Not know what name this...

Thank you, Bebonang. <3
 
Sunshine said:
Pretty much every injury/accident I have last 7 years fault Dallas.

Dallas spend four hours jail. His mom pay bail. His court date March 19.
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Does his mother really understand what he had been doing to you over these years? I can't believe she would bail him out. Personally, I think he should be strung up by his b@!!s.
 
KristinaB said:
Does his mother really understand what he had been doing to you over these years? I can't believe she would bail him out. Personally, I think he should be strung up by his b@!!s.
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I not know what she know. Not talk anyone Dallas family.
 
I'm so glad and relieved that you are somewhere safe now Sunshine.

It DOES take "guts" to get out of an abusive relationship and never ever go back - I am SO VERY PROUD OF YOU !!

You are an amazing, strong, wonderful person !!

You deserve someone who will treat you right, love you properly. I know you'll find that person :)

If you ever want to talk ... send me a PM here and I can give you my IM info and email. Where I live right now, the internet and computer are too slow for ASL video/webcam - so I can only do email and instant messages/PM etc.


BTW - I live in Canada too, I've lived in MB & BC ( if you want to know which city etc, PM me ... I prefer not to give my exact location on the public message board)
 
Sunshine said:
I not know what she know. Not talk anyone Dallas family.
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And it is best that way. A judge obviously believes that your claims are serious and valid. He gave you a restraining order. It might be a good idea to get copies of all the doctor's reports for any of those injuries. I know some of them resulted in an ER visit, stitches, etc. The court should see those.
 
jillio said:
And it is best that way. A judge obviously believes that your claims are serious and valid. He gave you a restraining order. It might be a good idea to get copies of all the doctor's reports for any of those injuries. I know some of them resulted in an ER visit, stitches, etc. The court should see those.
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Even if all them say injury happen other way?
 
Sunshine said:
Even if all them say injury happen other way?
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Yeah I would still get them. The court will understand....they have seen it before sadly. I would take everything that could possibly help and let the court decide what it will consider.
 
Sunshine said:
Even if all them say injury happen other way?
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Yes, get copies even if the when you went to the doctor/ER etc you gave them a different reason than what really happened.
If YOU know that it was because of being hurt by him that's what matters.

The judges/courts (and the specialists they consult with) know that very often people who are being abused have to tell the doctors, police etc "lies" about how they got hurt to protect themselves from getting hurt worse.

The other thing is that sometimes doctors will also make confidential notes on your file (that you wouldn't see, or is a special "code" you wouldn't understand) that says that in their medical opinion the injury etc. may have been caused differently than you said, and they think there's a possibility the injury is from abuse. It's possible something like this might be on some or even most/all of your doctor/ER reports.

If you saw the same doctor many times and that doctor remembers you, they might also agree to testify/submit a written statement that your injuries were consistent with someone being abused.


((hugs))

Stay Safe Sunshine !!

Again - SO proud of you!!
 
Sunny, you were a young teenager when this started. Don't be embarassed because you tried, at the time, to protect the boy you thought you loved. Doctors, and the police and the courts, have seen all that many, many times. You are not the only person that has ever happened to.

Now you've grown into a woman and you've learned you need to protect yourself. That is part of maturing and growing up. The judge, I would hope, will understand that.

He might have a few harsh words for your parents, of course, that they didn't protect you better from Dallas when you were too young to understand what you were getting into.
 
Sunshine said:
Even if all them say injury happen other way?
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Sunny the courts are familiar with abuse cases. They realize that people will try to protect themselves or the abuser by hiding the truth due to fear, and other reasons. I agree take all of your medicall records. I am so thankful that you are safe now :hug:. I pray that you will remain strong. You are a beautiful person Sunny. I am glad you have a great support here.
 
Sunny, I am glad you got yourself out of a bad situation. I have been there and done that before. I stayed in an abusive relationship and lied to to others how I got injured etc. I agree with the others said, take your medical records of the injuries to the courts. A Domestic Violence advocate is helpful in court also. I have been away from him for 11 years now, and I still have an injunction against him.
 
They didn't see your injuries? Or ask about them?

I'm not trying to be harsh, I'm just trying to understand how the parents of a 15 or 16 year old girl would not notice bruises and so forth.
 
Once upon time, Dallas very careful about where bruises. Never face, never visible. Plus, my parents sort of...oblivious me. I pretty much could come home once every six months r with tattoos all over my face, nobody care.
 
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