Real Life vs. Internet, General Situations

[KarissaMann05]

I know it's a random question, probably it's a lame one... I just am curious.

In real life, which is it easy to make a new friend or enemy? On Internet, same question as above.

What is the good advice for both questions?

With that reason, I already decided to move out of the state to different state next year, Spring 2010. My personal experience, in real life, I tend to have an enemy first before a friend. Oppositely, on the internet, I tend to have a few friends first then enemies. I don't know why it just does.

My advice is... in real life, not try to be left out of the sociality if you feel overwhelmed by the overcrowded people. Try to move to small group you feel fit in, or you could ask few friends come with you; whenever you feel comfortable to come in and come out.

As for Internet, I don't have really say anything left, so no advice for that.

What about you?

 

[PowerON]

First, I'm set it as my enemy and learn about them and suddenly fall in love or have laught with the,. haaaa haaa.

Seriously, being live far to unknown in distance I discovery someone who can be friend and who can talk each other - share thought in agree or not. Then make leap to meet in person, if we feel trust each other.

Oh wait... are you still my enemy? But I enjoy cuddle you over the coach. waaah, you did a good job. *sniff*

 

[Loghead]

As for real life, I usually make friends way more than enemies. However, I am an introvert and a quiet person, so I tend to stick with my small group of people. It is only now that some people are really getting to know me (I still don't open up a lot about my personal life at all to people in real life). On the Internet I rarely make enemies and make a lot of friends, but I do dislike some people on the Internet like this woman on another forum I frequent that annoys me to no end. :roll: I don't hate anyone, have a few people I dislike, and have more people I like.

 

[Hear Again]

I think it's just as easy to make friends in real life as it is on the Internet. The only exception would be if someone had anxiety or some other issue that made socializing and meeting others difficult. I find it equally rewarding to make friends online as I do in real life. For me, there is no difference between the two. In fact, in some cases, I'm closer to my Internet friends than I am to the ones I know in real life.

 

[Hwy99]

Well, when I meet someone in real person that I didn't know, I tend to get know that person before letting him/her to know me. I am not sure why I feel that way neither, but let me tell you a interesting story:

One of my friend have a friend that have the same birthday as mine, he want to introduce me to her, that girl who have the same birthday as mine. When I met her, I was impressed how similar she was like me even though I didn't realize there are much more. Like she love the Powell's bookstore in Portland, just like me. I asked her if she like the architect, she told me she love it so much. Also she is very interested into the spiritual materials just like me. Evenually, her favorite color was purple, which was my favorite color too. Her philosophy about the government system was just like mine. Her best friend have the same birthday as my mom, while my mom was the most close family member for me than any of the family members.

Also surprisely, she is also an lesbian woman, while I am gay man too. She also can be masculine while mine is opposite with being alittle effeminie.

Only difference is that she was a girl and her birth year and time is different than mine, also she is around 10 years older than me.

We now are good friends, and are still in touch right now.

Sometimes it is really exciting to get know someone in person because the more you get to know that person, the more exciting you get know him/her.

As for the internet friends, well it can be fun to chat with people online, but it doesn't always to be what you expected because even people who are on the internet are just the humans just like you would meet in person. I've met some people from the internet, including that friend who introduced me to that girl who have the same birthday as mine, but now that guy who I met online was not really my type.

Just my opinion, just be yourself and know what you feel comfortable with someone who you are able to talk with and understanding others. It depends on how you trust someone and how they can trust you.

By the way, I didn't know that you are planning to move different state! Wish you a good luck!

 

[shel90]

In real life, I have enough friends. I did have an enemy (my former roommate) but now we are good friends. The only enemy I could think of having is my husband's ex fiance who was also my good friend.

Enemies on the Internet? I sure wouldnt be surprised if I do but I dont stress about it. I would rather be my true self than try to please everyone so they can like me. I used to go out of my way to change who I am so I could have friends...not anymore. Thank god!

 

[MoonDrifter]

It's quite different between real life and the internet. In social situations, you're on the spot as the other person is observing you at all times. On the internet, you have less inhibitions when it comes to social behavior. Since people think they can get way from acting stupid on the internet, they are more prone to follow through with their stupidity or crass rudeness. On site, they fear being scorned or looked down on, therefore they act civil and proper to the best of their abilities. So in essence, anyone you meet will do anything besides being themselves so they can appear better or worse than who they really are. It is their self-esteem that influences their behavior towards people. If you find those who are themselves in any situation, keep them. You don't want someone to lie to you each time you communicate with them.

And most of all, having enemies is not a good thing to have.