sketchy roommates?

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apathrev

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Alex is the newest person to move into our house and he is the youngest. For the longest time he's gone out with this girl, Leah, who is friends with all of us. A couple of weeks ago, he came home with a dog without asking anyone in the house except for our head roommate, who told him it was a stupid idea. Now, he doesn't take proper care of it, leaving most of the other roommates to take care of it. Then Friday night, he suddenly breaks up with his girlfriend, and early in the morning, this loud, drunk girl comes over to our house, when Alex is not even here. She ends up staying the night. Next day, all of us end up hearing them having sex in his room in the middle of the day. Next thing I hear is that she is staying here for a couple of nights, and this is without asking anyone. We had a meeting last night, and let him know how we feel, and find out what is going on. Nothing was accomplished. This morning, I wake up and look out my window. My car is parked on the other side at the bottom of the driveway behind everyone else's car, and his is still where it was. Next thing I know, I see him walking out to my car, get in it and with his skanky girlfriend still with him, he reaches over to my passenger seat, and grabs my CD case. I go outside and ask him what is he doing, and he says he was just showing her. A few minutes later I see the skank driving away in her car. I go out to get my school bag to bring it in. When I look at my CD case, one of my CDs is pulled out lying on top of the closed case, and several of my burnt CDs look as if they're missing. What am I supposed to think? What should I do?
 
Ouch! Looks you have a roommate who doesn't have respect for others.

I would sit down and have a talk with Alex, (If I were you along with the other roommates.) Go over the ground rules of respecting properties such as going in your car without ur permission wasn't necessary. And the fact that a girl sleeping over a couple nights instead respecting the privacy of others. I would discuss this matter with my roommates to get their inputs about this situation. Try that and update me on the result, how it all worked out. ;)
 
Cheri said:
Ouch! Looks you have a roommate who doesn't have respect for others.

I would sit down and have a talk with Alex, (If I were you along with the other roommates.) Go over the ground rules of respecting properties such as going in your car without ur permission wasn't necessary. And the fact that a girl sleeping over a couple nights instead respecting the privacy of others. I would discuss this matter with my roommates to get their inputs about this situation. Try that and update me on the result, how it all worked out. ;)
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See that is exactly what we did last night. We all had a meeting with and without him, and we don't feel like we got anywhere. It basically went where Brian, our oldest roommate, expected it to: nowhere. He just told us his side and basically what we wanted to hear so we could just say, don't let it happen again. Everyone in the house agrees that Alex is pretty much like a child.

Moving my car isn't the problem, its just him going through my things. Because we have 6 roommates that live here, and limited parking space, we each have made it where it is expected to leave our keys on the kitchen counter, and if someone has to leave before someone else does, then they just move that car. In this case though, my car was blocking his car, and so he moved mind. What has me puzzled though is that his hasn't moved at all and is in the same place as last night.

This is really frustrating.
 
:shock: ....

Since you and your roommates had discuss this with Alex about the situation and how unhappy you all were with him, yet he hasn't show his part by improving and showing respect when it comes to other people's things like he has to ask first ...If I were you, I would tell him that some of my CD's were missing and I would like them back please, and see what he would say etc. if its not helping the situation or if he's not taking the reasonability for his own action, then you and your roommates will have to decide whether or not if he should still be living there as a roommate...

It is important that Alex know that he has to show respect along with his roommates, when there's no respect, then no one is happy and it wouldn't work...

btw, why did Alex only asked the head of the householder if he could bring a dog home, yet you and the others are paying your share of bills inculding rent, why weren't you all involved in that decision too?
 
I really don't have an answer for anything he's done. He is the youngest out of all of it, and so we all think of him as a child. Maybe we should just treat him like one? As a matter of fact, because he has a smaller bedroom, he pays about 2/3 less rent than the rest of us do, and in the two months he lived there, he hasn't paid a cent yet. I don't think my roommates will kick him out. As much as this sutation sucks, they are very caring people and would not want to send someone on the street to be down in their luck. Alex can be a really cool person, but he's made some terrible decisions, and I don't know how to go about treating it anymore. Talking with him seems to do no good. Because everyone is pretty much equivalent to each other in the house, its not like there is some form of discipline we can enforce. Its not like we're his parents. I just don't know how to handle him anymore.
 
cental34 said:
I really don't have an answer for anything he's done. He is the youngest out of all of it, and so we all think of him as a child. Maybe we should just treat him like one? As a matter of fact, because he has a smaller bedroom, he pays about 2/3 less rent than the rest of us do, and in the two months he lived there, he hasn't paid a cent yet. I don't think my roommates will kick him out. As much as this sutation sucks, they are very caring people and would not want to send someone on the street to be down in their luck. Alex can be a really cool person, but he's made some terrible decisions, and I don't know how to go about treating it anymore. Talking with him seems to do no good. Because everyone is pretty much equivalent to each other in the house, its not like there is some form of discipline we can enforce. Its not like we're his parents. I just don't know how to handle him anymore.
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:hug: I understand how you feel, He has a lot to learn how to be responsible for one, and second how to respect others even their property as going in your car and showing your CD's to his girl. (which he has no business going through your things to begin with)

But on another hand, Someone needs to put their foot down and stick with the ground rules that applied for everyone, being fair. You wouldn't want to live with a roommate who doesn't respect others doesn't matter the age of the person. When they moved out of their family home, they face real life, huge responsible, that's when they have to pay on their own a place to live, food, clothes and etc. If he cannot do those requirements then he is going to take advantage of you guys. Don't let him get away with it just because he is the youngest out of all.
 
Cental if it gets any worse, or it just keeps going on, then have a group meeting and tell him that he needs to start looking for another place to live. so that way you are giving him time to find another place. if like i dont know, after a resonable amount of time, he hasn't found a place yet. then say he look dude, uve got 2 weeks to find a place or we're kicking u out.
 
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