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God sometimes I just want to hang up on her.
She acts all sneer, and snotty. Sometimes I really wonder
who is the parent and the child? Anyhow she called to see if
I wanted to go out for breakfast, I told her I don't think that is
possible since I have to clean the house, I have an appt at one.
I am bathing my middlest to go to school for 11:05. Then I am taking
my littlest to the park ~ like I promised her!~ Then appt. takes until 2...
Hub is coming to get us at 2:30~3 and then I have to get my middlest
either at 2:45 or 3:10. THEN we have to go buy the parts for the van,
and fix it.

I said I am really sorry but I don't think it is going to work. She goes, yea I know nothing ever works, I was going to ask you to come over for dinner. But that won't work either. She goes, well I have LOTS of people that want to join me for breakfast, and I am not going to be all upset just because you don't want to. (TRYING TO MAKE ME FEEL SO DAMN GUILTY!!!)

WE were stuck out in the county yesterday because the van broke down. We had to swap cars at hub's parents. Sleep over because the girls were already sleeping in the van while we were being towed. WE didn't get home until 10-11pm lastnight.

So frustrating today! OH well, I am going to relax after I take the lil one to the park. Get some treats for her, and a coffee for me. Relax by the water while she plays. :angel: Too bad no on here couldn't join me.
 
Just relax and do what you must do and take a raincheck. ;) Hope the rest of your day goes well. Now, pass some bacon please...and ohh, the jelly for my toast too. :D
 
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Cool, thanks...and that sure was the right kind of jam too. Mmmm...dang, now I'm really hungry...cyberfood isn't quite helpful! :lol:
 
Heart2Sign --

I know how you feel. Been through that and done in the past with in laws. You have friends here who you could talk to ... just to get off your chest and we will be here to listen.
You are really grand young lady ! I am really glad to meet you through this AD. :hug:

Try to think positive as a new day brings. I will do the same, because I couldn't sleep for a few days due to anxious about flyin' out to Alaska very soooon.... on May 5th, Friday. This weekend, I will pack my computer in and, then will need to borrow my bf's computer to use for awhile until May 5th.

Keep in touch with friends here. :)
 
Just try and relax and enjoy your day with your child. Don't mind your ma as my ma is like that sometimes. I just ingore her and carry on with my own family until she comes to her sense that you are not a child anymore. Also your ma should understand you have a hubby and children now. They come first before your ma. Try not to let her upset you in anyways. :cuddle: Do you feel any better now?? :cheers:
 
CyberRed, One of our friends lived in Alaska.
They loved it. Are you staying there permantly?
I appreciate your friendship too. I try not to let it bother me.
But there are those days LOL. :pissed:

Anyhow the middlest is off to school, it's really cold out right now so I don't think I am going to take her to the park right now. I will probably pop in a movie and watch something with her after we go to the corner store and get her some treats.

Hey by the way CyberRed? Do you have AIM?

Thanks everyone, Love ya lot.
I needed to just get it off my chest.
It's a battle sometimes with Mom being so up and down like that.
 
:hug: :hug: Why does she always do this to you? Your mom has to remember what it was like raising children, when you were younger. It hasn't changed much. You have a family now, and if you have to refuse, then she should be understanding about it. Hang in there Heart2Sign, it will get better.
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You did the right thing by putting your kids first! Its been a stressful night for you last night and then come today.. your mother made it worse for ya. Just go do your thing like you planned today! going to the park sounds nice and a good place to relax too!
 
yeah children comes first, but sometime ur mom feel lonely that her kids are grow up and want to spend with you all. Maybe one day you will join w/ her in dinner to surprise her sometime. Sorry about van last nite. Its frustarted i betcha.
 
Heart2Sign said:
CyberRed, One of our friends lived in Alaska.
They loved it. Are you staying there permantly?

I will LIVE in Juneau, Alaska as resident. :)
I appreciate your friendship too. I try not to let it bother me.
But there are those days LOL. :pissed:

Oh, yeah - I can understand that part, too. I don't blame you.

Anyhow the middlest is off to school, it's really cold out right now so I don't think I am going to take her to the park right now. I will probably pop in a movie and watch something with her after we go to the corner store and get her some treats.

Hey by the way CyberRed? Do you have AIM?

Yes, I do have AIM. Check your PM for my AIM screen name. ;) Thanks ! :D

Thanks everyone, Love ya lot.
I needed to just get it off my chest.
It's a battle sometimes with Mom being so up and down like that.
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Love ya, too ! Take it easy and try to take one day at a time. :hug:
 
I do understand how your feelings, but your mom might want to see you and your family since she miss you guys?
 
