring it up if she wants to continue hanging around you.
Like for instance
You: I can't believe Joe and I have been married for 10 years this June. Wow, time goes by fast.
MIL: I know, but I was always a bit concerned about how you would fare with his ADD and being a special needs person. I know I sacrificed a lot and it was hard, you just have to watch him.
You: Hmmm, well I guess I need to get some shopping done at Wal-Mart, I guess I'll see you sometime when you're around?
Then you just leave her there hanging. She'll be like "did I offend her so she had to leave?" YES, but you did so in a polite way. The more you switch topics or just leave the conversation altogether when she brings this up, the more she'll learn to NOT bring it up if she wants to continue hanging around you.