Well, I hate to say this... you should be glad that she wants you guys to visit to spend some time together. I think you should try your best to find time to spend time with your mom and grandchildren to see their grandmother as well. Try to see her as much as you can. You know, you will never know when she'll be "gone" and you will regret it big time. I'm sure you don't want that, right? She just loves you very much and misses you very much and want to see her grandchildren too.
 
AnnyGuy said:
Well, I hate to say this... you should be glad that she wants you guys to visit to spend some time together. I think you should try your best to find time to spend time with your mom and grandchildren to see their grandmother as well. Try to see her as much as you can. You know, you will never know when she'll be "gone" and you will regret it big time. I'm sure you don't want that, right? She just loves you very much and misses you very much and want to see her grandchildren too.
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Very true. Sometimes, both of them need their own space, too. I am not 100% very close to my own mother. I am soo far away from her, because of bad experience that I had. She pushed me away this far. In about a few years ago, I sent her a bunch of flowers in one large vase to her house through the Florist Store. Guess what ? She cried and all of my siblings were like this -- > :ugh: because, they never saw her cry like this for years and I didn't keep in touch with my mom for years as well until that day I sent her.. just to show that I don't forget her. I am the only one who kept distant from my own family ( my parents and siblings ). I don't like the idea of hangin'/livin' around them when they are bickerin' or complainin' or arguin' with each other.
 
Don't get me wrong, I love my mother. Just sometimes she comes over every single day. Hub has been working 2 jobs. I am a full time mom of 3 girls.

I am trying to make sure everything has it's balance. If she comes over, she isn't the kind to help me out around the house. She expects me to sit and chat. Well, as a mom I don't have time for that. We go out on our own at times, and there are times I invite her over to have dinner. But one thing you have to realize, there is a time for everything.


Just because I don't want her to come over, doesn't mean I don't think of her, or appreciate her, or that I am rejecting her. She is over a lot. My family comes first above all else in my life. My hub, my girls and myself. If I am not up to par I cannot give my hub the support he needs as well as my own children. I am the rock of the family sort of speaking at times when he is down (exausted and tired) I have to be the stable one. Yes, we share the load but he works long and tiresome hours.

I will always make time for her, I talk to her on the phone. But like I said, there is a balance. Hub and I need time alone, we got that for the first time in 6 months lastnight. My mother was able to spend quality time after all with them because I suggested that if we were able to go out she could take them overnight. She was thrilled. Kids had a great time.
 
My mom does that to me all the time. She's always giving me guilt trips. :(

For instance, I've been working really late on Saturday night and didn't get home until 5 am because of inventory at work. A couple hours later, my mom wakes me up and says, "Please join us at church." "No," I say, "I'm too tired. I just got back from work." My mom will then say, "Oh, your dad worked so hard on his presentation for work. It would really make him happy if you were to be there and watch his presentation in class at church." ARGH!!!
 
Heart2Sign said:
Don't get me wrong, I love my mother. Just sometimes she comes over every single day. Hub has been working 2 jobs. I am a full time mom of 3 girls.

I am trying to make sure everything has it's balance. If she comes over, she isn't the kind to help me out around the house. She expects me to sit and chat. Well, as a mom I don't have time for that. We go out on our own at times, and there are times I invite her over to have dinner. But one thing you have to realize, there is a time for everything.


Just because I don't want her to come over, doesn't mean I don't think of her, or appreciate her, or that I am rejecting her. She is over a lot. My family comes first above all else in my life. My hub, my girls and myself. If I am not up to par I cannot give my hub the support he needs as well as my own children. I am the rock of the family sort of speaking at times when he is down (exausted and tired) I have to be the stable one. Yes, we share the load but he works long and tiresome hours.

I will always make time for her, I talk to her on the phone. But like I said, there is a balance. Hub and I need time alone, we got that for the first time in 6 months lastnight. My mother was able to spend quality time after all with them because I suggested that if we were able to go out she could take them overnight. She was thrilled. Kids had a great time.
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I totally well-understood. ;)
That's what I mean about givin' yourself and mom a space -- meanin' give each other a break from visitin' each other. I don't like someone to come over to visit me EVERYDAY, either. I need my own space, too. Hate the feelin' of suffocate. LOL
By the way, I am doin' great so far. My life is soo good, but still anxious about flyin' this comin' Friday ( May 5th -- only 6 more days away ). I will use my bf's computer this Monday after I pack my computer things in. Will miss my art stuff in my computer.
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It will take about a week for my computer stuff to arrive in Juneau, Alaska -- perfect timin' when I get there on May 5th. :)
 
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